As some of you might know, I've been posting threads about the one-itis I have on my best friend (let's call her Jessica).

So Jessica, me and 2 more friends went to Berlin for partying purposes and sarging. Of course, when I'm sarging I'm not paying so much attention to what my friends are up to.

This is what happened: My friend (let's say Kyle) got really really drunk that night. Unfortunately, so did my best friend that I'm in love with, Jessica.

It ended up with the fact that Jessica fucked Kyle. She was totally over him. He even said NO to her, but she continued arousing him until he gave up.

Why am I bothered if she had a little sex then? Well, Jessica has a boyfriend that she is engaged to. So first of all, my heart got broken. Shattered. Completely destroyed. And second of all, she was cheating on her boyfriend that she claims to love from the bottom of her heart. Of course, he doesn't know about this yet.

I've never felt so depressed in my entire life. Feels like nobody's experienced any love stories that ended up as tragic as mine. Kyle also feels like shit because he let himself to this. He is disgusted and so depressed right now. We all feel like shit - except for Jessica. She doesn't fucking mind this. She doesn't even regret it. As a matter of fact, she wants to do it again with him because she enjoyed it!

What am I going to do now (if there's anything to do)? Should I simply not care?

The reason I'm asking is because my heart is broken and I don't know what to do. I just need somebody to tell me something.

Anything...

This is tough, and I understand the misery that goes along with watching your friends do something you know they shouldn't.
If I can offer any sort of solace to this situation, you might need to be very honest with yourself and her.
Firstly, find out all you can about these feelings for her, put it into perspective and decide whether this is something you can benefit from by pursuing.
Secondly, as her best friend you need to let her know how you feel regarding your feelings for her, and your feelings for what she's done. If you both respect eachother this won't be as harsh or umcomfortable as you think.
Be a good friend to her and talk to her. If you don't you might regret it forever.

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I feel sorry for you, I really do. This is a situation I wouldn't want to live in. I would probably get rid of the contact with the girl or at least telling her how things is. However, being in love with your best friend is tough no matter what. I wish you the best, and hope you get over this soon!

Best of luck,
Exerio

No! he has nothing to say to her about it because it doesn't concern him and she doesn't owe him an explaination about what happened.

Zentrode that unfortunate that happen. But lets look at the facts you were so afraid of rejection that you hid the fact you liked her.

You need to sit down reflect on your actions and think about what you did wrong and why this girl who you were in love with had no clue your were interested in her. You're going to have to get over fear of rejection or you might yourself in the same situation with the next girl. At the end of it all your responsible for your own actions and no one elses.

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I can't tell her how I feel... This is because she loves her boyfriend and by telling her that I love her as well, she will only get confused. There is no point in telling her!

I just .... Don't know what to do next. Should I break contact with her? Because if I do that, I won't have to live through all the pain that I'm feeling and my feelings for her will probably disappear after a while. Or?

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I really appreciate this mate...

good advice

good advice

Now thats a really tough situation mate. In my opinion, the only thing that might help you feel a bit better is talking. First of all we are talking about your best friend here, right? Its not just the girl you are in love with. I believe that friendship comes first, so maybe talk with her about what she has done as a friend, tell her how you feel about it. Its not true that she has nothing to explain, friends are taking big part of each others life.
I am not an expert and for sure i dont know all about love but how come that she loves her boyfriend and anyway she cheats on him? In my opinion if someone's cheating, that person's missing something in his/her current relationship (love, sex, adventure , something).
I am a bit confused by all that has happened to you mate and i really hope that you will soon feel better. So my advice is talk with her about what has happened as a friend. If you decide you can also tell her about your feelings. Recently i learned something from one of the members here, talking about your feelings is not that bad. If you tell her you can get a positive reaction, it might be negative too, but whatever happens you will at least know what's happening and you will have some kind of closure. Actually finally telling the person you love 'i love you (or i am in love with you ...)' is a big relief.

Wish you the best luck !
Jez

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Thank you for the post, Jezebel. You have helped me a lot. She does not miss anything in her relationship. According to her - it's perfect! She is just a very horny and wild person in life, that's all.

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Unfortunately, my friends have decided to BREAK ALL CONTACT with her. I am gonna talk to her on Monday about this, and basically break contact with her as well.
Gonna tell her all about how I feel and why I'm doing this. And then it's through with us. She will be nobody to me after the conversation.
Like I said earlier: If I break contact with her, I won't have to go through all the jealousy and pain in life.

I will update you all on Monday on how this will go. There is no turning back now.

That just proves the fact you were never truly her friend to begin with.
She hooked up with your friend you're jealous and now your abandoning her and you manage to convince all your other friends to abandon her also.
And its all because she didn't act the way you wanted her too. Welcome to the real world man

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Actually Reo, it's the other way around. It took my friends a LONG TIME to convince me to let her go. To break contact with her. This is because they've been planning this from the start.

I'm actually still uncertain if I should do this or not...

We all have met people like that.

And what I have learned in my short life is that breaking away sooner is better than breaking away later.

Really, stay away from her. It's really easy to make friends, it's letting go that's hard.

And as douche baggy as this sounds, that's why you have to have standards for who your friends are.

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Personally, when shit like this happens, I find it impossible to simple ignore someone. It's not me. So, what I do, if they are unwilling to talk, is simply write. I'll write a big ass email, explaining everything I want to say. I won't even care if they read it. It just gets everything out, and then you can move on. Otherwise you WILL be stuck with those feelings that you never were able to let out.

Just get everything you need to say out FIRST before breaking contact. It will put your mind at ease, or else you will go INSANE!!!

I'm gonna talk to her today.

So I should just tell her how I feel, and why I'm breaking contact with her? I'll explain everything that has bothered me etc. It's gonna take several hours but I will conclude with "I'm leaving you as a friend".

Anybody that disagrees with this, please tell me now and give good reasons for it as well!