I was just jotting some things in Word - thought i'll report to the forum. This thread is just a open discussion of your weakness and strengths of you as a person.

Now, weaknesses can be turned into strenghts of course. I did it - I'll tell you a story of who I was about 10 or more years ago.

In High School - I wasn't popular, I wasn't cool kid on the block, only some thought I was cool. I was a true AFC. Maybe worst then a AFC.

I was kind of chuckling at myself when I was writing some things down in word - thought I share it.

In high school, I wasn't a happy camper. I was depressive, negative and over all a flame that died out really quick.

I was desperately attempting to get feedback to build my confidence and validation from girls at that time, just to feel liked. Sounds familiar? I was wishing inside somehow I women will see me and just fall over heels for me. Well, they did but usually fainted from my stench. Back in high school, I didn't really take showers often, never brushed my teeth - my mom always told me that my teeth will rot and such. My hair was combed in a dorky style I would never imagine. I wish I could pull it up because you would all be like, "Whoa!" Yeah, that bad. I really want to find it now - but don't know where it is...damn it! Hold on a second...I knew I had it somewhere. This photo looks funny. However, this photo was me in softmore in high school.



Pretty crazy huh? Ok, great now you had a chuckle - so did I! Now let's get with the program. So, like I was saying - inside I felt ugly, I appeared ugly, and I behaved ugly. This is why so many women ran a way screaming bloody murder.

Now, on occasion - I'll be even lucky to get a girl to kiss me, make out with me in a library, dance with four chicks at a dance, or get a hot blond grinding her ass against me at a teen club or even make out with a college chick when I was 15. Now, how was I able to do with - at that time, I had no clue what the hell I was doing. I think I figured some things out - I had natural game but I wasn't tapping in the right channels and not using it to the core.

So here's a look at today for instance. I was at Target for an interview - dressed up nice, looking just jazzed out like I was a rock star. I smelt like a rose from a garden - well not too much of a rose but you know. Inside, I felt in control with myself; I felt I was going to get this job no matter. I didn't care what other people thought of me when I started talking to new co-workers when I smoking outside. I took the intuitive to get to know people too - I was outgoing, fun and interesting. I commented on a girl's shirt today without caring about what she thought or did. She could laugh and tell me to screw a dog - I'll be like, "Okay, I just might do that!" Because you know what - who gives a fuck what she thinks. I like her shirt and god damn it I'm not going to change my mind. Also, a key component here my friends is I said it sincerely, not fetching for some complement or some thanks of approval. So what if she smiled and said thanks and blushed. Also, made eye contact with a cutie and smiled and said "How you doing?" she looked me up and down sand said good, grinning. Did I put some magic spell on her - nah, she observed how I was dressed and again woman's noses are so sensitive they can smell really good. So that smelling like a rose - kinda made her go, "Hmmm...roses I love roses!". Not really, but again you know what I'm saying. If she gave me a disguised face then fuck her. I just said how she was doing - not like I wanna bang you or something.

I had the mind set - I was the shit, I was the man and this is my god damn realm I was in or dominion.

Today, I walked down the sidewalk with my red little fuzzy hat on; eyes glancing over at me. Maybe they thought I was a clown ready to do a circus act - who gives a flying monkey! I liked the hat and I was proud to have it. However, had a two set stalk me in the halloween store which kind of startled me. LOL!

So, the moral of my story is this:

1) Have a mindset that your the bomb - you are the fucking shit and no body can tell you different. If they have a problem with them then kick them out of your little VIP section of your frame.

2) Be in charge of your own damn self - don't let people push you around, don't let people snicker at you making you feel like shit, don't let people run all over you like your some welcome mat saying, "Hi there, walk on me!"

3) Become that attractive person that lights up everyone's fire to start a party. Show your true self with out no armour to hide those vulnerable. Stick out your balls or whatever you have and say, "Yeah - this is who I am - got a problem here's my fist down your throat!" well, not like that but stand out there willing to take a chance to be shut down or laughed at or whatever. People that laugh at you only shows that they don't have the balls to do something you did in the first place. How's those apples. In other words, flock those pretty little feathers and show the world what you got.

Now, I'm glad you had a chuckle or two because I sure did. So, write down some of your weakness that you had or still do have and strengths that you've obtained through out the years of self-development.

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dude great post ok then

Weaknesses : i find it hard to commit myself into any relationship because i am scared of getting hurt

I still have approach anxiety

I am very self concscious and am paranoid about my looks

Skills i have acquired; CONFIDENCE
I have become more sociable and feel better around people
i am more willing to share my humour with people


Anyway dude my first year secondary school photo looked similar to that and i was like the kid no one wanted to be seen with and boy was i pushed around a lot.

Anyway so at that time i joined a school musical and did a solo singing part and that was it people saw me differently and i saw myself differently.

I used to be depressed in high school and was always negative in my thinking and the way I would act. If we were ever at a house party I'd get bored easy and begin to cut any kind of conversation short no matter who was talking to me and if they persisted I would use my really dry sense of humour to make fun of them to the point that it was no longer a dry sense of humour just a plain insult. If I could I'd get out of any place remotely social as soon as possible. I then left school and went to college and not much changed to be honest except I became somewhat more social with some of the people in my classes. I would still make excuses to my friends if they ever asked if I wanted to go out.

After a while I began to realise how much I was missing out on and decided that I should begin making a change. I started to go out more a little at a time. I then discovered David Deangelo's Double Your Dating ebook and I read it and liked some of the advice that he gave. I decided to take my really dry sense of humour and turn base it around the Cocky and Funny approach which works pretty well for me (more humour than cocky but I can even it out when needed). Although even after reading this the amount of girls I picked up did not improve because I was still somewhat anti social.

I then discovered this site about 3-4 weeks ago and its made me a better person. I enjoy going out more with my friends. I try and maintain the confident and happy vibe that I want people to associate me with. I went on a shopping spree buying new clothing that makes me feel more confident with how I look and I'm slowly starting to approach women more often (practicing by going indirect still to directly open a girl yet). I managed to number close a girl last week and tonight I'm going sarging at a fashion show which a few months ago you couldn't of dragged me to but I thought it would be a great place to meet hot women so why not give it a try.

My weaknesses are still a bit of approach anxiety and mid-game. I also find that I'm quite picky with who I approach and even if I'm in a conversation with a girl who I think is into me but I'm not attracted to I dont pursue it (not sure if this is a weakness. Some of my friends say its a numbers game but I'd rather sleep with a girl I'm attracted to and not sleep with her for the sake of doing so.)

Everytime I talk to someone new I find different pieces of my game I need to work on so I'm just doing everything I can to improve.

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Sounds great guys! Sooner or later we'll be Gods Of PUA. I could just see it!

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Your never going to be a GOD of PUA if you have to wear a red fuzzy hat to get attention. You will be ridiculed and laughed at, and you will build up a denfence mechanizm to deal with blocking out the hurtful comments. Pretend you are a role model for the entire country. Everyone would wear red fuzzy hats and the world would laugh at us. Sure they would shut up after we got a girl, but are you getting girls with your red fuzzy hat???

I know mystery coined the term peacocking, but that works for mystery and guys who have a weak core. You seem like you have a strong core. I only give you my feedback because I care.


My weakness: horrified of rejection

My stregth: tremendous courage.

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Awesome

As far as knowing what to do, conceptually I got it all down, and feel I would know exactly what to do once I start a successful interaction with a female. I have the workings of a natural in progress (or hidden behind emotional communication dysfunctionality).

My strengths are:

Fearlessness of the approach
Ability to play with energy
I just don't give a fuck what anyone thinks of me
Spontaneous creativity = keeping it fun
Natural caveman mentality
Inner beliefs of self righteousness and always positive self image- inner game.
A sense of oneness with all nature, living many zen concepts are second nature to me.


Weaknesses:

Regardless of my strengths mentioned above, I still suffer from emotional repression much of the time when I'm out. So I can do anything, but may not be able to feel it. ie: Go and do the approach unaware of what my emotional state is and what the words will sound like when they come out.

- Crude, primitive conversation skills
- Can't think of anything to say to people, most of my "approaches" are only acknowledgements or few line exchanges.
- Automatically resisting rapport (involuntarily censoring my emotional output)
- Don't know how to make facial expressions.
- Threatening defensive posture and gait.
- Chronic daydreamer/procrastinator, "In my head" and don't see the moment.
- Work overtime and studying in college, no car, very little free time to sarge or work on my problems, let alone manage a social life.


<b>Edit</b> I'll also add that there crossovers where getting to use some of my strenths nulls some weaknesses. For example if I happen to get really into a conversation, the repression might disappear, maybe because I'm now going with the flow and part of the moment. I don't need to think of what to say and the body language comes naturally, I think. But its the initial approach that if the girl doesn't open up I can't open up. I recognize the cycle, that girls want to open up to people that are emotionally transparent, and it can be sensed what they're feeling inside. Problem is I don't even know what emotions I'm feeling, and theres a psychological barrier that keeps me from showing emotion around people. Maybe because I dislke that they could know more about my internal state than I do just by observing by indicators, so my automatic learned instinct is to censor my feelings from myself and others by forcing a pokerface.

This antisocial learned behavior is my biggest roadblock to otherwise being a natural with women.

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Weakness:

1. Uncomfortable with my looks. I tend to only feel really comfortable when I am in a set of clothes i know i look good in.

2. Chronic Oneitis. I fall in love with girls who have boyfriends. Why? I don't have a fucking clue but I do.

3. Serious Approach Anxiety. Women are scary.

Stengths:

1. Witty. Well at least I think I am clever when it comes to keeping a conversation going.


2. Leader. Come with me if you want to live!

3. A good eye for hints. I'm an anthropology major and I seem to have a knack for telling when a girl is showing signs of interest. Good at identifying groups that are flaunting trying to get attention. I can point them out to my boys but can't appraoch them myself.

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*new to the game but looking for fame*

I can influence, but have no absolute control over how others percieve me.

I don't even know how anyone else percieves me, so I choose not to care about it at all. Even if I knew, in trying to change that I would feel it is showng weakness.

On an emotional level, yes, it feelz good when a girl I'm talking to blurts out "you're cool." But I have no response to 'you're weird,' maybe I learned to desensitize myself to negative emotions in a lifetime of frequently being called weird, crazy and such terms.

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Strengths:

Can approach with usually no problem when I feel like it

Weaknesses:

Can't attract girls worth a shit
Am generally sexually unconfident
Quite anti-social at times
Uncomfortable with sex to begin with
Have major self-esteem issues
Easy to give up on girls at times
Virgin

Well, guess I'll give it a go.

Strengths

- I'm good with words, so I can usually keep an interesting conversation going.
- I'm extremely comfortable in my own skin.
- I'm pretty good at opening in a casual setting.
- I feel my inner game in general is pretty strong.
- I can be very romantic and women really like that (dont think its 'gay' if you're this way, girls are all over it)


Weaknesses

- I absolutely hate openining in a club setting. As a result, I always go with girls I've met elsewhere and I miss out on some great opportunites.
- I still havent gotten over AA completely.
- I'm a bit too flirty (perhaps making up for high school) and thats gotten me into some sticky situations.
- I love girls, but I have other interests and priorities that take up alot of free time. I'm working on freeing up my schedule though.

Great story dude .

We're all born different .

Difference is how we make use of what we have .

and you my friend , has certainly done it .

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With all due respect, I completely disagree with this logic. The red fuzzy hat has nothing to do with anything here and is besides the point. The part I bolded is what I have a problem with. Stealth7 talked about how he just doesn't give a shit what people think, and I personally believe that is the way to go. If you live your life worried about what others think, you allow them to mold your personality and how you express yourself. You realized that too when you mentioned "you will build up a denfence mechanizm to deal with blocking out the hurtful comments". There is no point in building defense mechanisms because with this builds a negative vibe and outlook. Nobody wants to be around a negative person when positive energy and vibe is what attracts people.
I can see where you come from here, but remember that this can also be seen as using training wheels on a bike. People use peacocking to stand out in appropriate settings, but once a person gets more comfortable in that setting, peacocking is "needed" less and less for that person. I don't peacock, but I don't condemn people that do (not saying that is what you are doing here) because as the saying goes 'to each his own'.

This is just my opinion playing Devil's advocate here. I respect your view and I'm not saying you are wrong, I am just saying I see it differently.

Now back to the topic. I feel that my strengths are in my charisma and how I present myself verbally and physically. My main "weakness", however, is that I don't always make my intentions clear. As a young college student, I enjoy meeting many girls and "going with the flow" that night. I'm not looking to date right now and I don't always make that clear enough.

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