Found out that a notorious PUA has been the one cutting my grass...

Shes meeting up with him this weekend in the evening/.....how do i tell her that i know about them and that he's slept with every girl in the city...and she will just be the next one

All girls need to see a guy that's on his path. If you're becoming stagnant and not moving forward in your life, all girls will be turned off by that, not just her.

Your posts are worded like she is this thing you need to keep. "He's cutting my grass." "What can I say to her to change her mind."

Also you said "There is a lot of love involved" and yet you said "She's losing interest" "Tries to hide me" "Attracted to guys that move forward" right after. Maybe you described it all wrong, but going off this it sounds like you want her and she doesn't want you. Not a lot of love involved at all.

You can't say anything to her that will convince her to be attracted to you. Talks, words, anything without action or substance, is not going to change the way she feels.

Chasing her, convincing her with words, is going to confirm her feelings - you are not the guy for her. It sounds to me like you are at the point where she has to see you having a fun life with other people, and then subsequently desire to be a part of it. So yes you should stop focusing on her, get out and have fun.

Do you both have facebook? Fucking perfect way to DHV to the world and get other girls jealous with photos of you obviously having fun with other girls.

Thanks Conker...i do have facebook...and she has deleted me from hers..although she has kept all the pictures of us up.

I know what i need to do if were back together...but right now i broke up with her so in her eyes its my fault......even though she was going to do it aswell. So it seems that i must make the steps as she has been hurt ...mmmmm what to do what to do

Well, if it was me I would leave it and go have some fun. Too bad she deleted you from Facebook, but one day when she adds you again she will dive through your albums and see all the photos of you with other girls and she will become jealous. Exs always look at other ex's Facebook albums.

And in IRL you may catch up one time in the future, like a phone call to see how the other is going. She still sees you as a friend.

So yeah my feeling is that it's time to move on... that's not what you want to hear but that's all I got.

Although, if she's sitll your friend, and intends to keep going out to the same parties and stuff with you, heaps of opportunities to DHV and have fun.

Judging by her SMS response, I think that not only was breaking up the right thing to do, but you broke up with her in the best way possible. It may not need a reply, but she just poured her heart out to you so maybe it does. Maybe something like... I hope our friendship is improved by breaking up with each other... you have to come up with something really, though. I can't write it for you. Just pick a good frame of mind. I would say it's - there's too much water under the bridge but you still respect her as a friend.

If she thinks you want to keep her in the friend zone she will be more excited if things ever do start progressing past it. In the future though.

Thanks mate....right now i cant have her as a friend coz i couldnt bare seeing her with another guy...i know its a mental barrier i will have to at some stage overcome but the thought of her leaving me and running to the arms of another just doesnt sit well....

i cant give her all the benefits of friendship and not get the benefits of a girlfriend in return.. At the end of the day i have plenty of friends i needed a girlfriend not just another friend

Maybe it will have to be someone else?