So here's the situation. I was dating this girl for 2 years, we tried to do a long distance relationship for 5 months, it didnt work out. After two months of not talking, she texts me out of nowhere and tells me she wants me back, but that she isnt sure. I have some skill with girls I pick them up every so often but ive only done some random chicks at the mall a few times. My AA kills me sometimes but if I'm in a good setting and confident I can get them. Anyways a part of me wants to be back with her but another side says just hit it one more time and move on. I would like to get over my AA but it seems every time I try I fuck it up somehow. Any advice?

Long distance relationships don't work because of the lack of physical; however, you should do whatever you feel like is right. But don't get back in a relationship because you feel guilty, it will never work.

First and foremost... as a rule of thumb, it would be wrong to comment on long distance relationships unless you have been in many. Agreed?

I have been serving in the US NAVY for 6 years now... relationships have been an intense focus of mine as I see hundreds of divorces every year because of constant deployments.

3 part advice here:

1st... do not entertain any ideas of lack... if you WANT this relationship to work, geographical separation will not be an issue. The mind can overpower the body... if you are spiritually or mentally vibing with this chick, you and her will abstain until you meet again. I guess you could call that love, or pair-bonding.

2nd part, you need to CONSTANTLY work with your AA whether you are with this girl or another... it is the part of a man that makes you feel complete fucking alpha when you overcome or learn to deal with it as you mature as a man.

3rd... Any woman that comes crawling back like that can be pretty damn spot on assessed as having just broken up with another man or is just "in the moment" horny and looking for any "descent" cock to fill the hole and you happend to be in the grasp... you can switch this behavior of course. But from what you posted about this particular situation... that is what I am reading into it. Best bet... date other women, tell them your dating other women and learn the ways of the "dating life".

I know it is tough man, but the rewards are so much more amazing on the other side... work on yourself and everything else will fall into place.

PS: Have you read/watched "The Secret"? Download/youtube it... it will set you on the path for some amazing changes in overcoming your AA and not settling for less than you want.

-Cheers

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Havok
"He who hesitates, masturbates."

Wow thx for the advice guys. I happen to be in the Marines lol so I guess we could relate since your in the Navy. I see what you mean in she's in the moment but Im miles away so I don't think that's it. She did mention that she broke off with some other guy. It seems like she tries to make me jealous, but at this point I don't really give a fuck. But again thanks for the advice Ill check out that vid.