Hey guys,

I've met a big, big sticking points that I always encountered these last few days.
Every new girl I approach, they seems to be flaking after the first meet. Whether they're being cold, etc. I know there could be something to do with mood, but after I looked back at the interaction, I might've used too much attraction material.
I was too funny. I used too much teasing.

I've qualified the girl, and built some comfort with her, but still the attraction material is much much bigger than the other 2. Now, I looked back to earlier girls that I've approached with few teasing but with great comfort game. They didn't flake! They're as warm as the first time I approached them!

A few weeks ago, I watched an in field video by Sinn, he used so few attraction material, but he used a lot of qualification and comfort with her.

Is this my mistake? Am I staying on the attraction phase too long?

I also have questions:

1) Should the comfort be bigger than the attraction material?
2) When shall we reduce the usage of attraction material and go for the qualification and comfort? Any sign to look on? Is it the "hook point"?

Thanks guys

Best pal,
Steven

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Great questions man!

First of all, you need to recognize what works for Sinn who is a legit Guru won't always work for you or me. Also, what works for anyone else won't necessarily work for you. Those video clips are tough because they could have edited out a lot of other stuff going on that you aren't aware of.

To answer your questions. YES, you will spend more time in comfort than attraction. If you are going by the basic Mystery Model for everything then you are spending maybe 30-hour in attraction and literally 4-7 hours in Comfort stages.

There are instances where attraction is just obvious. Things are going very well, she's into you giving you all kinds of IOIs. You don't have to keep going through the steps it's obvious you can move on to comfort.

Good Luck on Your Journey

Some guys also just "assume" attraction is there if they don't get blown out. Having the confidence and assuming attraction is what a lot of guru's do. But realize that the guys doing this have years of experience going out 3-4 nights a week or more. So if you don't get it to work right away be patient.

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Thanks for the very fast reply, JSmooth. Your answer helped me a lot. But one thing that I concerned, when I re open the girl via follow up method (Facebook,text, MSN, etc). Should I re open with attraction material or just qualify and keep building comfort?

Thanks

Best pal,
Steven

PS: If it's possible, I request an answer from JSmooth. Thanks very much, man!

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Just comfort stuff.

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