Hey there,

I have been a PUA for a while now - but as far as the whole relationship stance goes - I have always had a little trouble. So I am just seeking some advice.

1'st question
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I have been with this girl for around 2 months now and we are exclusive. When we first started dating - there was a guy she would talk to ALL the time (her boss from work).. and he would flirt with her - she wouldn't tell him off and she wouldn't do anything. Well apparently she had had feelings for him. We talked and i told her I wouldn't put up with that type of behavior and switched in alpha mode - telling her if she is going to continue this type of second class behavior and childish games that she is going to lose the real man and get stuck with someone half the man I am. I laid down the ground rules from the beginning... very clearly NO GAMES, LIES, SECOND CLASS BEHAVIOR and FLAKING/being late. SHe was breaking two. She knew it. She begged me to stay and chased after me all the way to the door begging me to come back. So I did and we talked it over. SOlved the issue. Moved on.

Well now she is txting this new guy (that is her old friend) but hadn't talked to or ever brought up before.. and now he keeps txting her little flirting messages and she isn't saying anything.. she told him she has a BF but that's all. But yeah.. kinda dont trust her too much because of the obvious last problem. But don't want to come across jealous and stuff. =/
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2'nd question
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Me and her hardly get intimate "sexy time". We have only done two sexual things together and have not yet had sex. Her parents are SUPER strict and she still lives at home. She is 19 and I am 21. She can't have anyone stay the night or even go into her room fro long periods without her parents coming upstairs and acting busy. We could go to my house - because my dad doesn't give a sh*t - but she can't stay out late AT ALL, and her parents call her like every 5 minutes after 7 o'clock. We have only done one thing in my car - and one in her bathroom when it was late.. but got interrupted by her parents coming downstairs.

Well she asked me the other night if I am bothered with the fact that we haven't had sex yet. I told her - I think about it sometimes - but I am in pretty good control of my physical emotions and it doesn't really BOTHER me. (I originally told her - she has to work to get sex from ME... in a joking way. - and she was surprised that I was in control of my sex drive and loved it. I can pull away for a couple seconds from a makeout and sutch). But she said she thinks about it also. SHe told me she thinks it's too soon still... however I have never been in a relationship this long without sex.. and I am somewhat getting tired of waiting... and the relationship DEF needs some spark, because it is starting to get boring. Should I set up a time and surprise her with some sexy time? Take her advice on "too soon"? Or just let things go as they are and find time?

With the sexy time, I wouldnt surprise her, especailly if she has mentioned its too early.
Just carry on making out, touch her softly and passionately, then later on, kiss her hard, touch her sexually, and drive her crazy till she says she wants you. Then let her say it and say it, then u can surprise her with sexy time one day.

I cant help with the other advice, my girl gets ex's and guys around her and txting her all the time. Im in the same pickle

Regarding number 1, to be honest man, sounds like you're on the verge of coming off as too jealous. When it comes to that kind of thing, you have to play it cool..if she realizes that it gets to you she'll keep rubbing it in your face over and over. Remember she's your gf and she wants to be with you not the other guy. My gf's ex still contacts her from time to time, and she'll tell me. When she tells me, I say things like ya, "you should go have dinner with him and after you can come over to my place for sex." Or if a guy is checking her out, for example, I'll say "hey look, that guy likes you, what is he thinking." If you let it bother you, it'll drive you crazy..but if you don't let it bother you, it'll drive her crazy. Which do you prefer?

good damn answer, about telling her about other guys and driving her crazy with why you're not jealous... Im writing that one down