hey everyone,

so i am pretty new to the town i am living in and i was invited to this party by some super cool guys, i was really nervous because i am still in school (6th form) and these guys/girls who would be there go to my school, so i wasn't planning on gaming, until i got more relaxed with 3 beers..

I wasn't drunk, but relaxed. I do not consider myself good looking. I am tall but kind of fat, however I think I have a pretty nice looking face Anyway the hottest girl in our entire year was talking to a pretty ugly guy who was clearly just her friend, even though he wanted more. So I said what the hell and went over. Best decision I made all night.

I opened with the "who lies more guys or girls" and she started spinning answers and so did he so i negged her and went off into a story of mine (slightly fabricated ) about how I was in the middle of a riot with some friends etc and basically it went on and she was so captivated! I was like shit this is working. I then put my hand around her waist and she moved closer to me, i then took her hand and squeezed...i prayed for what i wanted, this was critical. This would decide if it was working.

She squeezed back, hard. IoI.

This went on with lots of storys, i was mostly talking to the guy but still keeping her involved. We had kino escalated a lot so i said here let me show you something so i took her over ot underneath a tree (we were all outside) and she said i dont want to sit on the wet grass! I negged her about being a princess and said i would sacrifice and let her sit on my lap. She did. She also flung her arms around me and had her head under my chin (she had had nothing to drink for the record). I did the cube orutine and she was stunned....however she was too stunned. I took her inside and we sat on the couch then i went to the bathroom and i saw her crying. she grabbed me and started crying and said "she didnt like who she was" and something about her "inner demons". I didnt dare take it further but we did kiss a few times before that.

What should I do if i get a reaction like that again...? All my new friends were so impressed Plus, she is a very nice girl hopefully i will see her tomorrow.

Cheers,

- Memento

If shes embarressed( i kant spel) then chances are she wont even mention the whole crying thing. During your next meeting just actlike the crying thing didnt happen and it didnt affect how you feel about her. At this point if she talks about herself ( which she probably wil) just try to put the bits and pieces together. Or just don't care about that and just enjoy her company and just be positive.



If it happens again, chances are you've already have some kind of rapport. I'm not sure about this, I may go AFC on it, cuz I dont like to see girls cry. Put your arms out so she hugs you and say
"Damn I gotta watch what I say"...?

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JUSTINcredible!
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Thats what I did because at that point i could tell she was emotionally fragile (at least in that moment) and really needed a friend...so thats when she stopped becoming a target and became a person in need of consoling. Maybe i will just move on to the next HB i see unless she starts a conversation.

I am still very proud of myself though

- Memento

well you know, Targets are just people like you, and you know that.

Well I'm proud that you can see that. Not alot of guys look at girls like people.

If shes got issues to the point where she breaks in front of a party again then its probably best to move on.

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JUSTINcredible!
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Good work on the girl. Patiently keep up what got you there minus any canned material. Playfully remind her of jokes/interactions the last time you were together and lightly touch the bottom of her elbows when she laughs or smiles, if you are in proximity. This kino establishes positive associations with your touch. Don't overreact if she cries. Be cool, but human stability. I've heard from girls about how they want to be comforted when crying: tell them everything is alright, but don't ask them what's wrong. Let them decide if they want to make that your business.

good suggestions. remember, women love to feel safe, but not smothered.

i think you accomplished both. good job, and no, i think if you play right you wont get the crazy emo girl again.

its all in your own reactions. if you welcome emo, thats what youll get.
if you act comforting yet strong, you still get all the benefits minus any additional drama that might come up.