I've been seeing this girl for 2 weeks now.
Today... I called her since 2 PM, and she wouldn't answer, I was supposedly going to her house to pick up some guitar strings, but she never answered, nor replied my text (Which is weird in her, because she would tell me if she couldn't be there at 2 PM) ...
I kept calling her... and at 2:30ish I went to her house, and was knocking and no one answered, not even her parents, or her nephews, kinda relaxes me a bit, maybe a family problem happened.
Then as I was leaving I texted her saying I was worried, that I dropped by her house, and asked her to let me know if she was fine.
I kept calling her all through the day ( I know AFC!!) ... and still she wouldn't answer. The phone would ring, but it would just redirect me to the voicemail...
Then at around 4:30ish .. I called her, and her line was busy, so I was like "Hey she got her phone" then I waited until she finished the call, and called her, and she didn't answered again.
Then I sent her a txt like "Whats up, you don't wanna talk to me?" ....
AFC...
Anyways, I kept calling her, I've probably called like 15 times in the whole day...
She wont answer from my other number (I don't know if she has it registered) ... which kinda relaxes me, that the "problem" is not only with me.
My thoughts, the ones I want to believe is that maybe she is only answering calls from someone because something happened, like emergency calls only, or maybe she finally talked to her ex, and is crying, and doesn't want to talk or see me (She's told me she's ashamed of me seeing her cry)
I've stopped calling her ..
Its not 6 pm ... At 6:30 PM her friend will pick her up to go to a party...
Im curious as to... if I should call her one last time, at night...
We're supposedly meeting up tommorow ...
Or should I wait until tommorow...
I know I'm being very AFCish calling her a lot of times, but it just fucks with my mind, that I do not know the REASON why she won't answer. The problem is not that she is not answering, but the fact that I dont know WHY she is not answering. If I knew shes mad at me, or she feels sick or anything else, I wouldn't be so darn worried.
And I know I'm acting AFC and Oneitis, but it just drives me nuts...
I figure she'd tell me if she didn't wanna talk to me, which she hasn't but she hasn't replied all day either..
What can I do??
Don't say freeze out stuff....
Maybe something happened to her or she feels bad to talk to me... or sick, or crying...
I need some help here... Please...

dude, its one of 2 things:

1. She's iggin you. doesnt matter why, you probably dont even wanna know. just know that she's ignoring you and that's a sign of disrespect. if this is the case...move on and dont look back.

2. she genuinely couldn't answer her calls/texts in which case ur the one over reacting. the hardest thing to do is to resist the urge to call/text her but you gotta be strong and not give in.

dont freeze her out, that would be stupid.

either way man, you should give up on it. in the first scenario, ur screwed. in the 2nd scenario, u screwed urself. move on

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Stop calling and texting her. PERIOD.

She knows you called, she knows you texted. She doesn't want to answer? Deal with it, and move on. It's only been 2 weeks, you aren't in love.

Damn dude, stop calling ffs.

You've called her, you've texted her, if she couldn't reply to your calls or texts, she still KNOWS you've called and texted her, i.e voicemail and she will read the texts when she can...
DO NOT call her again...OR text...OR voice mail
If you're meeting up with her somewhere...don't show up, if she shows up and you're not there, she'll text you. Then say something like I'll be a little late or some shit. or just say well I wasn't sure whether it was still on so I didn't want to waste my time going. If she DOES show up to where you planned, then consider it OK to go. If you're meeting up with her tomorrow and you're not sure whether she's going, then don't go and see if she does.

Whatever you do, don't call.

Although you've kind of ruined your chances of being alpha about the whole situation. If you see her again and ask why didn't you call me back - you'll look weak on the basis that you've rang her all those times.
So best thing to do is ignore it, pretend like nothing happened.
If she brings it up, be indifferent to it. She could test you to see how you react. So she might see you and she'll be expecting you to ask her why she didn't reply - instead you'll pretend like it was no big deal..

Thanks for the replies
I just got a text from her..
She said she didn't had her phone with her all day, and that she just went to her house to get changed, and leave.

IMO if a girls phone rings that means that she can see you calling or will see that you have called her, follow it with a text and a voicemail and just leave it at that. She may of genuinely forgot her phone somewhere but at least when she see's it she can see you tried to contact her, but if she see's dozens of calls and texts from you especially after 2 weeks she might find it overwhelming! I would say never call a girl more than once or twice if she isnt answering her phone, let her know that if she doesnt pick up ur calls or respond to you quick enough after seeing ur calls that its no big deal on your part and that you will move on to someone more respectful and responsive to you.

The fact that she sent you such a brief text message and didnt even include an appoligy is not really a good thing, and also to add to that te fact you guys had plans and still she didnt even say sorry for it???? Thats pretty disrespectful, but anyways enough of focusing on that if you really like this girl I hope it goes well for you for your sake.

Hey Adilinar

Rite, I am NOT an artist yet nor have I had great success with woman. But let me share a bit of advice with you. I've met 2 girls lately, and both of them fucked up! First one, just never replies back except for once and the second one, she's just another arrogant Biatch that think a guy must kiss up 2 her. Both of these girls are DAMMMNNN hot!! (1st one- Nice figure, Cute face, 2nd one- WHAT A PAIR OF WATERMELLONS man)

Anyways, talking about your problem, the first thing that strikes me is that you've made one big mistake, ''15 calls in a day, went out to check on her..etc''. DUDE, comeon, if a girl sees a guy calling her 15 times a day, running around her house, SHE WILL GET SCARED!! she will think that you are one of the other wussies(sorry, I don't want to be harsh on that), but For GODSAKE, STOP CALLING HER!! You've just closed many doors right now, and the only door that would hopefully get her back to you is firstly, when you see her, just BLANK!! Act Disinterested!! Don't even let that drunken monkey in your head say ''oh I should have said hello..etc etc'',cuz that my friend, will screw up everything in no time. Secondly, as everyone said, ''she's acting disrespectful''. Use that ''disrespectful'', send one message that will make her think 'OH, GOD, I've been so bad to a FRIEND''. Hopefully, she will reply back. Don't get too emotional about this man. If it does not work, MOVE ON, MORE FISHES OUTSIDE AWAITING YOUR CALL. And for godsake, that whole thing ''I didn't have my phone with me''..HAHA...nice try but she is just taking you for another wussy that came up!!

I am sorry if any of these offended you, but trust me, if you get under her rejection pattern(which you are clearly visible right now - Rejection Report), she will talk to you.

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I wasn't "checking on her" ...
I had to drop by 2 PM to pick up some guitar strings that she had ...
And she texted me later in the night ...
And even weirder.. I just woke up at 8 am... and my cell shows I have a missing call from her at 3 am...
That is weird... exciting but weird :O
Dying to know what that call was for
:O

She did apologized =)
Then later on told me
"Aw thanks for worrying for me, thats really sweet ..." then she went on to say where she was and with who. Not that I asked, but she knows I get jealous sometimes (which she loves)... lol

Dude.. I've been down this rode and believe me, it doesnt lead anywhere, please, for yourself STOP
exicting.. he he... exiciting .. EXICITING ?????

NOOOOO MAN NOT EXICITNG!!!!


Stop stop STOP

leave her be... ur in the friendship zone..

youre just going towards a heartbreak and then another one and another one untill one day you will wake up and say to yourself..."I dont need this shit"

So hutty up the prosses and leave her be...

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Whats wrong with you, do you have any idea how bad you just made yourself look? Not only did you make yourself look needy and DLV but you let her know how much higher her value is than yours. Chasing women makes you look like a wimp my man, and woman don't like wimps. Period. Call or text twice and thats it, never more than that in one day unless it's an absolute emergency. If you chase a cat you'll never get it, but if you sit around and ignore it after you call it it'll come putting right up to you.