hey guys, im new to this forum and wasjust looking for some advice.

Thursday night, i went downtown to a club, and met this girl in the line into the club who i had kinda met the week before. we hit it off, and decided to ditch the club before getting in and going to another one. we got in, went to the bar and chilled for like 45 minutes, i bought her a drink and then we decided to go back to my house for a late night party (i live in my frat). we were hanging out and i invited her up to take a shot, she came up, we took a shot and chilled for like 40 mins but i never made a move. we decided to go downstairs, and i walked her home 15 mins later and only got a kiss on the cheek for it.

the next night, i saw her at a frat party and we chilled on the couch for like an hour and a half, at which point she gave me her number without my asking. then she left and told me id see her the next night.

last night there was yet another party, only this time another guy moved in. i got my time in w her, but still she left w him that night bc i never made a move.

am i done or shud i keep trying?

-idiot

you have already waited too long. Make a move - best case you get somewhere, worst case you are in the same place you are right now - no action.

What do you have to lose?

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I got to get into this dude's pelt and crawl around for a few days. Who's the gopher's ally? His friends. The harmless squirrel and the friendly rabbit.

yeh you def. just waited too long. She already ditched the line, club, and after drinking at the bar to come back to your room to take shots... In most cases thats a red flag to make a move since if booze were her only goal she could've stayed in the bar and avoided an awkward bedroom.

I say leave it be and move on they're plenty of fish in the sea.

I can't figure for the life of me why you guys are so afraid to make the move when the girl is giving you all the signs of PUT IT ON ME!!!. I'm not going to say you're completely done. But at this point she's thinking your probably not interest or just too scary to make a move.
That guy she left with should have been you

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So u think you can handle this?

From what i understand its rather simple. Guys tend to start thinking too much about making the move hence crippling them of ever being able to do it from all the anxiety they build up for themselves...essentially their own worst enemy.

The best way to get over this bump in the road is bassically to think as little as possible about it and enjoy yourself and as soon as your mind starts considering it people have to just push through any anxiety to go for it... Unfortunately in-secure guys can be very very neurotic. Been there myself too in high school at one point so its something everybody has to get over to become a functional mature adult.

You're going to have to start recognizing the signs. She's not going to make the move for you. You've got to make it happen.
She' left the club with you then went back to your house.........Yeah......
you missed it big time

Set time limits for yourself set a 30 min limit for when you need to go for broke and make your move to kiss depending on the SPAM. Actually you can make the move to kiss sooner depending on the signs she's giving. Next time use a Stop watch if it helps. Then you pull it out in front of her and say "It's Time!!" --Then you go for it---

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Effort surpasses Talent, but of course I already have Talent I'm just putting Effort on Top of that

the other guy probably nailed her unless he pulled a you

Actually i like SouthernCross's Stop Watch idea. It'll give you extra boost to just do it
Good for peacocking too.

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So u think you can handle this?

The Stop Watch method has been SouthernCross tested and Approved!

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Effort surpasses Talent, but of course I already have Talent I'm just putting Effort on Top of that