This is bad because?

I know you are infatuated with this girl, you do not love her as much as you think you do, but you should have broken contact with her after you where infatuated with her. Because as you have seen what it can do to you when you are head over heels for someone else that is not even into you and only sees you as a friend. And when you do talk to her, don't tell her that you have feelings for her, that is only going to make things worse than they are. I know you want to express them and what have you, but do you really want more drama from this and have your emotions messed with even more? I don't think so. Tell her that you want to break contact with her after her having sex with your friend. It be a much better cover for you and your emotions.

I know what I said may sound dickish, but I am more taking the tough love route as you need it. There are loads of other girls out there. And do you really want a girl that cheats?

Jurupa, I love your response. I think it makes perfect sense. And you know what? I'm gonna take your advice. I'll use the sex as a cover for breaking contact with her. I'll just tell her something like: Yeah... You've been cheating on your boyfriend and lying to your friends.. That's something I cannot tolerate... bla bla..

I should have done this a long time ago.

It has been done.

I have talked to my best friend today (September 26th). I have officially broken contact with her. It didn't go so well. I've never seen anybody cry that much over me. She cried for a very long time, hugged me, kissed me and told me she loves me very much.

Now it's time for me to move on somehow. I've been crying a lot these last few days, but today was the worst day of my life. I don't know how to proceed from here.

Does anybody know any good ways of moving on? I really need some help with this..

Use the pain to help you become an Alpha Male.

No true Alpha Male exists that wasn't shattered in their prior "life."

You need to give it some time, dont block ur emotions (it doesnt help), cry if you need to, talk about it, dont hide that ure going tru smth that fucked up. But dont make the mistake of staying at home and think only about that. Life goes on eventho sometimes it doesnt make sense at all. Go out with your friends, try to have fun- at the beginning it will be more of 'pretending that you have fun' but at some point you will start enjoying yourself again.

Yup... whatever fucks you up, you can fuck it back

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“A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes.”

Love this. I hope this actually works. Has this happened to you before, so you know that it will 100 % work?

Zentrode,
sometime ago something pretty fucked up happen to me and yea, it was bad. I had a couple of days wadering around without direction, i didnt wanna sleep, neither i wanted to wake up and have another day like the one before. I gave it time and pretty soon i realized that its not worthy and it doesnt make sense to waste my time with depression. One day i just woke up and it was gone, that feeling i mean... and i started enjoying my life again, and i gotta tell you, after that kinda crap it feels even better:) You gotta learn not to let your feelings for one person to control your whole life, there are way to many things that need your attetion too. If you can learn how to smile because of the sake of it ... u have it all When you think about it ...well whos the person you spend the most time with? Yourself... just take care of that person cos u got a whole life to live and share with him (in your case)/her
There are way too many things that can be said about how you should keep on living and smiling ... but i will stop here and let you find your own reasons and why you are actually a happy person
P.s The least you can do is ... go out and celebrate that you are young !
Cheers
Jez

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Your welcome. Just keep in mind the next time you have a crush on a girl that it is just that a crush. You do not actually love the girl.

I agree. Its not good to hold in your emotions as that alone will mess with you. I also think taking some "me" time is also a good thing to do. Taking a couple of days doing nothing around the house, while you sort out your emotions is a good thing. You may not be able to deal with all of your emotions, but at least you get to deal with some of them on your own.

This is day 2 since I broke contact with her.

It's a PAIN people... She contacts me on Facebook all the time and really really wants to resolve this. I have deleted her phone number, and everything that reminds me of her (including our friendship on Facebook). She still finds ways to contact me and talk about it.

Seriously, what should I do?! I can't get over her if she keeps contacting me...

Tell her to stop, plain and simple.

Be careful now.

All that kissing and hugging may not have been meant for you. It's very likely she epitomises you as everything she's lost and is going to continue to lose, due to all her bad actions. You have shown her what her actions have brought.

If even you, the little toy boy that accompanied her along to everything, cannot like her, who will?

And yet this is probably what it will take for her to clean up her act and respect what she has.

Move on, but don't be an arse about it. If she has a reason to hate you, she will convince herself you're just not as nice as she thought you were and she won't learn her lesson.

Maybe in a year, if you two bump into each other, you can see if she's cleaned up her act.

Mate, my personal opinion on that kinda situations is... if you want to listen to what she wants to say, then do it. You shouldn't stop yourself from the things you want, if you feel the need to talk to her when she is trying to contact you, then do it. Now is the time to start thinking about YOURSELF, do whatever makes you feel better. If you dont want her to talk to you anymore and when she does that brings only pain to your life then tell her to stop and to respect your personal space.
Does that make sense to you ?
When it comes to me, i do the things that make me smile or that help me clear my mind, if i wonder ' Should i do it?' i do it without analyzing too much, cos i just hate wondering ' WHAT IF?'. It works for me ...maybe it can work for you too.
Cheers
Jez

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Here is what I want: I miss her SO much and I would love to talk to her. However, this is what I fear: If I talk to her, I'll risk becoming her friend again.

And if I become her friend again, I'm afraid similar things will start to happen again. The jealousy would simply kill me slowly. So I want to talk to her, but I don't wanna be friends with her again. Does that make sense at all....?

listen to that. YOU NEED NOTHING ELSE MAN!

good luck

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