hey umm, kinda new to this but err here it goes.
i have a girlfriend right, we are pretty close, we talk alot and everything but latley there is this otherguy she has been talking to alot via text/bebo/msn and she always mentions him in our conversations, not sure what to do, shes told me that nothing would happen with them. but he likes her an i can see that his trying to get a hold of her over me. his attracted alot of attention from her an im starting to get worried :/

any tips on what i should do?

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Two main thing you have to consider,

do you trust her?


and is she worth the risk?



if you don't trust her it will hunt you every either until you break up with her or he she cuts off ties with him, and if she doesn't see a problem with txt, msnin him then she will find that hard to do.

if she is not worth the risk then why worry yourself over it? if she is worth it then you may have to be honest with herjust tell her how you feel and what the third party is doing to your relationship and give her time to think. ignore any other occurrences or laugh it off like if it doesn't bother you (even if you are pretending).


if you take it on then you come off as the jealous type and that can ruin your relationship as you have no proof that anything is going on between the two.


did you and your gf set any rules before the relationshiop started suvh as liming wth persons of the opposite sex, dancing on other ppl etc?

I suggest having a talk with her. Tell her you know he likes her and it bothers you that you are texting him. And that any communication with him is leading him on. However, don't mention that she can't text him, just say, I trust you, but keep in mind of what I said. She might not stop text/talking to him completely, but she'll definitely ignore him a lot, until he gets the hint to stop trying. However, if she doesn't stop texting him a lot then you need to have another talk to her about respect in a relationship and set some ground rules. Also, if possible mirror her actions so she knows what it feels like to being in your shoes.

i agree with all the above except the mirroring part. mirroring works in some ways as when she's in a mood or not feelin to talk etc, but not when it involves a third party in the relationship. it will look more like revenge, especially after he talks to her about it. i agree with the rest though. talk to her and tell her the texting is disrespecting the relationship