Hey guys, i'm an absolute beginner with bad approach anxiety and i know i'm not ready to go into a whole set of routines and stuff, even if i open successfully!

so i really just want some openers where i can approach and then leave quite soon after so i can just get used to approaching and dealing with my approach anxiety.

i would be really grateful for some suggestions!!

Thanks!

A friend of mine had the bad habbit of mumbling when nervous ... so in order to get over this mumbling and as a verry minimal step concerning AA i suggested him to ask high profile girls the time , or a menu. Just to kick him into action and get him started somewhere.

U could try this as a bare minum sort of approach , if u think u are past this the maybe u could try the , "hey what is that u are having/drinking ?" question , a quick harmless in and out.

let us know how it goes

keruli

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First thing that i would suggest you to do is that dont go to straight openers yet if you are suffering from AA or you have little experience. Instead, try opinion openers. These openers are more under the radar sort of type and therefore its easier for you to start an " innocent " conversation. If you start wondering what opinion opener would be good than i would say that try Styles "Jealouse girlfriend". Its good, simpple and effective!

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I've actually tried out a few simple, quick "what is that your (having/buying/looking at) openers a couple of times with some good results as far as getting into a fast conversation. I always try to end this with a witty or creative comment meant to surprise her just a little bit (in a good way) as I walk away, just to work a little bit at my DHV or neg techniques. Something simple like, "you know, now that I think of it, my little sister has a T-shirt just like that, maybe she'll like this one too"

Do you guys think something like this would work to kind of end a quick opened set on? I feel that one works like a good little neg, but any thoughts?

A good way to get past approach anxiety is to ask real questions e.g
1. I'm trying to decide on a movie to see. Which do you think would be better, Movie A or Movie B?

2. I'm looking for a book to buy for a friend's party. Which do you think has a better selection bookstore A or B?

3. I've decided its time for a new cologne, what would you recommend?

If your goal is truly to approach then these are the perfect types of questions. They won't feel like you are trying to get laid, are easy to walk away from after the response, and based on the girl...might even turn into a legitimate conversation.

Yeah why not but i can see a big weakness in questions 1 and 2.
When you ask her " A or B " you usually ( 99 % ) get the asnwer " A " or " B ". If you are a beginner its hard to use that information because you only have one word to use inorder to wake her interest. Instead of giving her the options A or B try to modifie your guestion so that she aswers back with a sentence. Its easier for you to start a conversation when you have more data to use

[ Johnny B ]

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“The Truth About Approach Anxiety”

by Cory Skyy

Guys often ask me, “Cory, how do you teach your students to get over approach anxiety?”

The answer always amazes them.

“I don’t. There is no such thing as approach anxiety.”

I’ll admit it. I lose a lot of guys at this point. They think I’m crazy. Problem is, they’ve read reams of articles and posts by “community” guys on the internet and nothing—absolutely NOTHING—will convince them that there is no such thing as approach anxiety.

“Approach anxiety” is not a medical or scientific term. It was invented by the community to identify the feelings of nervousness guys feel when about to approach an attractive woman.

Well, I’m here to say that it’s all a bunch of B.S.

Even though many guys think I’m full of it when I say this, I don’t care. Because the ones who really “get it” stick around to hear what I have to say. This is the 2% who are willing to hear something different and aren’t brainwashed by a million internet posts.

These guys usually become my best students. They’re willing to think outside the community box and take chances on something that actually requires them to put in some effort.

Truth is, what I teach is not easy. It’s not for the faint of heart. It requires dedication, determination, persistence, and practice.

But the fact is, once I’m done with a student, he doesn’t even recognize the phrase “approach anxiety”.

When you walk through the world as a confident and powerful man… a man who drips sexuality everywhere he goes… you don’t need to approach. You don’t need lines. You don’t need hypnotic phrases. You don’t need routines.

It’s true. Attraction is the most normal gift given to all of humanity. It’s been around thousands of years before the first pickup “guru” wrote a post on the internet.

It’s within you right now. You were born with it.

So what’s the problem? It’s that society has taught you to hide the sexual giant that resides within you. We have been conditioned by B.S. “rules” that teach men to be whiny butt-kissers. When it comes time to actually exude some sexuality, the “rules” kick in—causing a conflict in our brains.

That’s where the anxiety comes from.

For example, I personally have zero “approach anxiety”. When I walk into a bar… heck, when I walk into a supermarket… women are immediately checking me out.

Any one of them are willing to talk to me so I don’t even need to walk up to them and start talking. Even in the supermarket, I can get them to hover near me by communicating sexuality through eye contact. I never even think about approaching.

This is what I teach my students.

And it’s powerful. Two years ago, if you told me I’d be teaching guys how to do this I would have said, “No way! You can’t teach that. You either have it or you don’t.”

But the results I get—from guys who initially thought I was full of B.S.—are stunning. I myself am constantly amazed at how many seemingly-hopeless guys can transform themselves from shaky balls of anxiety into men that drip sexuality… with just a little coaching.

Learn how to awaken the sexual giant within and you’ll forget what the phrase “approach anxiety” even means.