I threw a party last weekend. I met this hb7 on her way out and i spoke to her, and kino'd, and she kept giving me a lot of IOI's. I didnt number close her because her friend kept pulling her away to leave.

Later that week she adds me on facebook. I never really use facebook to sarge but in this case i figured that her adding me was an IOI. i chatted with her on facebook for around an hour and things were going well, she was asking me tons of questions but i controlled the flow of the situation. I know the internet is much different than real conversation so i wasnt sure if i should number close her or not but i went for it anywa it ended like so and im not quite sure how to take it.

ME:when you were here you only saw the shady basement not my beautiful apartment
Target:haha no i missed it. i'm sure i'll see it eventually
ME: haha well now im going to give you VIP status
Target:woah i must be pretty cool
ME: consdier yourself the luckiest girl on our side of the mississippi!!
Target: hahaha ok, well i'm gonna go now. i have to get up early tomorrow, but it was nice talking to you. have fun tonight!
Me: I gotta go now too we might throw something this weekend would you like me to call or text you if something is happening
Target: ok later! just facebook me or something..night!

although the chat went really well, her response when i asked her for her number puzzled me. it wasnt a clear rejection but im not quite sure how i should take it as, and what to follow with! so let me know what you guys think.

P.S. personally i think sarging on the internet is so much harder. I dont get why many AFC's spend years chatting away on the internet to meet women. you cant see the ioi's as clearly nor can you kino or see body langugage but maybe its something i should work on not frown upon.

Let me know what you think brothers,
BOOMER!

Boomer,

I completely agree with you that most new people shouldn't go online to start persuing women until they gain some experience. It can be difficult to read between the lines so to speak and see IOIs or IODs. I have written a few ebooks on online game and it's my personal suggestion that most people spend time in field before going online. When you get better at recoginizing patterns with women then it's easier to convert those lessons learned to online game. But anyways, I'm not trying to lecture just agree with you.

It's awesome that you spoke with her for almost an hour. Her statement, "haha no i missed it. i'm sure i'll see it eventually" is a good IOI I'm sure you'd agree.

It's hard to tell if she was just really in a rush to do something and get offline and didn't see your message or if she just avoided your message.

One thing I'd like to critique here is the way you asked for her number. You said "I gotta go now too we might throw something this weekend would you like to call or text you if something is happening"

I like the fact you gave her a good reason for her to give you her number. The thing I'm not so keen on is that you asked her to give you her number, you didn't tell her to give you her number.

When people are presented with a Yes or No choice the decision is usually No. The reasoning for this is simple psychology. People like taking the path of least resistence. For example, when you were younger and your mom said, "Hey Boomer would you clean your room for me?" What did you do? Did you clean right away or did you slack off. You slacked off, because its easier to do nothing than something. The path of least resistence is usually taken when given the opportunity.

Believe me I discovered this when I worked in car sales for many years. I knew they loved the car but when I asked them a question like that I usually got a No. But when I told them to sign with confidence I did much better.

Now that that lesson is over make sure to exhibit confidence and tell her to give you her number. Not forcefully but something like, "Give me your number and I'll be sure to message since we're about to set up another party." Which sounds more confident than, "Would you like to..."

I know you're still learning so I really hope this helps out. As far as not getting her number this time. Don't sweat it. Just look to talk to her again on Facebook. Keep talking to her and letting her in your world with stories and information about yourself. Basically, just building some comfort. Then ask her for the number again with confidence!

Cheers,

~Jon

Thats good advice John. I think the conversation sounded a bit needy.
Telling her she has VIP access etc is a cool thing but you should have said.
"Well, cool people get VIP access but i dont know how cool you are yet "
Or something to get her to qualify.
Just be a bit more laid back next time and exhert more confidence