I don't like confrontation. It's not my style, 9 times out of 10 if somebody starts crap with me I roll my eyes and ignore them or walk away. This mostly comes from experiences at bars and parties where I almost got into fights with drunk dudes over virtually nothing.

It's tougher though when one person is constantly starting that kind of shit. In thise case it's a guy I know who I sometimes go to parties to or just run into when I go out. The entire time he goes on about wanting to hook up with every girl he can at a party, and the sad part is he's not really good at it. He gets shut down 5 times, kisses one girl, maybe dances with one more, and acts like he's the greatest alpha male ever. Me? I like to chill back, have a couple drinks when I go out, and hang with my friends. If I see a girl I wanna talk to, I do it at my own pace the way I want to. Rather than let me run my own game or work with me, this guy will literally drag me across a room to chicks he's talking to. I end up way outta my comfort zone, and I realize that's not always a bad thing.

The problem is that if we're ever disagreeing about what to do, who to talk to, etc., he freaks out. Like I've almost fought the guy 4 or 5 times in the year I've known him because he flips out whenever a guy tries to tell him what to do, no matter how smart the suggestion is. Sure, avoiding him would make things easier, but I want tips for dealing with overly aggressive AMOGs because odds are it'll come up with other people.

Next time I see this guy or someone like him, let's say that I start talking to a girl and he steps in trying to push me out of the conversation, how do I assert myself without having to throw a punch and get kicked out of the bar/party?

Make him look like he's the one thats desperate for attention. If he knows the girls don't like him he'll usually backoff and almost 100% won't hit you in front of women.

I completely agree with Tony here. As long as you remain calm and point him out for his stupidity, the girl will take note of it. You should only seldomly resort to fighting. For some reason, women do not like fighter guys, but they value a protector type. As long as you do not make it look like you are scared, then you will show that you have a certain self-control which most guys do not have.

I find that the best way to deal with this type of AMOG whom you know is to tell him that he should not interfere when you are in set. If he still does so, you should embarrass him in-front of the girl so that he feels uncomfortable, thereby showing the girl that you are socially savvy enough to deal with these types of situations. I would even anticipate his interference and talk to the girl about this creepy guy that you know who does not leave you alone (I would call him stuff like "stalker" and how you actually talk to him because you pity him). Once you say something rather sinister about him, you would be able to introduce him as that idiot you were talking about, which will throw him off. Hope this was of help. GO GET THAT AMOG !!!

I also agree with Tony. Make a face at him, like a very sarcastic smile, like the guy is a total retard, and then look at the girl, and make eye contact, she'll probably give you that smile to... Laugh at it.

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Bring him into the conversation. Talk so much that he can't and let you and her do all the talking.

You could also say something like "I'm sorry, this guy obviously doesn't realize that you're trying to hit on me and he's cramping your style. His mother never taught him any manners. Isn't it so sad? I mean It's almost 2010. How are we supposed to EVER get flying cars when we can't even teach people manners."

This approach is good if it's not someone you bump into a lot. But still if you troll it along and don't give him time to react you'll get a good enough amount of funny verbal hits in to make him look like a douche and you look like a funny guy. Funny = DHV.

It's even better for me if the guy tries to get physical. I just say "Look man there's no need to get emotional over this. You know what you need? A hug. Let's hug it out dude." Then after that I tell him. "Now look dude, we're both guys here. Why don't you take a lap around the bar and SCORE SOME CHICKS DUDE it'll make you feel better."
(one time this guy was on the way to his car and saw me and came over to fight me and i just hugged him and dry humped him all the way to the car. then i got the number of the chick who was driving him and told her i'd call her to make sure he got home safe.)

But anyways back to the "bar scene." Anytime a douche bag is forced to walk away it opens up an opportunity for you to express how different you are. "There are so many guys that are just out to go get theirs, that have no respect for women at all. I just love life and I love meeting people."

Just make sure you don't bring it in a LJBF direction. That always sucks.

Alternative: "haha he seems pretty mad. let's make him even more mad." Then kiss.

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Alright, everything seems pretty cool. Guess I always worried that the dude's short-fuse would force me into a fighting situation no matter what I do. And yeah, I know women aren't big fans of fighters, whether they win or lose. I got no intention of ever getting into a fight to try to prove I'm tough to a girl.

You should read some of Tyler Durden's stuff on AMOG.

What Spread Love said about bringing him into the fold works well if at that point, you have the ability to disarm him and prove yourself to be the true man.

Make him jump through your hoops and the girls will laugh and know what the deal is almost instantaneous.

Slein~