Hey gents,
another problem from here.
This is the situation (it's long, but try to keep up mates ):

1) [Some background story]:

I'm in a LTR right now, on the fourth month.
It's really serious, and we have a really balanced relationship -
with me as the Alpha.

When we were flirting, she suddenly slept with a guy
- and I cutted the contact to her: In 5 months(!).
Then I called her, and we gave it another chance
- now we are in the LTR.

2) [So, here is the roles]:

The ex-lover:
He is dissing my GF alot
(telling people alot of lies about her and so on,
without her knowing it - how I know: a friend),
and he have alot of attitude,
but in a very complicated way
(you never know when he is ironic or real),
so it attracts many girls - and also my girlfriend at that time..

What I've been doing:
I've told my GF that I have a really big problem with this guy,
and I have thought about kicking his ass
(she is responding very respectful about me saying that).
I've also told her, that I trust her,
and I know that all he is saying is lies about her!

My GF:
She have been attracted to the ex-lover, but when she slept with him,
it was because she missed me (I was at a boardingschool that time,
so I was not home very often).
She were crying all the time we had cutted the contact.
Now she is very very happy to be together with me,
but she hates when I bring up the subject about the ex-lover.
She says that it is past time, and we should not focus on that anymore!

But I can't really ignore it, because of this:

3) [Situation up to problem]:

SO, 3 nights ago he called her and asked
what she was doing.
She was sleeping, so she told him,
and then he said "Okay, goodbye then".
Luckily I was sleeping over, so she woke me up,
and told me that he had called.
I told her that I hated that guy,
and she should find out why he was calling her.
My first thought when she told me he had called was:
"He is seeing her as a booty-call"
- so I also told her so and she got really pissed at HIM.

Next day she called him and asked
why the fuck he was calling last night,
and he responded with this:

"Hey, I was just in the neighbourhood last night,
and remembered that you were living here,
so I just wanted to take a smoke with you and you'r boyfriend.
You'r still together, right?
He's a nice guy!"

Of course he was lying, we hate each other
(how I know he hates me - a friend. Yeah, I got insiders )
- but as said, he is very complicated,
so you get confused if he is ironic or real
- and so did my GF!

She hang up on him, and told me all what he said to her.
I responded with "I'm gonna talk with that guy!".

4) [Problem]:
I've talked alot with my GF,
and we have the same meening about him
(both hate him, and think that he just should meddle around our relationship.
She also knows his relationship to me now)
- but still, I think that I have to handle him in front of my GF,
'cause otherwise I'm feeling out-alphaed,
because he can do whatever he wants and still I'm only reacting to my GF.

I have not talked with him yet,
and I've told my GF that I don't wanna have anything to do with him............

Btw., bonus-info:
When me and my girl were flirting, I was chilling a bit with the ex-lover,
because we have much of the same friends.
We had a very "Gentlemen-relationship" to each other,
but could also have some fun together.
So he knew what was going on between me and her, before he slept with her.

So guys, any advices?

Cheers, and thanks in forward!

If she cheated on you, and you took her back, she is just going to cheat on you again bro.

I can't say if she actually cheated on me - we were only dating/flirting at that time. We hadn't had "the talk" and all that stuff, at that time.
So she didn't cheated on me, I was just taking us more serious at that time, than she was..

Seems she is still attracted to her ex and will still cheat on u with him, as a pua u better sound it to her hearing that any misbehaviour from her she is on her own.

Talk with her about him.

Find out if she thinks it is appropriate to have a relationship with the guy. It depends on your relationship with the girl. If you get really upset when she is around him, then you don't trust her and that is your problem. If you feel like he is disrepecting you then you need to talk with him.

Make sure that she is O.K. with never talking to him again, or if she still wants to be his friend. Find that out. Then go from there.

If she doesn't want to be his friend then you can call him and tell him that you don't want him calling anymore. That because he slept with her that there is past emotions and feelings and it's not appropriate to call ever. We both have talked about it, and decided that it is better for our new relationship if you don't call here.

Or you can call him and tell him that you don't want him to call her at late hours. Although, that may make him assume that it is O.K. to call her during day light hours. I think you should just due the above suggestion.

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Hey I had a similiar situation to where my girlfriend's ex boyfriend would randomly call her. he lived in another city though. But when he would call her it would be when i wasn't there. But she told me everytime he called and what he said usually it was him crying to get her back. So one day while my girl was out and she had left her phone he called I picked it up and it was him. So i had a little chat.

I said Oh this is so and so? then i told him Man!!! I just want to tell you your ex has some great suckable titties their delicious. How'd you F** that up hahahahaha

He was beside himself with anger. he was was threatening to kill me. i let him rant a bit. Then I calmly say look man she's getting the best dick of her life and when I'm hittin it from the back I love how her ass jiggles.
You have a nice day Biotch!! haha then i hung up on him.

You really can't stop him from contacting her the fact your girl is telling you he calls her stand for lot. Think she didn't have to tell you anything. Cut her some slack and stop trying to fight with that guy and quit bringing him up and stop hanging out with the guy

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