K this is going to start off sounding like a typical story but just keep reading. So there is this girl who went to my high school 2 years ago, whom is a year younger than me and she is easily a HB9. I never talked to her in high school because, well I dunno I was dating another girl at the time and she was a year younger so you know. However I saw her in the summer at a restaurant and we kept getting caught in this awkward staring at eachother, I really wanted to go over and talk to her but she was with her parents :and brother S and the setting did not seem right at all. I know this is kind of weird to be bringing this up now but i really want to meet this girl and its driving me crazy because I have no way of. I dont know anyone close to her from high school, at least that I still keep in touch with so I couldnt get a friend to hook me up. So I only have one choice and that is by adding her on the old forbidden facebook ha!

I know this is bad but that is honestly the only way I can get in touch with her, the only thing is that we have never talked, or really hung out with the same people so I have a feeling it will be really weird for her thats why I am doubting this and hoping to only run in to her someday, which may never again happen for all I know.

So my question, should I just add her on facebook, and if so how should I first start talking to her if I do??

Thanks in advance

Try adding her and saying "You look a lot like this crazy girl that was constantly staring at me in this restaurant last week" or something along those lines. I don't know if there are any Facebook "Openers" around on this site something worth looking into.

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Just add her bro. Don't explain who you are or why you did it.

If she doesn't recognize you or is completely not into you, the worst she'll do is decline your request.

If she's indifferent or undecided, she'll accept and you can take it from there.

If she's into you, she might even open you and save you the hard work.

Don't fret over it regardless, there's nothing wrong with adding people on facebook. It's not that big of a deal.

Ya i know I am over-reacting over the fact of adding her and I have no problem doing it considering all it is is a click of the mouse, but like I dont know really how to reply in a good way to "who are you" in worst case or what to say if she doesnt say anything considering it would be communicating by writing on her wall?

Just add her. Chances are she won't write anything to you when you do it.

If she remembers you, then you'll be in good shape.

If she gives you a "who are you?" type response, respond by saying "who are you?"

See where it goes from there.

Look at it this way...if you don't add her on facebook, then you have no chance to talk to her and you don't get her.

If you add her on facebook, you're atleast opening up the possibility.

You're good bro, don't worry about it.

So I just added her and ill see how it goes :p but does anyone one have something good to say to her if she doesnt reply anything keeping in mind that I have never talked to her before??

If you wanna go low risk, just bring up something about going to high school together. Easy enough.

So she accepted my friend request but hasnt replied or anything?
What should I say?
sorry I feel a little ridiculous right now but I have never done this before HA..I would find it so much easier in person

Well, what's your goal with her right now in regards to facebook?

If you just wanna get the communication rolling, just write something along the lines of "what's up g?".

Her response or lack there of, will give you an idea if she even knows who you are. Just because she didn't message you doesn't mean anything necessarily...she might be waiting for you to write her, she might be shy, she might've added you just to get another facebook friend...you'll never know unless you initiate the interaction.

just wait it out. she'll post things up about where she frequents. Her friends will post things on her wall. This will give you an idea of where she goes and with who, and you will be able to have a lesser amount of degrees of separation between her. If you go out and you see some of her friends get in touch with them so you're in the same social circles. I wouldn't mention anything at the restaurant unless its in person. In the mean time go pick up some chicks. You don't want to build yourself up on this trip over some eye contact that might not be anything.

If she posts up lyrics to a song or mentions a band or a song she likes, wait a few days to a week and then post up a youtube video for that song or band. That can get some conversation flowing your way so you won't feel creepy starting the conversation.

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Heres what you do.. facebook-->Aim/Msn--) then after you find what her deal is, hang out with her and her friends (game from there)... its a small world, and i'm sure you have mutual friends. so getting her number won't be a big deal... your not really a stranger to her, and she likes you... your thinking too much.. facebook is your only chance.. and on the RSVP messenger thing type (your the creeper that was staring at me at the restaurant, lol..)

I respectfully disagree with this one. If she DOES remember you, then there's no reason to flaunt that she was checking you out. It will make you seem arrogant.

If she DOES NOT remember you, that's even worse. She'll think "who is this stupid guy that thinks I was checking him out."

I also disagree with seeing what kind of music she likes and then posting up a video of it a week later. That's shady. You don't need to do all that to get the girl. If you like something she posts, click the like button or make a comment on it. No need to put up something that you don't care about just to impress her or she that you have something in common. Commonalities don't matter if she's not attracted to you in the first place.

Just be yourself.

Give me an update, I've been waiting to see how this plays out for you.

OH MY GOD BRO>. DON"T DO THAT>.. she'll defiantely know your facebook stalking. especially if she's a 9.. girls aren't dumb... talk to her, even on facebook chat.. if u mention you seeing her having dinner with her parents, she'll definately laugh about it and talk to you.. you have all these crazy assumptions about girls.. she'll want to talk to you cuz believe it or not she is curious about you..

dude hot chicks on facebook get drowned in messages and posts all day by guys they want nothing to do with. he should make her come to him. it seems like they haven't spoken before and when it comes to girls you kinda know online you want either the girl to come to you or for you and her to meet "in real life" without it being based on an online conversation.

Besides then he would have to take her out somewhere and then take her home when he could go dhv by picking up other girls in front of her and then taking her home.

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