Give me some ideas about responding to "Are you hitting on me?"

Give me your initial setting too.

Thanks dudes!

RAD

I'm known to be an asshole, I'm direct in my pick up but I always leave the girl guessing until the end if I'm interested in her or not.

If I came up and approached a girl and started fluffing and she says "are you hitting on me? I might say something like
"I kind of was at first but I don't think you are my type"

She goes "why" (or similar)

Me "well (insert her type: dancer, goth geek whatever and add some mean stereotype as a neg) your type are usually very ....... but hey if say you are different maybe I should give you a chance and let you prove it"

Her "yes I am different" (or some shit)

Me "So do you think this is just a false stereo type"

Her (I really dont care what she says)

Me "hmm thats interesting.. do you have more interesting view points? I got to get back to my friends now but we should hang out and debate this some day"

And then you number close

This is how I roll, it works and I have field tested this in many variations, it works.. try it out and let me know how it goes!

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I would probably just say: yes.
Thing is, it helps in the start by giving up lies that you are not interested etc. but she knows it just as you are, the only difference is that you haven't put up a word for it.

That is ok, and a really effective technique, but here is the deal. Once you start actually saying that you are hitting on her the game changes. Different rules apply, but even if you say it, that does not mean you cannot apply other techniques as push/pull.

For instance, this is an example of how I roll:

- Hi, you are attractive
- Oh, thanks. What is your name?
- Names are later, now I want to know why I should choose you.

It's basically the same scenario, if she doesn't meet my standards I'll leave, but she knows that she has my interest for my time being and that makes her want to keep it.

If you learn how to play that well it turns out (at least for me) to be more effective then her guessing how interested you are.

- Exerio

You understand the concept but I don't agree with the delivery. Outright telling her this tends to corner girls for an answer and you will often hear a negative response. Use your imagination . . . why not demonstrate that frame instead? Why not flirt with her? Men tend to VERBALIZE all their feelings. "I like you. I don't like you. I came to the party by driving down Spruce Street and then I took a left on to Center St. and then I took Route 91 on to this ramp with a few pot holes. I'm thirsty. You look hot. Why should I choose you? etc . . ."

How about instead, more in the line of:

"Jeeze, am I that obvious?. . . You're very perceptive. . . Would you like to hear my watered down version? . . . Oh, you must heard the, "Hi, how are you" pick up line often . . . Do you like being hit on? OK . . . ehm . . . how about, "Are you an angel? no, no . . . Is your father an angel? Who stole the stars from the sky and gave you a corneal implant? It goes something like that doesn't it?"

By sticking with the playful frame, you are basically asking her, "Why should I CHOOSE YOU?" but allowing her to feel comfortable enough to respond in a playful way.

Her answer will be obvious if she plays along with you. This is FLIRTING. If she doesn't know how to be playful with you, obviously, she doesn't qualify as your choice for the night.

True indeed, but this is all about the other persons reactions. I gave this example as a means to understand how I think, and that is something I also can do, under a specific setting. However, what you say varies, it does by no means make up a truth about what to say:)

- Exerio

Yeah, if she asks my name that early on (which may be an IOI, or just an auto-response, read the situation), my response is usually going to be:

"Whoa there tiger, slow down for a second, we just met, let's and see if we work our way to the "exchanging names" part."

Or something like that. Just re-frame it immediately that she's already chasing you.

Now you are turning back a notch, see now you are trying to make her guess if you are interested. It works as I said, but was really not the essence in what I was saying in my post;)

I'm new to PU... but with that being said, I strongly disagree you should just TELL her blatantly that you are interested, maybe unless you are naturally extremely good looking and have lots of wealth, etc.

You are supposed to be the PRIZE, right? So if she knows she already HAS the prize, then that definitely demonstrates lower value. Going up and saying "you're attractive" kind of, and I may be wrong, seems like you just went up to every girl and said that, hoping one would take the bite. Speaking from my personal perspective, girls that tell ME they like me right away kindof ruins the whole thing for me. It's the ones where I'm lying in bed at night wondering if this girl's really into me or not that really drive me crazy. The more time you spend on her mind, the more she's gonna feel attracted to you, and I think that goes for the short term pick up just the same.

Oh yeah, another thought just popped into my head. If she asks you if you're hitting on her, she probably isn't attracted to you yet, and you have more work to do. I'd work in some more push pull after that as opposed to just saying yes, to avoid the dreaded "well I have a boyfriend" response.

When I get the "Are you hitting on me" reply I usually one of the following:

"I don't know am I?
"No"
"Why, does it look like it?"
"I am?"
"You tell me."
"Should I?" or "Should I be?"

I say all of these things in a smart ass joking tone. I may even pull back or "back up" in delivery when I say these lines.

"yup" then move on

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For sure dude.

So what was the "essence" of what you were saying...elaborate

Great point you've made.

You want to be PLAYFUL with your negs.

Tell her your damn name.

Or if you want to tease her, tell her your name's Mystery or some stupid shit then be like "Hah I'm just kidding my name's John Smith, nice to meet you"

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If she hasn´t told her name yet when she asks this, try this:

HB: So are you hitting on me?
PUA: It seems you have a bad girl tendencys ( smiling )
HB: what, why?
PUA: Well usually people introduces themselves

[ Johnny B ]

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i think you guys think too much

a simple confident "yup" will work fine.

or a "ewww. you? nasty!" or something along those lines

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