Hi Gents,

I will start with a little about myself...

This is the deal... Im quite confident and use my tools quite well. I reprisent an alpha male in quite a few ways phisically and mentally. I am an Ex british paratrooper and since leaving the army i have made a local name for myself at home as i compete in Mixed martial arts (Cage fighting as people think of it as), I also teach it. I work as a doorman so i am always seeing lots of hot, sexy girls.

Bit about my past...

My little boy was born in 2002, i got married when i was about 21 yrs old in 2003 and separated in 2006, got divorced in 2007... The reason got married is, when i was in the army and could have my family move with me as they would be a 4-5 hr drive away and would only see them weekends. So we got married as quick as possable and it all done in a flash. I will tell you now i would never have got married to her under any other circumstanses.

So we get divorced...

Long story short... Wife and best mate in the army did the dirty behind my back. Im well over it and get on with him again as he is still with her and looks after my son and ex really well.

So with all that out the way you have some kind of idea about me. I have been dating since 2007 and had a few gf's but have started hooking up and finding interest in girls around there early 20's but i have got to a sticking point where i need a DHV story about myself that makes the baggage of my devorce in 2007 and my 7 yr old son less of a scare off to younger females.

I am quite good at opening a set, general chit chat and fluff talk but my biggest problem is when conversation gets more personal and it feels like a part of my life i cant be dishonest about... Or shall i??

I have currently found myself interested in a uni student HB8.5 ( the uni that this girl goes to are full of stuck up posh pricks so its rare to get some interest from 1 of them as they tend to stick to other students). So wanna see what happens with this one and want to find a new way of dealing with this issue i have.

Anyway if you can make somthing from this position i am in i am all ears. Hope you can help.

Thanks for reading

Graplin x

When it gets to that point in the conversation that you talk about the ex-wife and child, what kind of energy do you put off when telling about them? Are you looking down, voice shake, etc.?

For a very small group of girls, this will be a problem...for the majority it's not an issue. No need to lie about it, it's part of your life and who you are. I would just tell about it matter of factly. Completely leave out the part about marrying her as quick as possible.

I would also leave out the fact that she cheated on you with your friend, at first atleast. I'd just say something along the lines of you were married, had a kid, and it didn't work out. If they try to dig deeper, then you can open up about it more...but I think sometimes we're our own worst enemy, especially when we're talking about something that is a touchy subject for us. Our sub-communication can turn the girl off instantly.

No need to think of DHV stories, you're enough man. You sound like a solid, all-around guy with a lot going for you. When you are talking with a girl, don't even THINK about the divorce and what she'll think about it, focus your attention on her and what she's saying.

You're good my man!

Thanks mate, thats some good advice. When i speak about the marrage/divorce i always menton the fact that i only did to get a house in the army... bad move you think?

I never go shakey or look down when i speak about it but i do try and let the girl i am talking to know it wasnt as serious as would think a marrage usually is.

guess i will play it your way and see how things work out.

top man, thanks mate.

I definitely wouldn't mention the "marriage to get a house" thing. In the back of every girl's mind, she's trying to see if you have the potential to be a serious relationship/husband material. When you tell her that you married a girl to get a house, it's going to come off as shallow. Just leave that part out completely.

Let me know how it goes man. Hope it helps.

If you dont tell, you dont lie. When you play a bit mysterious with the girls they will hold on their interest longer. You can for example play C & F back. If they crack you open too soon, there is a big possibillity that you loose value. If you want an example than you can compare yourself to a treasure box. As long as it stays close, you wonder whats inside of it but when you do open it, its not so interesting anymore. ( Example taken from Vin DiCarlo )
This is only for the night clubs and etc. Not for long term relationships!

[ Johnny B ]

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