If you find your sealf in those situations, go the extra mile, and get you ass on the line and try out new things! if it dosen't work fine, there are alot more girls that you can practise on, and when you get it right. go go full monty
But since you asking for help this is what i whould have done.'
I whould first tell her it's not free to toucht you, she has to do somthing to get the reward, that is touching you, somthing easy like a riddle or somthing, to get back the control, chase cyckling.
And as 10 said, check out Vin DiCarlo's kino work, it's has a good base, but as all material, try to get your own twist on it, make it work for you.
Regards