Im in a pseudorelationship at the moment and Ill try to give you a good history without taking too long so bear with me on weak details. A year ago I had a thing with this girl but we could never get on the same wavelength, (first week she tried to contact me non stop but I too busy to give her any attention, second week she was tired of trying and apparently some snake told her I hooked up with a girl so when I tried it she couldnt trust me enough for a relationship and she ended up getting back together with her ex.

Last week she called me and was extremely interested in me telling me how she really wanted to chill and when I finally did she refered to it as a first date. So everything is really good, Ive seen her twice after that for small meal because Ive been busy but weve been in contact non stop (talking on phone, facebook, txt)

Finally she tells me that she wants to "take it slower". And the main question I have for you is What do you reckon she meant by this and what should I do about it to maintain this relationship? The following information will hopefully help answer the question becuase Im in shambles at the moment.

She says she just came out of a relationship with her ex 3 weeks ago. She also made it clear that because of our thing last year she doesnt quite trust me yet because of my "reputation" of going to alot of parties and hooking up with different drunk girls" . She says that she really likes me and has a ton of fun with me but she doesnt want to rush it (i.e. acknoledge the terms boyrfriend/girlfriend or say were dating but she is calling it a relationship) yet she wants to be exclusive. What should I make of all this is what should I do about it?

I can also sense she doesnt want to tell people we're going out yet Is this a problem?. It should be noted weve only really had this thing going for about 4-5 days now. Theres this big club party friday that she keeps begging me to come with her and Im assuming its so that she wants me to make a big move (is this an accurate assumtion?). Shes also really into the idea of this movie date where it is just the two of us since the last time there were a few people that came so we didnt get much alone time.

She feels im putting pressure on her to start being a serious relationship because I really don't see the point in waiting but I dont want to look needy. She clearly had the intention of going out as she initiated with the first date before I even had a chance to. So I really dont know wat to make of her uncertainties. My biggest fear is that sumthing has changed in the way she feels but I dont have much proof of this. I stopped txting her for litterally 12 hours and she asked if I was mad at her so i think her interest is still there ahah.

The questions in bold are really the things I need to know. And an overall guidance of what I should think about the situation and how I should procede.

Should I try to make a stronger move tomorrow night?
Should I have the one on one movie night with her?
Should I distance myself for a few days to make her realise how much she wants an actually commitment?
Should I continue the way it's going?

I really appreciate it. (I posted the same questions in the ask Locke post but I want to hear from the public too since alot of the best responses have come from here)

epic fail ... you didn't invest enough in the beginning.
she hopes it doesn't repeat again ... it's also a shit test and a on-top-of-relationship move .... don't even worry about it - what woman think and say aren't the same. it could also be her anti-slut shield. one girl told me once to take it slow - 3 days later we had sex.

in short words she is still qualifing you as potential BF material - still screening and so forth.

HOWEVER
ok here's the deal ... taking it slow could mean :

1. i hang around you until i get something better because i feel like crap because i broke-up.
2. I found out i still have feelings for my ex-BF
3. insecurity feelings ... you make her feel secure somehow but her own issues and double mixed emotions activate her slut shield.
4. she really doesn't know what she wants.

confirm it .. only tell her the girls you hook up with aren't drunk (optional : and you don't have sex with them). i mean when you don't have a GF you can do whatever you want, she could be blaming you for hooking up with girls on these parties and meanwhile she is fucking 5 guys a week on average.
you are just more DHV than her ... less AFC
stronger move... you got nothing to loose ... just be sure not getting too sexual .. buyers remorse ya know. keep it at kissing and tell her ''we need to slow down''

movie night ... why not ? stop being so fucking insecure ... you want her or you don't want her.

distance yourself ? why the hell should you do that ? you want her to find a new boyfriend? she already let you know she's interested.. just don't appear needy and your ok.

no don't continue the way it's going ... she will never make the first move .. it's always the guy who makes the first move. don't be reactive BE ACTIVE.


question yourself :

what do i got to lose ? actually nothing .. you started with zero and you can only gain.

what do i want ? probably fucking her because you like her ... don't be AFC .. don't be overhyped sexual .... just be a man - be romantic.

do i keep it this wat ? no you don't keep it this way because you will end up in the friendship zone ..... BE ACTIVE ... make your move.

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