I'm going to this music concert (this weekend)that is required with a girl in my music class. We've talked a good amount of times and I even called her once. I believe I've been building some comfort.

Today I kinda asked her if I could pick her up by asking where she lived and saying"well if u don't wanna kill all that gas I can pick u up" She just answered by saying "well then you'll waiste alot of gas".

Should I ask her this question again tomorrow (I probably won') but if so HOW? and I haven't been able to start that much kino with this girl i feel like i haven't because of the whole school situation. but how can I do that? And after the concert i was thinking about asking her out to eat? How should i ask this? and how should i act during the whole concert?

THANKS

I think you are showing a bit too much interest in this girl to her face. You asking directly if you could pick her up and offering to pay for gas and everything is showing that you are NEEDY, which is value diminishing in her eyes. You need to seem indifferent to her. Instead of offering to pick her up, and being the provider, tell her you would pick her up but gas prices are too high right now, or its too far out of the way, or something.

Don't ask her the same thing twice. If you ask to pick her up again, then you will really seem like the guy who just needs someone, a girl, to talk to and hang out with. The reality is, you don't need her. You may want her, but that's different. Show that to her. You don't need her, if she doesn't want you to pick her up that's her loss and she'll have to live with that.

You are over thinking the 'how do I act' aspect. Take it from me, I make this mistake all the time. I am no expert by the way and I make tons of mistakes, but I have learned from them. Just passing on the knowledge: Don't worry about how to act. If you do this you will seize up and over think every single thing and look like a goof. Just act indifferent, say what comes to your mind, and try to work some game in there--some negs, some lines, some mid game, maybe a close. Try it out.

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At this point you have to make up a small amount of ground. I would respond to her last text with something like: "You're right! That settles it; you are picking me up."

But now it is a day later. I am not sure what I would do from there. Maybe just ignore it and don't initiate conversation with her until you see her again. If she reinitiates with you, then you can go from there.

my fellow player friend,

this is how i would do it...

1. so, you can chip in some gas money and we can go have a blast at the concert and beside, i am good at driving

2. damn... i am hungry as hell... or i know of a good food place... ( transition ) and say " lets go check it out !!! "

3. showing IOI is good but being needy is no good... i think it don't matter how much IOI u show as long as your escalating and having sexual frames.

Just a thought...

good luck !