I love my boyfriend, I really do. But I just lost someone very close and special to me and I am havi a hard time dealing with it. Everything my bf says or does upset me- I guess I am taking it all the wrong way because I know his intention is not to hurt me. I cry heaps of the time and go through stages of not wanting to talk to him or anyone (this lasts about 3 days or so) and then he will be really sweet and I realise that I want him. The main thing I am worried about is losing him. I am trying not to cry so much but I seem to have no control. I try not to let what he says get to me but it does. I dont want him to decide I'm a psycopath and leave me because I'm not worht the effort. And I am hoping that I wont break up with him and then in a few days decide I want him back but can't have him anymore. Any ideas on how to deal?

Stop running from your painful emotions. There's no reason to hide how you feel with the person you love. If they love you, they will be there to comfort you. Your current method of "trying" to withhold it is just going to bottle this up to a blow up in your boyfriend's face when he says something you don't like. At which point he will think your psycho.

Part of a healthy relationship is being upfront with how you feel. This also includes telling him that some of the things he says upsets you. This gives you both a chance to help one another and push through.

Bottling up your emotions definately wont help. When youve lost someone you need time to mourn. Each person mourns in different ways. Some need people around them whereas others like time alone.

Understand that your boyfriend may be feeling so helpless at this time which is not uncommon. He may be trying his hardest to comfort and help you, but may be getting frustrated that no matter what he does you are still upset. This comes down to men having a tendency to want to solve problems, and if they cant they feel less of a man...(read men are from mars).... So his intentions may be in the right direction but his method may need some refining. One of the hardest things for a guy to do is to step back and say..'hey my girl needs some time alone, and im going to give it to her, but as soon as she needs my shoulder im going to give it to her' This method of thinking is in essence "bad game" for him BUT at this critical stage in your life when someone has passed away its vital that he is there for you...

Explain to him, that you love him immensely and that you love that he is around to support you through this time, but that there are times when you would like to grieve on your own, and that it has nothing whatsoever to do with him or the relationship (keep him thinking that he is a great man) , but thats just the way you grieve. Tell him that the best way to support you would be to be there for you but also give you space to grieve.

As for what he says thats so wrong i dont know, perhaps he could just be getting frustrated at what he seems is his own inability to help.

If any guy leaves you because you cry due to the loss of someone then he is not worth your time....stop thinking this way

Thanks for that guys. It has helped me try and understand where he is coming from. I know it's hard for him too but I really believe our relationship is strong enough to survive this. Thank you!