so Im just wondering if theres any things you can do to make dating a shy girl easier. Like how to go to the next step less awkwardly. This girl is really into me she asked me out, and texts me more than i text her, but its hard to get anywhere with her and make her feel comtorable doing things other than holding hands and cuddling and all that. Its pretty hard to find a way to kiss easily because shes so shy and going to even higher steps seem really hard.

Sorry for the lecture, but if you are just going to fuck her and leave her for your own ego, then she will revert to a state of far more shyness.

Since you are in the relationship form I will assume you want more than that. If so, then it's going to take time. She is going to need your explicit instructions on what to do. She is shy because of her insecurity. She need direction because she lacks confidence in what to acutally do. Tell her what you want, and tell her how to do it. If she refuses just say O.K. give her time to feel comfortable.

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ha ha nah man I want just gonna leave her, didnt mean to make it sound like that but ya that works just kinda guiding her on what to do.

oh ya its also kinda weird cuz I see her everyday because shes in my homeroom and a class i have everyday in school, so it's hard to keep having something to do everyday. Shes gotten to know me and there's just not always that much to say

That's ok you don't always have to do things together. You also don't have to talk all the time. A comfortable silence is always healthy.

If you ever notice yourself feeling like you have to do something with her just because it is a pattern then you need to get out. Do something different. Don't smother her, and don't be around her if you feel obligated to.

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My gf was very very shy when I first started dating her...honestly you just have to wait it out, hang out, get her to trust you and her walls will fall down. I found that I had to initiate most of the contact i.e cuddle, kiss ect ect. I know it can be very frustrating! but stick it out and it could end up being really good!

ya I usally have to initiate like the next level of contact and then if wev'e alrready done it shes ok with iniating it. Too bad for the most part thats only been holding hands and stuff lol. But ya she usally likes to go on dates with my friend and his gf with us but she doesnt mind if were alone because they usally leave way before us. I went to the movies with her but was retarted and went to Saw so it sucked to try and kiss at because its all gorey. Later on we went to the late movie cuz its easy to get in the movies free and it was a better one but shes super shy about kissing. I told her straight up we should but she was way nervous so I tried to make her feel at ease but its tough because shes not very expirienced at dating. She always talks about wanting to in texts and stuff and when she was right about something and I was wrong I said you win and shes like Do i win a kiss? In text shes tries to be all lovey and romantic but shes a LOT more shy about that in person. She does always like to cuddle a lot though shes just shy about kissing really. So when I was saying bye to her I gave her a hug and she kisses me on the cheek out of nowhere and says there you happy, so im thinking that she just will take forever to get anywhere should I just keep trying to lead her? Sorry about the length but I actually left out some stuff lol but just figured I'd post wat happened.

Yeah man from the sounds of things she wants to kiss you, cuddle ect ect but she just doesnt know how and she wants you to lead the way...it sucks being the guy haha but you just have to go for it and lead her...she will follow trust me! what do you have to loose? also when your hanging out just tell her to come cuddle dont sit around just say "come here" rap your arms around her and cuddle. Honestly alot of it seems scary! but its not at all once you do it.

Im guessing you two are young? with experience it becomes easy! way back when I was in highscool I could hardly kiss a girl with out shaking lol now I cant get a women to do just about anything with in a night or so lol practice makes perfect lol

ha ha ya man thanks Im gonna go with the close your eyes and count to three and I have a suprise thing this saturday bcuz she keeps telling me straight out she wants to be kissed but is super shy in person. I always mess around with her so she'll probaly only have a bit of an idea that that's when Ill kiss her. And ya I usally have no problem with getting a girl to kiss she just gets really nervous and I dont wanna push it way too much.