Ok guys i just recently moved to CA to live with a friend that offered me a place till i get outprocessed(joining the military). So when he pics me up from the airport i notice this chick that hes driving with when i first seen her i wasnt attracted to her at all(btw this chick lives with him and there not seeing each other or anything there like childhood friends think of each other as brother / sister shes staying with him SPAM). That being said the following day he through a party it was great met all his/her friends and they loved me and i was getting alot of attention. I then soon after started using that attention to flirt with this girl (same chick from airport). Im guessing it was about 11 shots and 6 games of pong later that i started to feel very attracted to her and the night went on people started leaving ect. We ended up on the loveseat sofa watching a horror flick with her friend on laying on the long sofa(her friend that was totally digging me btw) she asks about half way through the movie to walk her to her car shes sober enough to drive so i do. When i come back inside the chick i was sitting with didnt move to take the girls spot on the long sofa and even better she was already wrapped in my blanket scooted close to my side of the sofa. Right there i knew this was possible when i sat backdown i put my arms around her and we cuddled for a bit while i rubbed her arms cause it was freezing that night at that point in time i remember my friend matt ( the dude whos house it is and my best friend / her childhood friend) telling me not to ever pull a move on her so out of respect i didnt cause he was nice enough to give me this opportunity to stay with him and i didnt want to fuck it up. It was hard believe me especially since she was giving me signs all through the movie to make a move on her but this night i decided to not be a jerk.

The next day me and her didnt talk much she sat in her room all day till she made plans with her friends and i had some time with matt alone. I asked him what he thinks about me being with her as a boyfriend and not just trying to fuck her and move on, i told him im not that kind of guy ect ect. Anyways he tells me its cool as long as i dont fuck her over which came to me as a surprise since the day be4 he was so dead set on my not seeing her which kinda made me upset seeing as that i coulda banged her brains out.

Ok so its been about 3 weeks i been staying here at his house with him/her now and nothing other the occasional cuddle has happened except now its different with her. I really really REALLY ( ok ill say it im obsessed) head over heals for her idk what it is about her but once i got to know her i just kinda fell for her. I've never felt this way about a girl. Heres the tricky thing the reason i never made a move on her since that night is that shes givin me hints about her ex ( dated for 4 years just recently broke up 2 months ago) like she says she doesnt want a boyfriend again for a while ect ect. Thats the reason i been so hesitant to make a move on her now i guess im scared of rejection but more of scared of losing the kind of relationship we have now cause if i make a move and it goes wrong its gonna be awkward between us and im living there with her and her like best guy friend. So i kinda took the highschool approach of asking her best friend katelyn if she liked me ect along that subject and OMG was it the WORST IDEA EVER. So she ended up talking to her later that night and told her that she never thought of it before and and doesnt really know me like that but likes me as a friend. Before i could see her that night i whent to stockton about 60 miles away to stay with my dad for a week and a half to help him around the house with landscaping and remodeling there doing. And here i am now at my dads i have about a week till i see her agn i need major help here i never felt this way about a girl than i do about this one.

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/bump

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~Ricky

Girls are fucking dumb. I'm serious. They cant see a good guy right in front of them. They let their emotional control them. This girl Jill just opened up a sore in my side and Now the whole population of women is going to be PUAed by me. Fucking cunt.

Anyways, So you had your chance. You blew it. Story of your life... I know. Story of my life too. I rationalized my inability to make a move based on many factors. I think that you might of thought it was out of respect, but in reality the thought came from fear. After that, you had self-doubt and the girl could sense it. Now you have one-itus. I have one-itus too.

The only thing for both of us to forget about her and move on. Hopefully she will realize what a dumb fucking bitch she is and come back. If she does then jump on it. I think it might be hard to do that though. I don't know the furture, but I know that obession leads to no where.

Sincerely,
Magnum45

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Walk Hard

just, next!

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True communication is communion―the realization of oneness, which is love! ~ Eckhart Tolle

RickyIZboss,

you're joining the forces - keeping a girlfirend is going to be difficult no matter what way you look at it.. i work on the rigs.. i know exaclty what losing "love" is like - thats why im so into this PUA stuff.. to better myself mentally - and to satisfy myself physically.. its what its all about.

go find yourself 10 other girls, sarge them into bed. Look back to see if she is still so good. If the sun still shines out her ring after that - then follow the light.

If not - then whats the worry? you've gone and dodged the bullet in the head that is called heartbreak.

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and Magnum45! you really gotta cool the jets..

having such a pure spite for the opposite sex isn't going to get you anywhere..
if you think you are stuck in a rut now - well face the thunder mate.. its going to be longer with an attitude like that.. read what you wrote - and look at it from our point of veiw.. you say "They cant see a good guy right in front of them".. but if you take hiccups in relationships like this.. then you are too volatile at the moment.

and Magnum, before you start shooting flak my way - i do know about heartbreak and betrayal... i loved an absolute stunner once and got back home from the rigs a few days early to surprise her... but only catch some guy in the sack with her - she's now a hopeless deadbeat, and this guy hasnt got much on an earlobe left - i dont suggest getting Plugs (earlobe streching jewlery).

I look back and laugh.. i drive past in the porche whenever i can.

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thnx for the reply's guys but the fact that ima be living with her for the next like 2 weeks possibly even longer depending on my ship date is really gonna kill me i have such a strong attraction to this girl its absurd. The weekend i go back theres gonna be a holloween party dress up only hopefully something happens there ima try to learn as much pua mastery as possible till then. Illusionist i understand what your saying and can respect it but what if i dont wanna get 10 other girls i just want her. Ive had many sexual encounters and there just passing pleasures i dont think ima come across a chick like this agn thats what im so worried about.

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~Ricky

thnx for the reply's guys but the fact that ima be living with her for the next like 2 weeks possibly even longer depending on my ship date is really gonna kill me i have such a strong attraction to this girl its absurd. The weekend i go back theres gonna be a holloween party dress up only hopefully something happens there ima try to learn as much pua mastery as possible till then. Illusionist i understand what your saying and can respect it but what if i dont wanna get 10 other girls i just want her. Ive had many sexual encounters and there just passing pleasures i dont think ima come across a chick like this agn thats what im so worried about.


IDK why it double posted must have glitched

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~Ricky

What your saying is reality magnum and i appreciate you being honest but somethings telling me its not over yet i still have a chance to redeem myself from this. We casually have smoke breaks together ect i have time to talk and hang out with her being as that neither one of us work its just im kinda stuck on what to say /act now to break that ice and awkwardness between us.

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u know what fuck it fuck her and fuck all bitches like her im moving on im too good for this chick anyway shes not even that good looking she just had a good personna but fuck it im not rdy to settle down anyway.

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Yea dude. I know your pain. It is like if we give up on the girl we will lose her, but in reality if we give up on her she will #1 want us, and #2 miss us, #3 stop taking us for granted, #4 feel better about ourselfs. Always remember there are more fish in the sea. It sucks to take away the romance from life, but the reality is that we have to move on. The pain from one-itus gets us no where.

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you know what magnum i hope im strong enough to have the same attitude when i move back in with them. i hope those feelings about her dont come back up. Im going out of town this weekend to see some old friends ima try to get laid considering i havnt since i met this chick it might just take my mind off her in general.

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~Ricky

This is a big problem for a lot of guys. I would like to figure out why so many of us have this problem.

I know it has to do with like projecting your self esteem onto the acceptace of another person, but how can we not feel good about a women liking us...

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i would like to find that out myself maybe knowing that answer might be the answer to the problem. In any case im leaving for the weekend ttyl be back sunday.

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~Ricky

I have one-itus. I worked with Chief and he suggested one-itus came from the Illusion of Seperation, and that causes obsession. Obsession is similar to infatuation which means to care so strongly for someone -- when they don't care about you.

I imagined my obsession, Jill, to walk out of my life forever if I didn't talk to her THAT VERY DAY. I came up with all kinds of scenarios on how she would drop the spanish class we have together, and how I wouldn't see her again. So, I would have to motivate her to stay in the class and persuade the teacher to give her a break. That is why she felt pressure from me.

My question for you. Did you ever imagine that if you didn't act, that she would be out of your life forever?

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yeah i did because the fact i was going into the military i knew that i would be leaving and possibly never see her again.

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~Ricky