Today I was asked a question from someone I give a lot of advice too; and it led into a big discussion as I too am encountering the same problem.

It made me think - if were both seeing the following happen; how many of us are? Must be a few, or at least a few have experienced it. And it's not an easy problem to answer.


The incoming threat. The guy who you can see has a few pua (naturally or who runs game) traits, and has set his sights on your girl. He flirts, he pulls out the stops to get YOUR girl.

NO PROBLEM. You AMOG him, chat to him, be totally civil - all the while having your girl there and showing the solidness of your relationship. Show NO insecurities to her about it. All the while sending signals that you are a cool, POWERFUL guy in control - and this is a relationship he can't fuck up.

HOWEVER. Here's the discussion.

What about those ones you CAN'T push out. The ones say at your gf's college or place of work. The ones who facebook. Msn. Text. BUT NEVER meet otherwise.

How do you successfully kill of someone who could possibly cause a problem (no matter how secure, a PUA with strong game can lead a decent majority of women astray from their relationship) when you can never meet them and show those traits.

Traits that would normally back him away AND show your woman who the REAL man is.

So heres are discussion. I'll chime in with my thoughts after a few posts.

WHAT would YOU do? when a guy see's your girl EVERYDAY, texts, facebooks, msn's flirts and clearly obvious game material - but you never meet him.

How do you disable the threat.

Riot.

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Using situational openers?
Throwing yourself in?
Able to flow conversationally from every good or bad comment they make?
That's the way its done.
The only game is natural game.

This is a tough one! and is prob happening more then most of us think...with facbook and texting its very easy for a guy to contact your women with out you knowing. I know guys hit on my gf all the time on facebook but there is not much I can do.

The one rule that both my gf and I have is no hanging out with somone of the opposite sex alone when the other is not around...you can hang out in groups with people but not alone. Why? well its simple because for the most part two people of the opposite sex dont hang out alone if one or both of them dont have some attraction to each other.

I mean how mad would you be If your gf said a guy was coming over to her house to hang out and watch a movie with her alone? yeah you would be pissed....and if the role was the other way around she would to...so this rule just seems like a no brainer to my gf and I.

Other then that Im not sure what you can do...I mean this is a tough one!

Well this one is pretty tough but what I like to do when I notice a guy flirting with my girl in any way i simply tell her.

I've been in situations where a guy is downright hitting on my girl I come in agressive showing the alpha male in me and they just back off it's the funniest thing ever.

As for texting or any other form of communication where I can't show who's the boss I simply tell her I think this guy likes you and how I can recognize certain patterns in guys when they are attracted to women. All this being said in an unnaffected way showing no jealousy so i won't seem insecure because that's the last thing i want to do. That always works for me and my girl stops talking to them instantly.

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Easy, I date girls who are mature enough to recognize and avoid situations that would make them vulnerable to that type of advance.

The trick, of course, is figuring out a way to distinguish those girls from those who would give in to that type of "game." I am pretty sure that's something that only experience can teach you.

Your boy,
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been going through this recently. really though to handle and girls so stupid they would think its jus a friend while the guy is jus preparing the situation for when they meet. i don't know how to handle it yet but when i find a way i'll share.

right now i looking at the way of just ignoring her when anything with fb comes up since i already told her the guy's lookin for something. i'll see how it goes

same stuff happens with my girl, shes naive to the fact that these guys like her. I'm good enough to spot whos in the friendzone and whos not, so far I haven't had any problems. Theres guys who literally text and fb her all the time, the problem is that theyre afc, and she will try to be nice and say stuff like I'm busy, or no I cant this weekend. I let her know, to an afc I'm busy means I'll try back next week, so shes been more blunt about it.

The real problem is deep down every girl is insecure and likes attention (doesnt matter if shes a 1 or a 10) she doesn't want the guy, she just wants to be wanted. Mix that with an AFC that just doesn't get it. You get problems... huge ones.


My only solution is push-pull, but thats really the basis of every relationship.....

I emotionally punish her will the pull part of it. were both pretty affectionate towards each other, and have awesome chemistry, so even without being all over each other were still best friends. so i pull back emotionally, I'm not talking a freeze out or anything, because we still have amazing conversations, and have fun. I just don't call her baby, and all the cute things she wants to hear. Its funny because she gets so confused because we'll be having so much fun doing something or we'll have like a long conversation, and she'll randomly be like "you haven't called me baby at all tonight " I pretend like I didn't even notice and say something like "I think I did earlier, I don't really think about it when I call you it, it just happens." Then it goes back to normal,

even though shes confused about it all after a while subconsciously it sinks in that its a result of that. One time she was crying when we were arguing and she was like "I'm sorry I always push you away, I don't like when you don't call me baby because of those guys that don't matter" which to me sounds like success!!

also during this I kind of change my body language, I still hold her hand and stuff I just don't kiss her on the forehead and goofy soft stuff like that.

moral of the story with push pull, and problems. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. Don't say you have a problems with it, subtly and confidently show it (without getting jealous)

NOTE: I've learned in past relationship, don't completely shut her out, and run away. She'll only run to other people. Still be there, at least enough to let her know youre not leaving, just don't reward her


btw I know this is pretty detailed, this might not work for every girl (but it should for most because theyre insecure....) I just know my girl and what makes her tick.





speaking of this type of stuff, check out Anthony Robbins "ultimate relationship program" its weird because alot of pua stuff correlates with what he talks about with what partners want, and need. Alot of stuff will make sense, and you'll see problems that you can relate to.