Hey guys,

Since breaking up with my girlfriend of 6 years, Ive been looking into ways of improving myself. I've been reading stuff like sex god method, and david shades manuals on sex.

Now I want to improve my relationship and how I am.

I'll explain a bit about myself and my relationship.
Im 24, and she's 20. She lives about 80 miles away in her 2nd year at university. I spend about 4 days down here and 4 days with her and she is the best girlfriend I've had in the way she treats me, the sex, and expresses herself.

Been together for 2 months, but we knew each other for a couple months before that I drove her crazy by not making any moves on her. I didnt sleep with her for ages too, I made her jealous, I wouldnt pay attention to her and she said I didnt run after her which made her like me more.
When we did have sex it was great, she says Im the best she's had, she cums alot and for some reason I believe her (thanks for the ebooks Ive been reading, they are so much help).

We told each other we love each other a week ago and both have never said it so quickly to anyone.

When she got with me, she was partly with someone else. They were on and off for a year, but never slept together and the reason I went for her is, because she would say she's unhappy and wanted to break up with him anyway.


Long story sorry


After she broke up with him, he carried on txting her, he got depressed and even once when I went up to travel and see her, he was calling and txting, and she didnt reply. and when we were sleeping after a long night, he got drunk and ended up coming to her house. just saying he's lonely and his family came to pick him up. she apologized so much, and wouldnt stop saying she's sorry. by about 9am and no sleep, she told me she loves me and we made love again and went to sleep.

I dont find him a threat at all, she said, he's a friend type. He's not very manly and I do get along with him also. I thought he was gay when we first met and I dont find him a threat. But the reason she wanted to break up with him was because she came back home (where me and her live) and she didnt want long distance. but now she's back at uni and Im the one who is long distance, but we still see each other 4 days on, 4 days off.


So that was 2 weeks ago.
Last night, I called her and she said she was going out. and txted me an hour later and said, she's out with her ex, his friends and his brother. she said I should have asked and do you mind?

I said I dont, and she said you mean so so much to me, I love you and wouldnt ever do anything to hurt you, Im saying this because I dont want you to not trust me and think Im hiding things.

and then I called her again this lunch time and she was out with him and his brother....

See, I dont not trust her, but I just dont like it. I wouldnt put up with it normally. Ive ignored her most the day and not txted her (im ill anyway) and I dont know what to say. Do I play fire with fire, and say Im gonna go see my ex, (which I have been planning on doing) and see how she likes it? or pretend it doesnt bother me, or what. I dont want to seem insecure, but I dont like the idea of her going out with him and his friends till late or things.

2 days in a row and them talking bothers me.


Plus, her 2 best friends are 2 of her ex's from years ago. and they are nice and again not threatened by them.


Sorry for rambling on, I have a flu, on meds and feel weird, so sorry about grammer and so on. Just need some help before she calls me.

I couldnt find anything on how do alpha males put up with there girlfriend's ex's or jealousy.


Thanks

When you say you see her 4 days and 4 days off (i'm assuming you don't live somewhere where there are 8 day week lol) which of those is 3 days? That's pretty good considering it is a long distance thing and the last thing you want to do is show her that you're worried. On the other hand, I think it is perfectly fine to tell her that her hanging out with her ex a lot (imo it does seem like a lot given the situation) makes you uncomfortable. If a girlfriend is aware that some of her actions make you uncomfortable and doesn't at least try to tone it down a little bit doesn't have the right attitude. Make sure she knows that its still okay to talk to him or w/e and that you appreciate it when she does tell you bc it shows she is honest and that way it makes her feel better about you and means she won't do it behind your back (either way she will still talk/see her ex there is nothing you can really do about that, you don't to make him some forbidden fantasy though).

I was in a similar situation where my gf at the time still went to school with my ex and would always try to talk to her/make moves...she did resist but would still text him back and have the occasional lunch with him i think. At the time I was perfectly content and didn't talk to my ex AT ALL. Thinking I should reciprocate the behavior to see how my ex feels about it when the tables turned i just simplay wrote "happy birthday!" on my ex's facebook wall on her bday. sure enough she wrote back "omg, how are you?? thank you! we need to hang out soon!" and when my gf at the time saw it she was FURIOUS that not only i talked to her but that both of their bdays are only a day apart (hers was the day before). I told her to relax and that if she was going to continue talking to her ex that I shouldn't be banned from talking to mine. I told her not to worry and that she is a 10x better gf and that we need to trust each other and help the other one out a little bit by toning down the communication btwn our exs and things seemed to improve a little after that. just as an example related to your situation.

actually, i'm trying to get back together with that gf (who i recently dumped), so if you can give me any advice i'd really appreciate it! >> how-do-i-navigate-this-situation-vt53021.html

Thanks for the reply.

Normally Ill stay for 3-4 nights and then head home for 3-4 nights, not splitting the week or anything. I just dont have work at this moment.

Thanks for the advice. I'll play it cool. She mentioned the brother was around for the weekend. If she see's him again then I'll mention it the way you said.
and I'm planning on seeing my ex again, so Ill play the fire on fire and see how she reacts to it and use it as to tone things down if she doesnt like it.

Bloody hell, after coming out of a relationship, Ive realised women are so difficult. Im ok at getting them in a group of friends, then there is keeping them, keeping it exciting and going through all the crap. and now I have to learn how to pick-up or flirt with girls, because she always has guys on her, so I think I should show she's not the only one who is attractive.

About getting your ex back, are you still in contact with her? Did things end badly?

yes, you are totally right. it is tough because girls will always have guys hitting on them regardless if they are single or not. but since us guys are usually the ones to make the initial contact or indicator of interest it makes it tougher when you are taken. if you have any girl "friends", hit them up on facebook if you have one getting them to post a reply on your wall. it is a great/unshady way to get your girlfriend to see that you still talk to other girls.

as far as my situation, i have it detailed out in the post i created if you click here >> how-do-i-navigate-this-situation-vt53021.html

Ah, didnt see the link. Not use to this forum.

Unfortunetly I dont have a facebook anymore, even though that would be a good idea when Im back on there.

Im gonna make another thread for some help, so glad I found this site, wish I found it before I got with a girl.

I guess, I should up my game, so when we go out I can flirt too. She knows most the guys because its her uni town and they normally always go to the same clubs.

Will check out your link, not that I can give good advice

yes, i feel like you need all the tools to demonstrate value when in a long distance relationship and facebook is a great one..get one asap! lol