OK, quick field report and question...
I'm in Vegas for my 21st (thanks for the wishes...assholes
).
I'm here with my Dad..we go to the top strip club in Vegas (it has the name of a big, horned animal in it if that helps) last night. We sit down, HB9 (let's call her HBSpanishFly) immediately comes up to me to do the usual stripper sales pitch bullshit...I immediately call her out on it, tell her that her sales pitch is terrible and then go over exactly how she should have done it, etc. It was funny and totally caught her off guard. I then called her out on her stripper name, said it wasn't even good and totally not creative, etc.
You should have seen her eyes at this point, she went from disengaged stripper looking for another desperate guy with cash to giving me that DDB (as Style would say) in like 5 minutes.
I then told her how I had no intention of buying a dance or spending any money period and went straight from that into "Beauty is Common"...blew her away again, teasing her in between, pushing and pulling like a champion martial artist...I was doing everything right.
We then proceeded to talk for the next 2 HOURS (during her primetime hours nonetheless) about deep stuff: psychology, relationships, self-fulfilling prophecies, the universe, personality types, our ambitions, we even both love the exact same certain YouTube video.
And this wasn't the typical, pick-up talk...this was REAL TALK, real connection, unbelievable commonalities...I don't want to say fate, but it was probably the most passionate and fulfilling 2 hours I've ever had (including sex...seriously).
Put it this way, she missed her time to go on stage to stay with me (was so into the connection she totally forgot about it). Her boss came over, got mad and sent her on stage (she grabbed my phone instead of hers as she left and totally let me see that she did it. We both smiled like "Cool", this isn't even close to over). After she was on stage, some typical creep grabbed her and took her into the private area for an half-hour session. Whatever.
No worries on my part, I was just playing it cool, telling other strippers I was gay and if they saw some good-looking dudes to send 'em my way, LOL....BUT, inside, I was thinking "wow, HBSpanishFly is remarkable. I've never connected with anybody that way."
So, my Dad finds me and is like "we gotta ggo, etc.". So I have the DJ page HBSpanishFly cuz she has my phone (smart girl with that move!). I see her, she runs into my arms, is so excited to see me and says, "I was like, if the most amazing guy I've ever met leaves me without me giving him my number, I was gonna be really pissed." (Gawd, she's so cool).
We exchange numbers, I call her on the spot, have a funny little convo there for a sec, make general plans to get lunch and do some shopping tomorrow, big hug goodbye and teasing kisses on the cheek for both of us. Later that night, we both had a little, fun text-flirting session too. Things are good..
I text her this mornig to text me back when she wakes up...no reply.
I call her a couple hours later...leave a funny, alpha message.
No reply.
I call her a few hours later....no answer.
I text her a couple hours later (Note that I don't care how many times I call or text a girl...my frame is obvious in person that I have options and if I'm contacting you a lot it's more like because I'm trying to help you out and make your life and reality better...not the other way around. This is something I've learned to convey really well).
Finally, she gets back to me, says she's been busy all day, had to drive back to Arizona (goes to school at ASU) and asks "how are you" (lol, girls are so weak on the text game). But this is a good sign as she's showing she wants to keep the convo going.
I tell her "Arrow in the heart, like cupid hates me
Can you get on the phone for 2 minutes?"
She tells me she's at dinner, can she call me after?. I tell her "yup, but if you don't, we're getting divorced and you're keeping the kids."
After a couple hours, I called her, no answer. Now 5 hours, no callback.
----End story-----
OK, so here's my take and what's going on:
We both had a crazy connection and both felt it, BIG-TIME. My dudes, I've #-closed more than 50 girls in the last 6 weeks, and not ONE of them came even close to the connection I had with this girl last night. It was completely mutual and I'm kinda scared I sent her past that emotional point, where it's like TOO good to be true and it almost scares her...
And that's what I think is going on. It was too good, we connected too much, it was like that 4-letter L-word and it scared her. She probably wanted to be sure that I wasn't just the smoothest cat who was just gonna get up in it and take off, which is why the plans never happened and now she's in another state, back home.
That's also probably why she didn't call or text back at first, and not until later when she was already in another state and nothing physical could happen between us.
Now, HERE'S the issue: I'm not losing this girl. I'm sure we've all heard the quote where you have to go through like 50 frogs to find your princess (or prince)...that's what this was. I have NEVER connected with another human being like that....and it was MUTUAL. She felt it too (kept talking about how amazed she was by me and who I was and how amazing our connection was).
What's my play from here? What do I do? I honestly don't care what it takes, I'm down to clown.
Help this DUDE out!
Holler,
WorkEthic
CHAT