I feel like she likes me but may be shy or nervous because she doesn't seem too socially adept. She may not have grown much from highschool because she still lives at home and commutes to school, is not involved in campus organizations, and still hangs out with highschool friends. I, on the other hand, live on campus and am in a fraternity. I feel like by making her leave so abruptly from the time she came over, we didn't establish any comfort and it maybe made things a little awkward for her. I will continue to convey interest but in a nonchalant manner, and still be self-amusing and non-reactive.

Also, we never talked or said anything about the kissing. Is it bad to bring it up?


Also, should I ever say something like "I cant figure you out and its driving me crazy"? but in a funny parody way

Also, should I also just tell her that i've been caught up with her for too long, cant figure her out, and tell her to just reject me? so i can get peace of mind. This way, at least i'll know whether she likes me or not

Reading some of the posts, I can say with 100% confidence that you're thinking too much about this girl..
Believe me, I just had an one-itis girl about a month ago, and I went through the exact same stuff you're going through. Even Thinking the exact same stuff.

My advice: Don't think about it. Think of your life as a log in the ocean and you're going with the current.
If it happens it happens.

oh...and don't assume..."she seems shy...she seems like gf material...it's all bullshit." If you're not 100% sure about her, don't make assumptions.

That's all I'm going to say about that.

what ever you do dont ask her to reject you... it makes you look out come dependent.. i personally would adventally talk to her about the kiss but it would have to be in the right situation it couldnt be something that you just bring up out of the blue like you have had your mind on it for a really long time or something... you wanna put off the image that yeah we kissed so what kinda thing like you have kissed tons and tons of girls. the way i would do it would be to get herself and you hanging out and chit chatting start going into your atraction skills, maybe dhv with a rings routine.. ill write that out here at the bottom for you. once you have got her opend and unlocked, shes not feeling awkard, good vibe in room, you can always tell when this is happening because it will seem like your going from one laugh to another and they apear like there on a roller coaster of emotions where there laughing, and then being fisty, and even punch you in the arm or wrestle with you. i like the wrestling if you can get them wrestling your almost guarenteed in... once you got them in this kind of a mood i would pull a classic mystery kiss close method..

pua: are you going to kiss me?
girl: yes
pua: KISS HER

girl: maybe
pua: lets find out.. KISS HER

girl: no
pua: well i didnt say you could it just looked like you had something on your mind

after you have kissed her... it wont really be nessasary to ask her about the first kiss

if you cant phase shift into the mystery close i would strike up a convo like this:

blah blah blah blah blah ( you need to be in a3 section of atraction before going into this)
pua: you know what really bothers me about you?
girl: what?
pua: you come over to my house ( say something that she has done, Something fighsty, something inside joke ish) and act like you didnt kiss me a few weeks ago... and further more whats up with that any ways?

im going to smoke ill post the rings routine after this one.

basically you ask to see there hands and look to see if there wearing rings... if not ask them what fingers they would wear rings on..

pointer finger is the god of zuse its a ring of power, confrintation, leadership.

middle finger is the god of dioneses its the ring of party, crude, irreverance

ring finger is the god of afroditey its the ring of love and hopless romantics its the only finger that has a vain going all the way to the heart

pinkie finger i forget the god but its a ring of violence currptness you will notice that mob bosses wear pinki rings

the thumb is the god of posyden he was the only god not to live on mount olimpus thus its way from all the other fingers this is a ring of indaviuality, difference, lone wolf.

New Update:

Yesterday, after class, I asked her if she was ready for the midterm. She said she wasn't and that I needed to help her on that. I asked her to study with me.

Later, in a text, she said she would come over under the condition that I can't "tickle, kiss, or tease her in any way".

She comes over later that evening, we do some Chinese, everything is chill, my roomates are home again but in their bedrooms, while we are just on the living room couch. I try to kiss her but she pulls away and refuses to cooperate, but I was sure that she just had ASD + shes a sheltered asian girl + she was very self conscious and worried that roomates might come out, so I kept on plowing. She gave in here and there but continued to resist and say that we couldn't do that. We just talked for a little bit after and she left because she had an essay to write due the very next day and it was getting late.

Now, I think I have her figured out somewhat, and I am no longer thinking/overanalyzing, just chilling

hmmm well its good that she came over again deffinatly a good sign. im thinking that she probably wouldnt have pulled back if she wasnt so concerned with her test. i would say that right now you really need to step up your game with this chick and definitly dont come across needy or overwhelming. i do have to point out some potentially bad news.. im taking it that this class is ending? and that might make it a little bit harder to keep your convo's going. it might even be a smart move to just LJBF her for the time being if you want to keep trying to make her your girlfriend.

Class isn't ending, we're just about almost halfway through the semester. I think her previous relationship lasted 3 years and that she broke up not too long ago.

i hope she's not an attention whore for your sake because i know how shit you feel when you find out your one-itis isn't what you thought. Ask the other guys whats going on with her and them

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'I think, therefore I am'
I am, therefor I game
I game, therefore i score.

i hope she's not an attention whore for your sake because i know how shit you feel when you find out your one-itis isn't what you thought. Ask the other guys whats going on with her and them

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'I think, therefore I am'
I am, therefor I game
I game, therefore i score.

ok thats good, i would probably aproch the situation like this then:

first ask her what shes doing right after class no matter her answer ask her what shes doing after that (find free time, Unless she says shes doing nothing)

tell her hey were always just doing school work lets go hangj out and do something actually hang out like friends. ( your going to set up your day 2 )

if it doesnt work for that day like shes completely busy act like its no big deal and say another time.

wait atleast 2 days before asking her again you dont wanna come off as needy
(especially since you already are self diagnosed with one itis)

keep your attraction game up through this entire thing (no confort building) SPAM its better to eject from a set early then going back into confort building

i still think you should probe the other guys for information. IE are they hanging out with her outside of class? Do they know anything about her 3 year relationship? if they are hanging out side of class i would tease them about doing stuff with her.. the key with that is not to ask if there doing stuff with her but suggest it and they should deny or confirm. this lets you save face.

once you got her on a day 2 make it some place semi isolated (there can be other people but not people in your group) you can kino once you get her laughing and touching her hair but only touch shoulders and upper back. no kissing (only say this because of her shy nature and her prior comments on her not wanting to kiss)

this day 2 is not so much about how to close but how to establish more attraction between you two and seal the deal between you two as friends thus she will have no problem wanting to hang out and you can continue setting up as many follow up days as nessasary.

P.F.S- yeah thats right i snuck the f word into my post script, if you can F-close after your day 2 like maybe setting up another isolation where it is just you and her im not saying dont take it im saying long term wise it might make things awkward for a shy girl and she might not continue to hang out or talk to you because she will feel she cant controll herself around you. ASD+1/2 ( i have closed on a shy girl a couple of times, and things happend too quick for her so after that we talked for a week or two never really got the chance to hang out with her and she just kept distancing herself, we dont talk now, except for over myspace.)

I'm not worried about the other 2 guys I know she likes me and not them and that they haven't hung out. She also has this guy friend from highschool that is always with her and they are together after class. If I am asking her to hang out won't it seem needy? Should I just back off right now? Also its hard for me to hang out with her after class because the one guy and the highschool guy friend and another girl are always around her, can't isolate. I feel like I've always been the one asking her to hang out so I want to just back off and just be chill

I also think that I'm thinkin about her too much and that I want to get at another girl to get my mind off her.

++++ anything I can do to get her to open up to me more?

you can start by not giving a shit about her.

Go out and see different girls, make sure she knows you are too.
I feel for you, I was in the same position you're going through. It's ironic, the guy who cares for a girl and treats her special and unique will never get that particular girl. The guy who acts like an asshole and shows the girl that she's the same as every other girl, is usually the guy who ends up getting the girl. And funny enough the girl will then go to her friends and bitch about how she's so stupid for going with the jerk and how all guys are scum who don't care for her blah blah blah...and then two weeks later she'll do the same thing again...
of course I'm not insinuating that all women are like this, but most are...let's say 80% shall we?

hahaha.

not to be little your advice but really it has nothing to do with how much you care or how well you treat the girl... infact thats some what of an AFC mindset.. the asshole doesnt get the girls the guy with the best game gets the girls you have to be reading the play book to understand that asshole behavor can seem very attractive to girls in the sense that when done right its Cocky and Funny thus being used by PUA's as an attraction developer. if you know she likes you and she is not interested in any body else it shouldnt be that hard to set up a day 2, my guess is that she has another interest in this guy from highschool or guy in class. You need to break your confort zone and hang out with them even if you cant isolate IE: if the seats aren't set in stone sit by her, if she says she is hanging out with who ever when your setting up a hang out tell her you'll tag along and dont mind.

honestly the best way to show that your not needy is by taking a risk that you might actually loose the girl. and if you dont care that you loose the girl because she is replaceable, you become the prize. if you loose her you will have atleast broke your fatal one itis to this game and learn your lesson of why you cant let that happen.

important note: if you and the guys that she normally hangs out with outside of class are hanging out do not amog them. you need them to socially proof you so you can become part of the social circle. Best case senerio is if you get to hang out with her and her girlfriend I WANT YOU TO GAME HER FRIEND. assuming that she meets standards pretty much anything over 6.5