Hey,

This is VERY unusual for me.. because I have always been able to escalate things within the first date or within the first week. But this girl is different.

Me and my gf have been dating for a little over 3 months now and have only "messed around" twice.. and have NEVER had sex. I am 21 and she is 19. We both live at home.. and it's really none of our faults.. she just never shows any initiative. Here is the situation I am in.

Her house: We mostly hangout at her house - and her parents are ALWAYS there - and they are always checking on us SO her house is out of the question.

My House: My parent is always there as well... but my madre doesn't give a care if I have sex and she doesn't mind if I bring girls straight to my room. But it makes my girlfriend uncomfortable to think of my mom and sister in the house while we are "doing it".

Car: She refuses to do it in the car and says it wouldn't be something she wants to do.

So now that all options are out the window - you can see where I stand. She wants to have sex and has told me before.. she is intimidated by me however (not trying to be cocky.. I'm just saying...) and she has said she is scared to... that might be why she doesn't make herself more flexible to the options we have??? I turn her on hot and heavy.. it's not a problem with sexual tension or attraction.. we just never can take it to the next step.. because we are always in HER HOUSE when we do it... and her parents are RIGHT THERE! I am frustrated at waiting and am getting tired of not having this physical part of a relationship. I feel less of a couple and more of friends because of this important factor missing. Any advice?? =/

is their any chance you can bring her round while your mum and sister are out the house? she cant really complain then lol

Actually I have thought about that - and my mom and sister hardly ever leave - they work from home =/

that sucks, you should suggest something like a mother daughter shopping day or something lol and when they've planned it, you just make sure the girls free on that day and boom...

but if your mum and sister dnt go out you could always find a understanding friend who would let you "house sit" while his parents are away...

Yeah, what he said!
I used to have this "problem" with a past ex girlfriend, we would always come to my house when my parents were here, and one day, I didn't go to school and she came over, when my parents were working at my brother at school, and thats the day we had sex.
She's maybe a virgin, and doesn't want her 1st time to be bothered by outside factors!

Every girl wants it to be special and puts it on a pedestal. I also think she's making excuses, girls will do anything they want to do. If she wants to do it she'll make it happen.

Just start messing around, and then when she gets weird freeze her out

Well if your mum is so awesome, then it seems like the obvious answer is to tell her your GF isn't comfortable doing anything with you when the house is occupied, and so arrange a time when you can have the house to yourself.