I dont know how to remain alpha when someone approaches my girl when i'm away for a short time (when in a club/bar). Short intro:

So i've been seeing this girl for a while but she's had a boyfriend all that time, 5 days ago she broke up with him and the day after she came over and we kissed. Things are great, we go out every night and make out on the couch after/before that.

But something's bothering me. This girl and I are not yet officially together because i know her boyfriend and it would be painful for him to know she moved on so quickly (she broke up with him for me). I cannot show that much affection when we go out because everyone knows us and the ex-boyfriend (small town). That's why there are still a lot of guys going after my girl (she's really, really pretty and cute). Last night we were out with the two of us and we met up with 2 other guys that are mutual friends. I was talking to them for a while and immediately this random guy came up to her and started talking to her, I could see he was trying to seduce her.
I could see she wasnt that interested in him as she kept looking at me, but I tried not to look jealous (I wanted to punch that asshat's lights out). Still he kept talking to her and tried to make her dance and she didnt move away from him. This girl is someone who makes 10+ friends a night and gets a lot of attention from guys.

How do you act in these situations? I know she's going home with me but still i cant fucking deal with all these guys coming up to her.

Hope you guys can help out a little or share your thoughts! thanks

Well you have got to have that confidence that no one will take your girl away. Relationships are built on trust so you have to trust her.

Wheneever you have a hot girlfriend those are the sort of situations you have to deal with and accept

Thanks for the reply.

I know I should trust her, and I can trust her, I do trust her. It's just that I find it so fucking hard to act like it doesnt matter to me but when I see guys trying their moves on her I just want to punch their fucking faces in, but I cant, because that's not very alpha.

Last night when we went out I did a little better though, just claimed her by hugging her from behind and kissing her neck when she was talking to some guy and gave him a big alpha smile.

Basics; Let her handle the boys herself, she should be able todo so, she should tell you when she's not, then you can go punching faces


Jealousy wouldnt bring you far my friend, nor will punching faces do.

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I know i wont ACTUALLY punch people i just want to...when i see them kino my girl i just go caveman, still i wont ever punch someone for some light touch

Nothing wrong with punching somebody when he deserves it .
But sometimes, even when your the boyfriend she hangs with, you dont want to alpha the situation. Let her have some fun... as long as it spices up the end result.

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If you're applying the violence into Chillburg's concept - I disagree with you. No guy in that bar deserved to be punched. They are doing what we are doing - socializing and sarging. They don't know if the girl is taken or not, so don't blame them for it.

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Violence should be your last solution. If you trust this girl, let her have some fun and live her life. When you later become an "official couple", then it would be wise to protect her from the other guys, however only when you see they cross the line.

yeah you're totally right Zentrode, it's just that i dont have that trust yet because, well we've been 'together' for like 2 weeks only (we've hung out for a while now though). I know she likes me a lot but how much exactly i'm not sure, and this girl destroys my inner game and confidence. Being with her makes me all romantic and soft and AFC again, because she's a perfect 10, inside and outside and I havent felt this way in years about a girl. I just get so scared of the thought of losing her, even though i know i have plenty more girls lined up that will date me. She's just really special to me so that thought wont comfort me