Well basically I can have a really alpha attitude on the dance floor where I spread myself out and am basically the main man and have girls dance with me, sometimes they'll even grind their ass against my crotch, however, here is my sticking point when they come and do that, they won't neccessarily turn to face me yet it's obvious they're attracted to me so what do you do as the next step to face them and ultimately make out with them?

Thanks in advance.

If you keep dancing without doing anything it's like you're ignoring them

If you don't take them by the hand, or turn them around, or grab them by the waist, SOMETHING manly like "I'm taking what I want, in a fun way", of course they won't hang around.

If you learned real partner dancing this would be second nature to you..

Well I haven't actually. I'm told I'm just a good dancer but ok I'll bear your advice in mind. Cheers.

But yeah I was aware that not taking things forward was why they weren't staying, I was just wanting to know how I got about doing the next part such as making out etc.

this is definatly a flawed routine but it tends to work for me,
if a girl dances with me, i only notice the dancing - i wont appreciate their looks or the body, on the dance floor their dancing is what interests me.. i also rate my own dancing so every dance move they do, i try (and usually) do better... i will only do this for a minute or so, bit of a dance off , unusual for a guy to respond to a girl without showing any sexual interest.. then i will walk off, before they do. if i see them again letter in the night then maybe start some small talk - and then try to get a number close, but keeping the dance floor to dancing and leavin.. i tend to find the girls will want to find yu later on because they cant understand my lack of interest. this only works in certain scenarios bt its worth a try nice one x

Sound.

But like I said, it also was the problem when they approach and start grinding where I don't always know what to do next but I think I have a hint of what to do now.

You just gotta get physical can go different ways - you can respond just as sexually or you can play it cool and get her to do some dance moves with you.

If nothing is coming to you, I strongly advise taking up some dancing classes. Either hip hop (single dancing) or Modern Jive (partner dancing), I do both. You don't have to go to many classes, you just need to rehearse a few moves over and over It helps to have both. You sweep a girl off her feet with the partner dancing in key moments, and you just have fun and build attraction with the hip hop for the majority of the time.

But next time just do whatever comes to you. You can only learn. Once you know like 5 physical things you could do, you can just do it with confidence without even thinking about it.


BIG TIP - I see so many guys who've taken partner dancing classes, and they don't have the balls to actually have a decent dance with a girl. Most guys are so afraid of initiating the contact and getting the dance going, that they keep doing this "on and off" thing where they do a few moves, she half heartedly does them with him cause she's shy, the guy immediately thinks she wants to stop so he stops and does this embarassed laugh, or says something with a smile, but the girl doesn't leave, so they start again, and she's still a bit limp wristed, so they stop again, etc. etc. till finally she politely declines him. She's just shy, she's giving the chance for you to sweep her off her feet, that's all you need. If she's limp wristed, give her encouragement, I always say things like "Wow you're really picking this up!" or they stuff up and I laugh and hug them and keep going right into the next move, things like that. Her being shy is PERFECT - she's being the clueless girl while this awesome man comes in and sweeps her off her feet, shows her how its done. She loves to feel bemused.