Hi guys,

Hope youree all good.

I need a bit of advice for a friend of mine. She is a beautiful girl and has a pretty great boyfriend- they have been together nearly one year and are a great couple. The only thing which worries her about him is that he has never told her he loves her. He seems to and he shows his affections towards her and anyone who looks at them would assume they are in love. But he won't say it. And because he wont say it, she doesn't want to either. Just in case he actually doesn't love her and then she will be all embarrassed and look low value (she thinks).

He had a really fucked up relationship before her.

I'm just wondering if anyone has any ideas on why he hasn't said it? Do you reckon it's because he doesn't feel it or he's scared or something?

Any advice or opinions would be welcomed!!

Thanks heaps guys. =)

Sounds to me like the childish Mexican standoff

1 years a long time. It took me 6 months to say it to my ex, not because i didnt feel it but because i was saving it for a special moment and because i didnt necessarily feel it till about 3 months then decided to hold out a bit. It makes a guy feel very vulnerable but 1 years a very long time. Girls like to work for a guys affection...he might know this and be playing on it

People are different. Maybe the boyfriend is also insecure about saying it to her? If your friend clearly notices that her boyfriend loves her - I'd say that she should go for it. Of course, she should do it at the right time and place to make it more romantic. So for example, they're sitting all by themselves and watching a movie and cuddling or whatever. It's up to her.

But I'd say, advise her to go for it.

Halla,
maybe he feels the same way like she does. It's possible that he is waiting for her to say it first. If they are together for 1 year, its obvious that they love each other. If i was her i wouldn't hold it in, if she feels like saying it then she should. There is no need for a special occasion to say these words out loud. There are no right moments, neither right places, we make them right.
Cheers
Jez

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