Hi,

there is girl (HB10), the kind of girl that everyone found sexy on high school. Anyway now in College I see her a few times a week. I never talked to her and for me it was only a chicks that I will never met. But 2 weeks ago I was going to my class (I was late) so I was hurring. Anyway I was on the hallway and she was coming and was looking at me and smiled...I was surprised...really surprised, but I had time to smile back but I didn't say anything. Anyway, last week end I was on a club with a friend and I started dancing with a group of firends(only girls). I think that help me to look good. Anyway, another bunch of girls came and start screaming my name...again, I felt like the king of the dance floor. Every girl was looking at me, and guys too but not in the same way. Anyway,(still on the dancefloor) I tried to make eye contact with her but a guy came, told her something and she said no and step back and continu to dance with her friends. It kinds of freak me out because I was affraid she will denied me like that.

I want to know if I may have a chance. I want to talk to her but outside the club. I know my self and I have a big probleme. If I talk with a girl on a club and see her the next day, I will be shy to talk to her. If I meet a girl and dance with her on a club and see her the next day, it will kills me to talk to her. I don't know why, I am working on that part.

So what I want to know if after what I said, you think I can try to approch her. I sat at the same seat as her for 1 year in the bus. We never talked, only some smile because we knew we will sit at the same place every day. Also I have some friends in common with her. What I can tell her if I see her in the hallway?

If you see her you can just approach her (lets just say her name is Jane) and say something like,
"Hay how are"

most likely she'll reply w/ a single word answer like "good" or "fine" and if she askes you the same question back thats great but basically you can stack from there by just saying,

"You know it just dawned upon me that we went to the same HS and now going to the same collage and yet we've never gotten to know eachother why is that?"

if she replies by dissing you saying, "prob cuz you're really weird"
reply,
"Wow you must have really low self esteem we just started getting to know eachother and already your judging me."
or if she says like, "do i know you?"
you can say, "Wow someone has a short memory we sat next to eachother on the bus back in HS."
or just some sort of neg if you feel defeat coming up go out big!

However, if she says like, "hmmm idk good question"
you can just make it quick
"Well we should def finally get to know eachother, i have to....(FTC)... but lets get some coffee (or w/e) sometime and catch up, here let me get your number, i'll call you and we can meet up.




So something like that should work and you can always throw in some additional conversation pieces just dont be an intaragator just talk with her like you would with any old friend

and if she says "oh i hav a bf" or some shit just use a bf destroyer my fav is

"wow we just started getting to know each other and already your telling me about your problems"

or you can say

"wooo slow it down w/ that "im so hot" complex i dont wanna date i just wanna catch up"
if she asks "what do you mean I have an 'im so hot' complex"
or says, "I dont have an 'im so hot' complex"

reply, "yeah you do you obviously think every guy that talks to you just wants you so bad"

and from there you can be as fun and flirty as you want

- Hey men well i have a good opener and i have dun this cople times and works very well!. so the idea is get a piss of string or some thing long and gross,then i always approach from behind with this and touch her hair like it was in her hair. and i say Eeeeew?! how long have u being having this in ur hair? (wail smaileing . and they always like omg that was in my hair? il b like yeah .and take it from there u open now u it is your job to make her attractive to you . tip ( only open when shes may b alone or some were,when you know u can talk for 5 min. with this approach. have some thing to say after that b fun and Playfull. and do kino .

- Hey men well i have a good opener and i have dun this cople times and works very well!. so the idea is get a piss of string or some thing long and gross,then i always approach from behind with this and touch her hair like it was in her hair. and i say Eeeeew?! how long have u being having this in ur hair? (wail smaileing . and they always like omg that was in my hair? il b like yeah .and take it from there u open now u it is your job to make her attractive to you . tip ( only open when shes may b alone or some were,when you know u can talk for 5 min. with this approach. have some thing to say after that b fun and Playfull. and do kino .

Don't listen to a word Essential-E says, he's new and obviously has considerable inner game flaws. He's advocating having a thought+mapped out conversation in which you're not being a fun guy, you're coming across as someone with incredibly low self esteem. Don't take the premise of a neg too far, they're for people that are giving negative body language or are giving you IOD's, she, however is giving you IOI's, as observed by her continually smiling at you, giving you approach invitations.

You seem to be a fun guy, just go with the flow, just start a conversation with her, be yourself and be fun. If anything, act as if you didn't know her in High School, you don't want to say something like "Wow someone has a short memory we sat next to eachother on the bus back in HS." It just comes off as sort of creepy and loserish. If you need something to say, ask her if she had fun in the club the other week, anything man, it doesn't need to be mapped out. You guys obviously have some rapport from sitting next to each other for so long, if you didn't, why would you have sat together for so long? You can just say "hey, what's up?" because in all honesty, this isn't so much a cold approach as it is a warm one. If you go in there with the soul purpose of gaining her as a friend then it's not going to be weird, it's just two people catching up.

You can create attraction after the first interaction, and after a bit of attraction, she'll want more interaction. This isn't club game man, this isn't cold approaching people. People in College expect to find their partners in their social circles, from their mutual friends, in their every day lives, you don't need to have a preset conversation, it's college - don't go through it just using lines, develop your own personality and your own outlook and energy.

i aggre with James Roday. bot tray, not 2 say (hey was up, or hi ,or hey my name is mister nice guy here blah blah blah .) don't because she a HB that being open with this openers lots of time and shes gust gana think your like the other guys , and that is a bad thing. be a lil different and have fun.

Just because every other guy says the same thing doesn't mean that it won't have more impact coming from him - she's giving him IOI's, she's giving him AI's, they have some rapport going, it's god damn about time he approaches, and coming in with some BS line isn't going to be the best thing. They've had contact, granted not communication wise, for at least a year - he isn't like a random coming up and talking to her, he's someone she recognises.

How does he know that she hasn't spent all that time wishing that he would just talk to her, that he would make contact, that they'd get together, etc. etc.

Being like other guys isn't a bad thing, there are a lot of guys that are very successful with women that don't rely on lines or routines. Hell, going in and having some bullshit line can have a negative effect if you have a shit frame, and a negative effect if you have a strong frame. It's college game, you don't want to be known as that weird kid spitting game.