Ok, If any of you read my introduction, I told you that I met a girl at the gym last week. Gave her my phone number, but she never called or texted me during a week. When I saw her at the gym on Friday, I was like 'The number I gave you, Its meant to be called'. She said 'I was very busy'. Of course, I didn't fall into this. I just said to her, miscall me NOW!! she was like 'ok'. She miscalled me and I got her number. Later that night, I sent her a message saying 'ok tell me the real reason why you didn't call me' and she just said again ' I was just real busy'. Do keep in mind, that the opener which was on a Monday was good, she came to talk to me. I talked to her like confident man, with all going for me, tried to find out about her etc etc.After that brief text on Friday night, I never texted her until, yesterday afternoon.

And conversation went pretty much fine. I keep on teasing her, hopefully making her laugh and all. Acting cocky and confident, a little bit arrogant too. Even got a message saying 'you're abit of big head'. I was like, 'I am more than that trust me'. So we moved, talking about her past relationships, what she likes, the usual random stuff. She does not reply to my texts often, well I've counted on an average of 8 messages, she replies to only 5 then just stops. Of course, I don't get on her like texting her every minutes. I've learned quite alot about her and replied to quite alot of her questions. But it seems its not getting anywhere. I got to the point where, I was making fun of having a date with her, and how she should tell my secretary about that, so she can find some time for her in my busy schedule and how lucky she would be to have me over for dinner Lol! Then, one more random message about what she enjoys listening to and what she enjoys in general. Replied to her, after that NOTHING. It was nearly 9pm. So I thought she'd send a message like saying she's off to do something, BUT, NOTHING!! NADA!! When talking to her, I thought I have my chance, but she doesn't react the way I was thinking. I didn't text her at all today - I am giving it a couple of days - But in my mind, I am already thinking of getting a date with her, what I should do, say and everything of that sort. If that happens, I've got it planned! BUT, it doesn't seem so. By the way, she's a confident woman, she's the type of 'you like me or you don't, I don't give a fuck'

Where did I go wrong? Please help. I feel she's a nice girl and I'd definitely like to take her out. But Right now, I cannot see where I am. Please post some advice on what I should do next(if you think there is a next,lol)
Thanks

Optimus_Star

First of all, never give a girl your number. That's a novice mistake. I repeat, NEVER GIVE A GIRL YOUR NUMBER. Your problem here seems to be incongruence. You probably had a successful first interaction then after that things sizzled then simmered like breakfast bacon. Get it out of your head what you're going to do with the girl. Trust me, the less it matters the more likely it's going to happen. Lay off on the texting conversations and just use the phone to meet up with the girl and demonstrate yourself with high value. This seems almost beyond repair in the way she's reacting to you so don't text her for a few days then send her something in between an opener and the actual pick up; it's almost like resetting. Once you get her in a good mood recommend some drinks somewhere, but make it seem like she's just tagging along and it doesn't rely on her appearance. You were going to go out anyway and be a fun guy.

Next time you close make sure that you have the higher value and she is attracted to you. Then tease neg, bait-hook-reel-release, etc. Tell me how things go so I can help out.

Kaiine,

Great reply...I was going to add that Im guilty of very similar mistakes...Remember, If you neg too hard you look like a jerk, especially with no attraction...

I think youre biggest problem is that u don't demonstrate value, youre not talking about yourself at all, youre just talking about her. Dont be too interested, be interesting instead, tell her about this cool party youre going with youre friends, about this book/movie you liked/disliked and why.
She needs to see toat youre a man with a character and opinions.

bdw as it already been said, dont msg her all of the time. In my opinion msg should be short and cocky lines but rapport is created by conversations.

owe.. and bdw dont talk only about relationtips, try being interesting (as I said before)

hope it helps

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hey guys, thanks very much for the replies. I am taking note of everything you've said. Next time, I see her, i'll value myself more, I won't text her till like friday unless she texted me before, which is unlikely.Thank you much. I will let you know how it goes on as from now....wish me luck! well I think I can pull this one off, if I use your advices.
cheers lads