Oh my god, if any man could have been witness to what I did today (or rather didn't do) PUA or not, they would have had to beat the shit out of me. I mean I think it's a man-law.

<p>Here's the deal, I've been seeing this girl at my college every tues. and thurs. for a few weeks now and she's been checking me out and looking at me like every time. At the time I gave her an HB8.3 to 8.5 rating, but I was wrong, so wrong, she's at least a 9. But I digress.

<p>Anyway, I dk if anyone read my previous AA post but I have it, bad. And it reared it's ugly head again today. The 9 formerly known as 8.5 came into the starbucks on campus and she came and sat right freaking next to me. My heart started beating faster, I couldn't breathe, I started shaking, I got that slight surface sweat (the kind that you get when you go outside and it's really humid), I felt like I was blushing, and was burning up.

<p>Let me describe the girl: awe-inspiring heaving breasts, a tight little ass, delicious legs, these lips that just begged to be kissed, long dark hair, and beautiful brown eyes. I swear to God, she's a Van Morrison song just waiting to happen.

<p>Anyway, I just can't say anything, other than the typical starbucks small talk, but so little of even that, it's not even worth mentioning. I couldn't say an opener, I couldn't say a damn thing, let alone start going into a SS pattern (SS is my school of choice).

<p>I'm pretty damn sure that I've screwed myself. If I were this girl I wouldn't give me another shot. My friend said she probably thinks I'm either gay, not interested, or taken. Like I said in the subject line, I don't deserve a penis...

<p>So let me sum it up and be the pussy that I am and ask, does anyone have any idea how I can salvage this balls to the wall fail?

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How to get un-anxious, fast:

Drive to a part of town you don't go to much. Explore it. Talk to as many people as you can. When you see someone you are anxious about, say this to yourself, 'The fuck is this person going to say back to me? They don't know me. As far as they know, I'm this handsome well-spoken gentleman who wanted to talk to them". HBs, not so HBs, dudes, old people, kids, etc etc etc.

Just talk to people. Any people.

How to get un-axious, slower, but better:
Get a job in retail. Within 2 months, your approach anxiety will cease to exist.

Thanks, yeah I'll give that a shot; and about that bit about getting a job in retail, I actually used to work in retail and now that I think about it, when I was working there I wasn't nearly as anxious, so yeah, good advice, maybe I'll try and get another job in retail too.

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No offence but any man who uses speed seduction is so heavily desperate it makes you think you have to use it all the time. You could have said hello or hi or something. Sometimes i think the community actually makes you worse

I'd have to disagree with you about the guys who use speed seduction, I mean why do any of us do any of this? speed seduction is just geared at getting her to feel things using only your words, and since I'm a writer it appealed to me because I tend to do that anyways. but I understand what you're saying though, I thought it was lame and pathetic until I started studying it. And I agree with you on that the community can make you worse; I've had that thought before too.

<p>And while I did talk to her a little bit, I couldn't think of anything to get a conversation going, I could think of a million things as soon as she left though. I'll be completely honest, my AA has never been as bad as it was yesterday, I think it was just something about her.

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I'm sorry, I don't quite follow. Be careful of what?

<p>But on a sidenote, my buddy and I are going down to the riverwalk tonight and gonna do some sarging so hopefully I'll be able to work on my AA at least a little.

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Back to basics: being relaxed.

Do some rounds of high intensity sprinting every few days.
De-stress and relax your whole body whenever you can (daily is optimal) using stretching and yoga positions.
Ross Jeffries Energized breathing.
Body awareness excersizes.
Living in the moment perception.

This is to get you to feel your best self and stay soooo.... fcuking...... reeeellllaaaxxxeeedddd...... when you're in a situation like that again.

Most of us have felt that way at some time when we were talking to a hbplatinum that we couldn't take our eyes off of. Its happens mostly because you are caught off guard and too concerned with the outcome, thinking too much.

When you're relaxed, present and aware though, you simply don't get that anxiety. I still get a rapid heartbeat when this happens sometimes, but it comes and oes in about a few seconds. Its like my biological response is "oh shit... fcuking hot chick!," but then you catch yourself and "relax, shes just a girl, you know what you're doing."

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Thanks for these, I'll start doing them.

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When I unwind, I'm colorblind,
They're all the same to me."

I dont know why you try to hide the fact that you like the fuckin girl.

I think that you are really trying to hide the fact that you are insecure with women, that you want their acceptance and that you are needy as hell.

And to cover that, you use techniques, openers routines etc etc...

Acknowledge that you are insecure about women, that you are needy.. accept that this is in you.
When you do, admit to yourself that these things are unhealthy and that its time for you to behave like a man.

Than, when you see a girl that you like, go out there and say... You know, I think you are too beautiful to be standing in this line.. I really think you should get over there so I can order my coffe and drink it in peace..

But be cool.. dont be needy..

Or you can do a bunch of awareness exercises to cover up the real problem, that is your insecurity and neediness.

O I think that awareness excercises can really help you.. they did to me.. but work on your real issues first.

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I have anxiety for other things, but not approaches. Sucks to hear that happened, but yeah...I agree with what others said in terms of relaxing. One thing I might add is that it seems like you're doing a bit of pedestaling. sure, you can appreciate her and her anatomy, but at the end of the day she's still just a girl. i think that's a realization that everyone goes through at some point, and that is when they realize it's not that big of a deal-from a scientific standpoint she is no different than any other female.

anyway, i don't know if you've heard of the confidence boost cocaine gives some people, but i've come to the conclusion that most stimulants do the same for me. i actually find caffeine raises my confidence to the point where i speak freely without worrying about the consequences. it also helps me with sexual framing, because i have no care about what the woman thinks about my sex-talk. anyway...caffeine mints and caffeine gum do good for me.

hopefully you get over this AA. good luck. maybe you should try talking to this girl again, her first impression of you isnt too great, but i think you owe it to yourself to prove to her you're more than she thinks.

<p>You're right, I am insecure with women and needy, I'll readily admit that, I mean, shit I haven't had a date in over a year. It really is time to just behave like a man.
<p>You're also right, I think I will talk to her when I see her again. And I went out tonight with a buddy of mine and the guy's a freakin natural and he decides to help me get over my shyness so he pulls a waitress over to the table to talk to me and she and I talked for like an hour and a half and a couple other waitresses joined us, but I didn't get her phone number cause I pussed out but I definitely walked away feeling like "why the fuck have I been so afraid of that?" (talking to girls that is, not getting numbers.)

<p>But man, some solid advice, thanks guys, I really appreciate it. And I'll be sure to let y'all know how Tuesday goes.

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Send a blonde to me.
When I unwind, I'm colorblind,
They're all the same to me."

Nice to hear you talked to some people. Being around another friend helps a lot as long as they are a pretty cool person. I find it REALLY helps to work in small small small steps...you didn't #close this time. whatever, you made progress. next time #close. and who cares if you don't, at least try to get to the same position in attraction and rapport that you did last time, because that is within your ability now. you'll break out of your comfort zone soon enough, as long as you continue to be aware of the fact that you have the ability to step out of your boundaries and get these girls' numbers.

<p>yeah, thanks. And last night was great it really helped me get out of my own head and realize talking to girls aint a big deal, and my friend showed me that getting numbers is no big deal either, so, I'll keep working on it and I'll be sure to post my progress as well.

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"Send me a red-head,
Send me a brunette,
Send a blonde to me.
When I unwind, I'm colorblind,
They're all the same to me."

oh okay, yeah I'll keep that in mind, and be careful of it too. Thanks.

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Send me a brunette,
Send a blonde to me.
When I unwind, I'm colorblind,
They're all the same to me."

bwaha. Awesome subject line. Thanks for laugh (it was out loud).

Some good advice in here already but I'm going to have to agree with Hobbit. What you've described sounds like one-itis. You've said she's been checking you out for a few weeks but I'm pretty sure that means you've been checking her out for the past few weeks as well. Don't put so much pressure on this one girl.

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