I don't think lying is a good idea. You see, that'll only make women be attracted to the fake you, your fake stories, when they find out it's bullshit you're gonna be really embarassed and brought down.

What you should do, is bring more adrenaline into your life. Yes, have the balls to do it. Fuck, don't just join a computer maniac fan club whatever that kind of shit. Even if you're good at it.

Start to fuckin live your life. Go to classes that will give you something exciting to talk about with woman, and teach you useful skills.

For the beginning, I really recommend you join some partner dancing club. Not only the skill to dance well is the greatest fuckin DHV ever, but you'll meet lots of woman, and be forced to push your boundries. Plus you'll learn some great kino.

Start being a cool guy. Regularly watch funniest comedians and funny youtube shows to bring laughter into your life, and be cool around your social group.

Stop being zombie saying 'nice to meet you' or 'good morning'. Go for 'Heeey, what's up man!!!' Bring the joy with you, and soon it'll affect others, they'll always want to be around you.

Never be overinvesting with people (if you don't know what it means check out AFC Adam's works) but show your friends you care about them. If they're i'll, call them. If they have problems, don't get tangled in them, but be ready to help and offer a hand. You'll be amazed to find how it'll pay off it the future.

And turn your computer and tv off! Too much time with computers and tv will actually decrease you social skills. Use them as little as possible. That includes this forum, unless you have stickin' points.

Now go and live your fuckin live. Good Luck,

Kaj

I agree with the broad thrust of what you said. Small lies are ok. Fuck it - life is based on loads of little lies. If a person tells BIG lies and reality catches up with him then there can be trouble.

In short develop interests other than fucking women. I disagree with the thing about computers. Isn't Zan Perrion a closet computer or board games geek? ANY hobby or activity you are passionate about is good.Though I admit that certain things DO have a social stigma. If you present your truth in a certain way ANYTHING is attractive.

A bit for the OP Sexton. It sounds like you're stuck in a rut. Try new things and you may discover new passions. Try something you're slightly scared of and it will increase your comfort zone.

Ok I said it the wrong way, even my definitely favourtie pua Adam Lyons was/is a computer and strategy board games geek, I love to sometimes play video games, and one should do the kind of things that he likes.
But like (more less) sky pirate said, those things aren't gonna make you socialise so I just suggest you spend more time with friends and in social circles instead of socializing with tvs and computers.

Ok I said it the wrong way, even my definitely favourtie pua Adam Lyons was/is a computer and strategy board games geek, I love to sometimes play video games, and one should do the kind of things that he likes.
But like (more less) sky pirate said, those things aren't gonna make you socialise so I just suggest you spend more time with friends and in social circles instead of socializing with tvs and computers.

Hmm. I like to think I'm good at dancing. People have said I should do it. Perhaps.

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If you lie, chances are a girl will smell the bull. Girls have keen noses for that stuff.

As said, do a lot of things. Read more stuff, actually go to the gym, take random classes like martial arts, music classes or even dance classes, adopt a dog and make a chick feel bad for it somehow, etc.

There is so much random stuff! Just look around one day and you will be able to see what you have been looking for. It is all about giving a girl a new experience with a guy.


You only lack confidence when you say "I fail" or there is "nothing special about me." Never give up. It takes a lot of failures before you get one success. You are just in a learning process so learn all you can. Just do a lot of interesting stuff.

I would go further than that and try to erase the word and concept of failure from your brain.

My view: it's an experiment and there are only results/feedback and you determine what that means to you.Use undesirable results to learn how to get the results you want.

Perhaps, and I've been thinking positively, but I must say, this just sets you up for some sort of destructive depression later on when nothing works. Actually approaching, you have to look like you are THE man. For the average joe, how do you do this? I think you need to have mates that are in to this as well to create social proof, but I've tried getting them and they make fun of me for needing this stuff when the normal male has it come naturally. Which is true, I look like a freaking loser at the moment since I'm doing this without results, maybe with a hot GF then I could prove them wrong.

That's the dream, anyway. But that's it, it's just a dream at the moment. Pah.

oh Sexton,

If you are approaching girls and doing it with any basic level of game then you are already better than 80% of men. lots of men hate approaching and those that do just seem to have luck in bars, clubs or parties.

You say you're not getting results but you are, you're just not seeing them. Every bit of feedback can be viewed as good or bad. Learn from the bad results.Try to repeat the good parts.

If you are gaming just to look cool in front of your mates then I'd tell you to stop gaming. It does sound as if your mates are not going to help you.You may be better off without them. You have to be interested in doing things simply for yourself. Simply do it for enjoying the process. it sounds as if you're looking for a LOT of validation and acceptance from outside of yourself.It needs to come from within you. Work on your self esteem, and confidence - gaming will fuck you up hideously otherwise.