Hey guys,

Been gaming this HB9 recently who is actually a friend from college. We never did anything before and we were pretty good friends then. I never minded just being her friend cuz i had other things going on the side. We have graduated recently and I have been hanging out with her once every week or two. About a month ago we went to dinner and I noticed her giving a lot of IOI's (playing with her hair, eye contact, playfully hitting me, grabbing my arm during conversation etc.) At the end of the night when I dropped her off we were sitting talking which eventually led to me k-closing. I saw her a few nights later again and we hooked up again. Things were going really good and we were texting a lot. Just recently I found out she has had a bf the whole time. She never told me I found out from someone else.

Recently we haven't been talking as much, sometimes she doesn't respond at all which is when I refuse to contact her again until she contacts me (which always ends up being a couple days later). Also when I ask her to go to dinner or something she always seems to have an excuse why she can't but bitches about how mad she is she can't go. I'm thinking she is feeling guilty about the bf and doesn't want to see me again because she knows we'll hook up. I feel like if she just didn't like me she wouldn't keep contacting me back when I dead her. Also I usually only see her on weeknights (I think the weekend is the BF time)

So what do I do? I really like this girl and I don't want her to stop talking to me if she likes me to because of this bum (The kid is 23 and has no job, while I have a very well paying job and go to school at night). Is there a way to break them up?

I think the next time I see her I'm gonna call her out on it, but in a joking manner as if it doesn't bother me and that she likes me better than her bf etc. But how do I get her to hang out with me again. She is very strong willed and I know that if she's feeling guilty she really won't try to hang out with me.

I appreciate any help or comments you guys have.