I've had a few girls I've talked to online, and they were really hot. The thing is, they didn't have much on their profiles, and once I got talking to them on MSN they wouldn't write much at all, and some would just reply with one word answers. I tried negging them, which didn't make a difference, because they normally just replied with ''yh'' or ''lol''. I tried asking them why they were so quiet and they told me ''I cba to type''. I tried using routines which I don't normally do, and telling DHV stories, but they still didn't reply with much. What confuses me is that these girls are on dating sites, so they wanna meet guys, yet us guys can't build any attraction with them because they don't say anything. Does anyone have any ideas how you can get them talking?

Girls are less serious on dating sites (see ratios; it's like 5 males on 1 female something like that when it comes to statistics). They are open for contact but if there's no click, your lost directly, routines wouldnt bring you far i guess.

Why do you choose this way off getting into contact with girls?

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lots of gross generalizations on my part here, but here's what i say: on those dating sites, i think it's pointless to get a girl to talk more than she feels like. just let it happen however it happens. the sure fire way to get most hot girls talking, though, is to get them to talk about themselves. me me me.

totally agree with the statement "They are open for contact but if there's no click, your lost directly, routines wouldnt bring you far i guess." Just think of this business of getting them to talk more as a routine that's not working.

The other thing I learned from one girl in particular is that she didn't want to keep typing every day - she told me she was waiting for me to ask her out. She hated emailing and all that shit - she wanted to get together. I'd say within a 3rd back and forth you should ask them out. I had another girl tell me that if a guy doesn't ask her out within the first 2-3 emails, she figures he's just dicking around/isn't a go getter/lost interest, etc.

Thanks guys. That's actually been another problem for me - talking too much without meeting and then them losing interest. I normally get them on msn straight away, and my problem was that i would hold off meeting them and kind of play hard to get, and it kept fucking up. I have three girls I'm gonna meet this week, so yeah I understand why now rizkay. So you think that if a girl doesn't talk much and she's on a dating site I should just go for it and ask her out quickly? Cool, I'll try it.

It is frustrating when the girl you are chatting with seems to not say anything or not much. Some just can't be drawn into a conversation no matter what you do. I've got things down to where I can tell if it is or isn't my fault. Sometimes I am distracted but usually the girl is a bad seed. There are just girls out there that justaren't happy unless 20 people are trying to chat with them. It's a bit like someone that tries to watch 10 channels on tv. I usually just drop anyone like that. What could be an approach would be to just start adding her friends. Then use one of the new friends as a pivot back to the first girl. Most girls would be upset if you like their friend better than her. Unless you have nothing else going on, I'd say to not waste your time with a chick like that.

Yeah it's really frustrating, especially the hottest ones. That sounds like a good idea - adding her friends - I'm gonna try that. Thanks Graybeard.

Willie--I wish i could give you a sure fire solution to this. Some people just seem like they can't be reached with any amount of charm, humor, or challenge. The truth of the matter is she knows she is doing this and doesn't give a shit and knows that any guy can be replaced easily. That's not your fault of course. if nothing else if things ever go sour you can always tell her how that once her looks fade she'll have zero to offer anyone.

im talkin to one now, well i been taking to her for like 2 years but i never took it seriously til the last week she wanted to chill. but she would call me alot, but she never respond to messages/write back. She claims she doesnt really write on there, but i see her respond to other guys. BUT she calls me on the phone and wants to meet up etc.. *i know i should have meet up long ago btw but i didnt care*. We where suppose to meet up this week, but her daughter is back *her and her ex have joint custody so i figured ok maybe not when her daugther is around cuz she wont have getaway time*, i sent her a message yesterday about meeting me up at a spot for today *cuz the past few days on the phone she wanted to meet up*, and i havent got a reply yet.

I think ill just freeze her out til she calls me again. I know when i meet her Ill do some kino.

But to the OP i know what you mean, and also alot of shit can happen between the time you chat with em, then the period where they dont chat much, to when they actually do write back, shit goes on durin that period like other dudes or ex keepin em around etc.

here, this thread has some good insight on txt/IM game
doesent-text-me-vt53819.html?highlight=

personally i wouldnt be worried about how much girls type when txting or IMing,id be more concerned with the repercussions OF testing and IMing. my post on the thread i linked explains why (and i think its a good explaination so check it out!) lol

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Good thread. Getting more responsiveness out of girls is definitely something we would all like to do.
Here's something I just made up and tried it twice.

"God I love your one-liners. It's like watching an episode of CSI. "

First one responded with yet another one-liner "Haha, guess I'm just good like that."
Second one was much better and typed a paragraph that started with "haha, i love your sarcasm.... you dont lay it on thick, at all!! " and ended with her telling me to look her up on facebook (this was on myyearbook).

Guess I'll give that one the green light.

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Good stuff man. And myyearbook is a really good site IMO. I use it quite often and there's a lot of quality girls on there

Thanks for your input guys. Yeah I guess there's not much you can do apart from meeting them ASAP or maybe joking about how little they say as digidoyo did.
PUA Saint P where's the link? I wanna see the post lol...

sorry about that. i thought i got it in there.. here ya go

doesent-text-me-vt53819.html?highlight=

covers a lot of stuff.


feel free to PM me!

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I think you may be asking the wrong question. Yes it is annoying as hell when the responses are minimal. You should ask yourself if you want to meet someone not prepared to be open. Anyway if you think these closed types are worth pursuing here are a few suggestions.

Reply with even shorter texts! One girl I chatted to just gave one word answers so I started to use shorter words and went down to 1 letter at a time. It was weird but fun. I recall she started to text whole sentences shortly afterwards.

Another option is to rip into them , say something like - you're on this site to chat so why aren't you talkative? What's the problem?