Based on AFC Adam's concept of investment, personally at least, I've concluded that the more time you spend thinking of one girl or putting more effort into gaming her, the more feelings you'll have for her, which will make her your one-itis. It's the same way girls develop feelings for you by having them make an effort to impress you.

I got a similar problem to you guys. She's not tall, she's not that pretty, she's easily influenced, not that special a personality. But I'm hooked cos I tried hard to talk to her everyday, but now I'm gaming this other girl and I'm not even thinkin about the first one so much. Like a failed financial investment, just accept your losses move on to the next one.

yeah i would like to think i moved on im currently gaming to girls right now but i know when i move back its gonna be inevitable to avoid some attraction between us cause when we get drunk shes all over me but w/e maybe ill just fuck her when were drunk and see where that leads iv learned alot from this forum so ima put alot of stuff into use.

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UPDATE -

So we talked on facebook last night for about 2 hours ( this forum has helped so much i woulda never been able to keep a girls attention that long if i wasnt hooked on this forum for the last week) anyways im going to the movies with her friday night gonna see saw 6. Now im 100% sure shes re-interested in me again should i game her and get attached again after working so hard to relieve myself from the oneitus, or just play it like i wanna be the friend?? keep in mind im leaving for the military in about 2 months but im also gonna spend the weekend at her house during holloween weekend.

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You can only play it one way. Hard to get. You are just the friend. Imagine in your mind that you have another girlfriend. Pretend that you can't cheat on her. That is the only way you can get a girl in my experience. I have slept with about 50 girls. I had one serious relationship for about 4 years. In most case when I don't care about the girl they fawn for me, but they only fawn if they are lower quality. I have never been with a truly HOT girl. Hince the reason why I am here. I think you should take it slow, and be the friend. Show her that you have a good time together. And when you FEEL the connection then make your move.

Another thing. Be O.K. with not getting with her before you leave. Be O.K. with that.

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I did play it like a friend magnum but it was more like a first date kinda thing we had tons of fun and hung out after the movies walked the pier and just talked about a bunch of things. I kissed her after our second convo and she was really into it. Now she cant wait to see me again for holloween she told me that towards the end of the night.

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Thats great man. Keep your emotions under wraps. I can sense that you are just dying to spoon for her. That won't fly. Be cool.

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lol i so am but it is what it is ima just play it like a pua. I understand im in no state to be in a relationship right now. ill keep you updated after holloween thnx for all the help magnum.

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Dude! Thats great to hear. Fill me on on the Details. How did you get her once you came back? Was she just all over you because she missed you? Did you send her letters or anything. How did it work?

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