I saw this girl last week on Thursday. Things went alright although I probably acted a little too much AFC but I did get some CF in there. Anyways, she was talking about a party this weekend and mentioned I would be welcome to go. I see her on Monday at the gym (where we originally met) and talked to her and told her she should come help me pick out a costume on Wednesday. She agreed. Now Tuesday comes, I call her at 8:30 cause I had some questions on the party like when and where. I wanted to coordinate some things because of the gator game and I wanted to watch it with some of my friends. I also wanted to confirm the party since my friends down south were having a party and I was probably going to go to that one had I had nothing else to go to. She didnt answer. So Wednesday comes and I send her a brief text just saying hey you popped in my mind, stay out of there... no response. I then texted her at 6:00 saying hey i will pick you up at 8:15 ok? nothing till 7:15 and she said, "Hey sorry but my golf team and I won our match and they are dragging me out to celebrate Do you think we can do this another time?" Now do this another time?? We were going to get my costume so there is no other time. But anways, at that point, I should have used a more CF response but I basically said, ok yeah.... just call me when you are free cause I have some questions about the party.

She never called on Wednesday and never called today.She then sends me a message late tonight at 11:00PM (Im normally sleeping at this time during the week) saying, "Hey are you still up? I am sorry its so late but I wanted to talk to you about this weekend if you still wanted to hang out."

Now, my friends are doing a halloween thing a few hours a away that I was going to go to until this girl. Should I ditch her and go to my friends' party? How should I respond to her message? to me it just seems like I am an afterthought and I want to show her that my time is just as important. Or do you think I am overreacting and I should go to the party with her? I was going to send her a message tomorrow morning...

She doesn't want a man she found in the gym. How is she going to explain that to her girlfriends. Oh I meet this random guy in the gym, but he isn't like the other guys...

She is going to hate that.

Go to your party with your friends. If you even text her and go to the party with her after she treated you like shit then you are a scrub and she will know it. You will therefore lower all your status.

It's a game. Start playing it.

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Magnum,

Well it was the Y we met at and it was a military style workout class... We just started talking and went from there

Anyways, you confirmed my thoughts though. Ill just tell her I am heading to my friends...

Thanks Magnum.

I would text her BUT bust her balls about her cancelling. What's all the shit about being dragged out to celebrate? Tell her in the text that you considered it RUDE that your plans and time were second place. She sounds like a real flaky bitch. Find someone else.
Oh the last text she sent where she said "...if you still wanted to hang out." I'm 99% certain that is girl code meaning - I'm not interested but I'm hoping you will reject me so I don't have the awkwardness of rejecting you, I'm a good girl and good girls don't do that.

Skypirate...

I totally agree with you. The way you interpreted the last line is exactly how I interpreted it. I decided to completely move on and forget her. Plenty of other fish in the sea and I don't need to waste my time with someone who doesnt give a shit about my time. Thanks for the help guys.

I think you should tell her before you move on. If not you will just look like a coward.

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If you mean tell her it was rude to cancel at very short notice and then move on I'd agree.
In fact every man should do it when being treated like dirt. Let them know it's wrong. Maybe they'll learn something.

Oh the last text she sent where she said "...if you still wanted to hang out." I'm 99% certain that is girl code meaning - I'm not interested but I'm hoping you will reject me so I don't have the awkwardness of rejecting you, I'm a good girl and good girls don't do that.

I definitely agree with this, recently I met a girl out with friends and attempted to hangout with her. She blew me off to do something else then asked about hanging out later that week and "if I still wanted to hang out". I talked to her friend after that and found out she wasn't looking for anything but friends. Haven't spoken to her since.

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In my opinion one of the toughest things is to figure out when girls/women are being polite or they are interested in you. I'm getting much better at detecting it nowadays.

Lol Id Reply ; Can we do this some other time , my friends are having a party and its going to be awesome cant miss , talk to you sometime ; later.

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Boom-Chacka-Lacka. Well thats just vengeance. Whenever she tries to text you I would say that "I'm going to a party with my friend that I just met.. maybe some other time." She will get pretty jealous because its obvious that you're talking about a chick haha.

I think jealousy only applies if there is attraction there in the first place. Think about it? If a woman is not attracted , she's not attracted and NOTHING a man does will change that