Hey guys,

Right, I'll limit this to bullet points to keep it shorter:

- Met girl, quite like her, we got on well.
- Girl had BF, things were going badly, I helped her through any bad bits but was careful not to fall into Friends Zone.
- Girl broke up with BF.
- Hung out with girl in town, went well and we had good fun.
- Days later, kissed girl at party.
- Girl has told me she likes me, we've developed feelings for each other.
- We've not seen each other for like a week but have kept in contact.

Wondering where to go from here. When talking, she makes a joke of not wanting to talk to me if I'm not giving her 100% attention. She also says she doesn't make plans in advance. She wants control basically, and I've played a long a little bit but I'm not sure how to handle this situation properly. I honestly like her a lot and want this to go well. If she seems distant I'm just never sure what to do.

I may have more to ask soon but this will do for now. The situation was more complicated than I've made it seem due to other love triangles and friends involved, but I've left out those details to keep it more relevant.

Regards,

The_Prophet.

Tell her you are a busy person and if she doesn't want to make plans in advance then she might not get to see you. Never give a girl control, she will just abuse it.

Cheers for that, I know I can't let her take control, despite how hard she's trying.

It's also her birthday this week two things with this :

1) What the bloody hell do I get her ? She's said she wants socks. Socks + Card ?

2) I asked her if she wanted to go out on the Thursday night for her birthday, she effectively avoided it really, with the whole plans thing.

So I'm thinking I now leave it, we don't go out. Is this right or should I try again ? Don't want to go AFC on it all but I would like to see her.

Get her something like chocolate, no need to spend all that much. For the birthday thing, tell her you don't play games. If she doesn't want to make plans to go out then count you out, you're going to make other plans. If you do make other plans make sure it's something that she can come by and meet you though. Like a club or bar, just be like I'm at XX having fun, you are welcomed to join me. If she does meet you or whatever you can go from there.


You can try again, just make sure you say you don't play games(shit tests).