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It's normal! Nothing special at all. You will have to wait a little bit to know whether she is a flaker or not. When she suggested Thursday and Saturday, you should have declined one of them (maybe you did that). Tell her you can only on Saturday. On Thursday you have some things already going (for example a meeting with a friend).
You could also have told her that you will have to call her to let her know whether Thursday or Saturday are ok (now it's you who is determining whether there will be a date or not).
It's good though that she proposed a new time. You shoul,d never push. If she didn't suggest anything, you may have asked her about another time. If she still doesn't know, leave it at that. Tell her you will talk to her another time and than only you will set up something. When you call or text her, don't ask many questions. It's better to make statements (little bit cocky and funny is good). Let her do the questions. Much better!! If you set up a date, make sure it's on your terms. Also make sure you leave first: don't wait till she says "maybe we should be going, it's late". You do this first! This also applies to phone ann text msg's.
As for now, you just keep cool. If you become nervous about her, you will probably screw up very quickly. A very good thing to avoid nervousness, confusion and needyness is to get some dates with other women. This is perfectly fine! If you get questions from about seeing other women, you will know she is into you. Make some jokes and tease her about that.
By the way, I don't get it why you post this in the "Relationships". You are not in a relationship with her. Put it somewhere else, for example "Mid-game".
Well, there's only been a few times she has cancelled, cause she has to take her of her nephews...
Even though I feel better about her suggesting another day, but you know, I go thinking like "Why not Wednesday?? Do you have plans?"
I don't tell her that obviously.
But you know, I get this weird feeling inside me when I don't see her or when she doesn't answer my texts or phone call (I know she barely has cellphone credit), she had to reply me a text from her brothers cell.
Usually, I'd call her, and if she doesn't answer I won't call until next day.
I get nervous, because I'm starting to really like this girl, she's told me she is scared to meet someone and get hurt, so that relieves me from her probably seeing someone else. I guess I have to know her more.
So, tommorow is going to be our 3rd time seeing (Im just going to her place and spend the day outside her house) ....
I was planning on starting to open up a little to her.
I want to do:
The Cube.
I want to ask her if she is shy to tell me what days she'd like to see me.
I wanna tell her that we should be honest at all times
I was also thinking of asking her, something like "If you'd be seeing someone else, would you tell me?" .... I don't know if it sounds to AFC, it definetely sounds a bit jealous...
What would be a good way to portray that in an alpha, non jealousy way? Though I've heard girls like it when guys get a little jealous ...
I also kinda want to start talking about my feelings (Its only the 3rd time we've seen each other) but we've known each other through myspace for a while, and we texted for like 2 weeks and 2 moreweeks on msn ... so we have this kind of connection.
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