Hello all.
Gonna make a long story short here:
3 weeks ago I met a girl through MySpace, we chatted, we talked through MSN, through phone, we texted, and it was all very different, it was like we both connected in a certain way.
Just friday I finally met her in person, the day was great.
We went to the movies, we didn't even saw the movie for being talking etc. We spent the whole movie, hugging, and talking.
Then we got out of the movie, and well, when we were walking I put my arm over her shoulder walking and she hugged me, so we were walking being hugged.
Then we went to starbucks for a coffee... she was really nervous here, she was moving a lot, playing with her hair, touching my leg. There were times where we would get so close to a kiss and she would turn away and start to say a lot of stupid things and play with her hair etc.
Until we finally kissed, we both admitted we didn't expected it ...
Then I took her to her house and I was like "Cool, now I can come visit you" and she was "Really? Just let me know" but playing with her hair and smiling so shy.
Anyways, on friday I thought it was good!
On saturday someone told me something about her, and I sent her a text message asking her about that, to not lie to me.
She replied with the truth, and told me she doesn't like it when people come with that childish drama...
She said we could be friends, this is fine, as we're both not ready to go into a relationship.
I didn't answered her text, but I called her laterthat night and told her stuff like "Hey, how is it going, you know, I wanted to tell you that I connect with you, I felt happy when I was with you, and I think you're different, and I won't let something someone else said ruin it" ...
So we talked about that girl, that she's always telling her, and her ex's stuff about each other.
She only asked me to take things slow, not go into a relationship.
Im ok with that.
So the point here is, how do you keep a girl excited in you? Like on the first date, she would be playing with her hair all time, I would be cocky and funny ...
What attitude should I have during our "dating" process for her to really want me as a boyfriend.
I want to see her a lot... but I don't want to rush things or appear too needy ...
What does the community recommend?
thanks all in advance!

As far as I understand from your post, you have just seen this girl once till now.

You are being too open to her. She mentions she does not want to get in a relationship right away. She probebly does this because she sensed that you would like that. Take it easy, keep it cool and aloof. Tease her. Don't be too honest and sincere, just have a good time. You need to get to know each other first a little bit. Don't mention a potential relationship between the two of you. Also, don't talk with her about her ex'es (and yours). However, it's good to talk about people and relationships in general in this stage because this stuff is compelling to women. A don't say a lot "yes", "sure", "exactly" etc, to her, instead tease her and make some jokes. If she starts teasing you, than you are in. If somebody tells you something about her, do not right away run to her to ask her about it. Wait, see for yourself, at least if you like the girl.

You need slowly to open up to her (after seeing her 5 times or something like that and after you have had sex with her). I think you are rushing and trying to bring things on a too high level too soon. Just give a little hard time sometimes and don't be to serious. Keep things playful

I have been with my boyfriend for a little more than a year and I still get butterflies and tingles and SO excited when I know I am going to see him or am with him.

The way he keeps me hooked is by keeping it interesting. He sends me messages and emails that only me and him understand- there is underlying messages within the actual message and no-one else understands them. This makes me feel as if we are in our own world and only the two of us understand each other- no-one else can penetrate our bond and that makes me feel secure with him.

Another thing he does is tease me like crazy and joke around. But then he will come out with something unexpectedly sweet which will make me fall for him all over again.

Hope this helps a little!

So he still teases you about stuff, and jokes with you ... but then also gives you sweet things like roses etc or a surprise ?
How about his attitude? How does he acts with you.. cocky and funny, does he teases you, about what? Or how would a conversation be?
If you don't mind!

So he still teases you about stuff, and jokes with you ... but then also gives you sweet things like roses etc or a surprise ?
How about his attitude? How does he acts with you.. cocky and funny, does he teases you, about what? Or how would a conversation be?
If you don't mind!

Be mysterious ... don't tell a girl everything .

be funny and cocky about subject and don't switch too much , girls love it when you are being vague they wanna find out what you know.

when a girl asks me about my most embarrasing moment - i tell her maybe at the end of the night. BECAUSE when you don't have much conversational material left you can switch back to that sucject and make a joke.
Don't make all your jokes at the beginning of the date... safe the best for later.

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[/quote]So he still teases you about stuff, and jokes with you ... but then also gives you sweet things like roses etc or a surprise ?
How about his attitude? How does he acts with you.. cocky and funny, does he teases you, about what? Or how would a conversation be?
If you don't mind![/quote]

I don't mind at all- I'm happy to help!

He teases me about silly things like he calls me a loser and we have a running joke/game where we compete to be the silliest. it sounds stupid but it's cute and keeps us happy.

He has NEVER EVER and I don't think ever would given me flowers- that's not what I mean by sweet things. I just mean the little things he will say like 'I missed you today" and asking about me and then listening to my stories. Also little things like he will be staring at me and I'll catch him and ask him what? And he will just say "you're so pretty" or "i love you so much" something like that. Other little things is he buys me random little presents that only mean something to us-no-one else would understand them but I treasure them.

The majority of the time, yes he is cocky and funny- that is his style. He always makes me laugh and he never acts like an AFC. I believe guys can do sweet things for a girl and not be considered AFC. He stands up for me and if I am upset with something, we try and work it out together. How else do I describe him? he is so amazing.

Our conversations are usually very flirty and funny. We do have deep conversations, but most of the time, I act very cute with him and he flirts right back. He still holds back a bit about his past- he definitely knows more about my past than I do about his.

Anyway after all this, there is probably one main thing he does which seems very simple but I don't believe can be faked. He makes me feel amazing- like I am the only woman for him forever. I never ever have any suspicions or worries that he will cheat on me. Yeh he talks to other girls, but he always makes me feel like there is no-one else but me. I love him!

Sorry for the rambling but hopefully it has helped a little.

So he still teases you about stuff, and jokes with you ... but then also gives you sweet things like roses etc or a surprise ?
How about his attitude? How does he acts with you.. cocky and funny, does he teases you, about what? Or how would a conversation be?
If you don't mind![/quote]

I don't mind at all- I'm happy to help!

He teases me about silly things like he calls me a loser and we have a running joke/game where we compete to be the silliest. it sounds stupid but it's cute and keeps us happy.

He has NEVER EVER and I don't think ever would given me flowers- that's not what I mean by sweet things. I just mean the little things he will say like 'I missed you today" and asking about me and then listening to my stories. Also little things like he will be staring at me and I'll catch him and ask him what? And he will just say "you're so pretty" or "i love you so much" something like that. Other little things is he buys me random little presents that only mean something to us-no-one else would understand them but I treasure them.

The majority of the time, yes he is cocky and funny- that is his style. He always makes me laugh and he never acts like an AFC. I believe guys can do sweet things for a girl and not be considered AFC. He stands up for me and if I am upset with something, we try and work it out together. How else do I describe him? he is so amazing.

Our conversations are usually very flirty and funny. We do have deep conversations, but most of the time, I act very cute with him and he flirts right back. He still holds back a bit about his past- he definitely knows more about my past than I do about his.

Anyway after all this, there is probably one main thing he does which seems very simple but I don't believe can be faked. He makes me feel amazing- like I am the only woman for him forever. I never ever have any suspicions or worries that he will cheat on me. Yeh he talks to other girls, but he always makes me feel like there is no-one else but me. I love him!

Sorry for the rambling but hopefully it has helped a little. [/quote]

I always like to hear tips from women =)
Anything else I can grasp from you?

Hmm what else would you like to know? If you want a girl, just treat her with respect and like she is equal to you because she is!

Let her know you care about her but don't act too AFC because she will get bored and find a guy who treats her like shit. You have to have that perfect balance of push pull to continue having a great relationship.

Any more questions you want me to answer, just ask

Quite frankly it is really refreshing just to hear the real affection you have for your bf. After a while in the community you can get a bit jaded. It was nice to be reminded of just how nice a good relationship can be. Thank you

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