The more you interact with people, the more you see that if you are predictable in your conversations, you are considered borring and uninteresting.
And the more you are unpredictable, the more you are considered excting and interesting. And people will want to be arround you just to see what will you say next.
So if you go out and talk with people for 10 straight days, you will come to a realization of what a push pull is.
You will realize that you can not have an interesting conversation without being fun. And the way to be fun is by doing exactly this.
So think about what people ordinary say when they want to meet someone? Yes, they give compliments, they kiss ass, they are nice and polite. That is our intutive instinct.
We think that if we are very nice and polite, we will than make people like us and accept us.
Well, if you are only polite and extremly nice, you will maybe get people to like you, but you will not get them to adore you. And with women, you want to create attraction.
If you think about what is attraction, in physics, it is two different poles. Like two magnets, a positive side and a negative side. If you put one pole infront of the other,his oposite, they will by nature.. attract.
So the way you create attraction is by two oposite poles. One pole is a positive, which can be considered as a compliment, and another pole is a negative, which can be considered as an insult.
But what happens when you combine the two? You get electricity, static, you get ATTRACTION.
So the way the push pull technique works is, you say something that could be considered a compliment and than you immediately follow up with a "insult".
Insult is offcourse not meant seriously... or is it?
So an example might be like, you`re out and you see a girl with a really high heels.
You go: Wow those are really nice shoes (very booring, and predictable)
Her: Rolling her eyes like.. o noo..here is another one..
And at that point you go.. do they come in women sizes as well? (interesting and excting)
And she goes: ooo..I cant believe you blah blah blah...
Get it?
or you might say
you walk up to her and say: Hey, I saw you from there and I wanted to say, that I think you are very beautiful.. Are you single?(predictable and booring)
And than she goes: Um yes
And you go: (You pick the worse guy that you can find and point to him) because I think you would really hit it off with that guy over there;) (unpredictable and exciting)
Her: haha what, i cant believe you blah blah blah..
right? It rings true. When you read it, you go.. yea, that would work.. You know why? Because you already know how to be push pull naturally. But rather than using your natural instincts you go into your head and you try to pull a conversation out of your head. This does not work..
Another example of push pull does not have to be funny everytime. Altough I think you should keep the funnynes in it.. because it is better.. you can later when you already meet do a push pull without the funny aspect. Like this:
You: You have a really nice eyes
Her: Thanks
You: Heres a gum.
Her:O no thanks.
You go: Take it. (Indicating that she has a bad breath)
Chicks are good at reading small signs that you give. So you can plant your signs.
Swingcatt has a good program and he goes deep into this push pull explanation. I reccomend you check that out.
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