i have a question, is it good to remain secretive to a girl your after to an extent? For example just say that you are going for a girl and this girl already has a slight interest in you, and when u have conversations u never give to much of youself away, keeping things like true occupation, achievements, basically things that you can brag about, and just give her slight hints that u do those sorta things to keep her guessing and interested. would this make her more interested and hooked or will she eventually give me and say "well if u dont ever tell me who u are and what u do, im not going to care"

ive personally tried this first hand only a few weeks ago and she did seem to be interested and when she found out cetain things about me she didnt know she was more surprised and happy, but when it got down to the 3rd and 4th day things just went down hill she just didnt really care anymore and thought that i really didnt trust her to tell her these things.

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-Elegance

i prefer grounding storys. tell her about your life. then she will tell ya about her life, this is a part of comfort and trust building which is very important in MM. You make her feel like she is a part of your life and women love that...also important for the LMR

hope it helps

...if u need back up...

Yeah, i gotta admit, I don't tend to remain secretive either once i have someone isolated! I think its easier to demonstrate value aswell with past experiences!!! Making her feel comfortable! Also leading the conversation to find out what you want! But i always make sure i have her attention! Whether its leaning back, making her work for my attention or whatever!

When i am 1 on 1 with someone, i tend to think:

COMFORT + CONNECTION = ATTRACTION!!!!

Yes. Keep your mouth shut. If she knows your life's history, YOU ARE NOT INTERESTING ANYMORE.

Compliment her or talk about what she wants to talk about, let her do the majority of the talking.

When she asks you a question, answer with a short sentence and then quickly ask her a question back, hopefully staying on subject.

EX:

chick: What do you do for a living?

I handle investments for a private group. What do you do?

Like a tennis match, bounce the question back over the net.

Don't give away much. You just want to stick and move!

*also called politely answering a question with a question.

She REALLY wants to talk about herself. Even when she is trying to control the conversation with her questions.