Ok , I usually don't ask for help, but I've come upon this problem like...every time I go out and I can't find a solution.

Basically, when you're talking to a girl at a bar or a club , and she's constantly being approached by guys she knows (and I'm assuming maybe hooked up with in the past) for mini conversations, what's the best thing to do?

I've tried two different ways but so far I feel like they're both pretty ineffective. First one is I just wait and let her finish the convo with the guy that randomly said hi to her. The other is if I'm drunk and impatient then I just say, "I'll talk to you later" and walk away from her. Both seem to suck. This is a HUGE sticking point because most girls I try to talk to are pretty good looking so they have a good amount of friends/ guys they used to see.

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"...so it goes"

What happens after you stick around?

If that isn't working for you, why don't you try to join in the converstation? Make sure to introduce yourself.

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Walk Hard

how about you introduce yourself to him, and enter the conversation?

rule the men...rule the women?

I see what you guys are saying, but to me completely honest, I couldn't care less about meeting any of those guys. I hate being fake and one thing I don't wanna do is talk to a guy and be fake nice just to get to the girl.

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"...so it goes"

If you ask for advice it would appease your troubled mind to listen to it. I am not your parents, and I won't fill your head full of shit.

Learning to listen is one of the hardest things in the world, and based on your response I can see you heard what we said, but you didn't listen to it. I would go so far as to assume you have many problems that stem from you not applying advice given to you.

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Walk Hard

I don't know if you know this, but there is such a thing as knowing what advice to take. Your advice was good, I liked it, but don't make such quick idiotic generalizations. I can make those too, watch!

I bet you're on these forums pretty much everyday, you probably get laid maybe once a month, and you're very frustrated in life. Also, you probably had a very lacking childhood considering you think that parents fill your head with shit.

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"...so it goes"

You are right about me.

I figured you would get offended. I'm sorry.

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Walk Hard

Just change how you see it man, instead of thinking your talking to the guy just to get the girl, think of it as being SOCIAL WITH EVERYONE AND EXPANDING YOUR SOCIAL SKILLS

Cheers,

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V3nu

I understand where you are coming from Patrick. I'm the same way in that I don't really care for some of the bs you have to go through to get the girl. But there are really only two options. The first, as others have suggested, is to dominate the guy breaking into the conversation. That takes a strong and confident frame and you have to pretend you give a crap (which i tend not to). The other option is to just eject and realize that if you don't want to put in the extra effort then you aren't going to win the "who has a bigger cock" (metaphorically) competition. There are plenty of other girls out there so I can understand not wanting to work that hard.

Yeah I think I've decided that if I don't like the girl that much I'm just not gonna bother sticking around. Thanks for all your replies. Including yours, Magnum45

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"...so it goes"