| I made the commitment tonight to open 5 sets. Unfortunately, I only made it through 4 and 2 were warm opens and none really hooked. My opener for the night was from Herbal: "Which is better, crunchy or creamy peanut butter?" Here are the play by plays:
Set 1: warm open 2 girls
First set was a warm open with 2 girls my friends met last night (I was tired and left early). We were sitting at a table and they saw my friend and came over. He introduced them to me withing 30 seconds. Neither was very hot (both 6.5s) so I picked one randomly to be my target. I quickly modified the peanut butter opener to a fight my roomate and I got into about pb and asked the entire group. Both girls said creamy, but I only negged HB_Target for it. They told me they were studying to be guidance councilors and I negged HB_Target for taking such an easy job by relating it to a high school teacher who compared being a guidance councilor to retiring early. I told a story about how I just graduated college, but my real job doesn't start until November so I still just show up to classes I'm not actually taking, and how I almost got caught the other day. I wanted to follow this story with a story about my job (pilot) and some of the crazy things I've done in airplanes, but she didn't ask about what my job would be and I felt it would be too braggy if I just brought it up. I started getting IOIs (leaning in, re-engaging the conversation, playfulness) from HB_NotTarget and HB_Target began talking to my friend. I thought I had gone too far with the negs and directed my stories too much towards HB_NotTarget. I figured that I should just try to continue practicing so I started to focus on HB_NotTarget. After a few more minutes of fluffing, the girls went to get a drink. They came back intermittently while we were still at the bar. Then, on our way out, HB_Target came by and used some callback humor on the peanut butter and said she had changed her mind to crunchy (crunchy was my choice). I was on my way out, so I put a hand on her waist and told her maybe we could be friends after all, hugged her and walked towards the door.
Set 2: mixed set, 2 girls 1 guy
As I was on my way towards the door I decided that I was not going to get to my goal of 5 sets if I only had the one warm set as we were leaving the first bar, so I decided I had to open another before leaving. As I was walking towards the door, I saw this very cute HB9 with an HB7 and a guy that I decided to open. I walked past them and as I was passing threw the peanut butter opener over the shoulder to the guy. As they began to answer I turned towards them and one after another each said that they prefer creamy. I negged the entire group for their poor choice, but then I felt I had no way to continue from there so I ejected and went to the next bar.
Set 3: Warm open 3 girls 1 guy.
I met the guy and one of the girls HB_Brunette on Tuesday. It was the guys birthday and HB_Brunette is his sister. They are from the same hometown as a friend who was with me (both on Tuesday and tonight). I won't go into the details of the first meeting, but the guy and I are friendly and the sister smiling and jokingly called me a dick when I got there (is that good or bad?). I grabbed her, gave her a hug, and jokingly told her I was the nicest person she's ever met. I tried some kino escalation, touching her hip, her arm, her shoulder, and trying to be cocky funny. When I ran out of things to say, she would immediately turn to a friend and start talking to her/him. I figured I would try running Styles 5 questions game, but she didn't seem interested enough to want to try a game. I ended up walking away to find someone else to talk to.
I ended up talking briefly to several other people, but these were all situational openers which didn't hook. Because of the nonchalance of them, I don't remember them adequately enough to write anything about them.
Set 4: Cold Approach 2 guys 2 girls
I was leaving the second bar and walking home thinking about how I'd done and dejected that I hadn't met my goal of 5 sets. In fact there was only 1 cold open in all of it. I decided I had to try and get to 5 by the time I got home. I saw a set of 2 guys and 2 girls walking down the street as I neared my house. I had a very negative emotion, I wouldn't call it nervousness, but more like a dejected failure. Ouch, that hurts just to write. But anyways, I threw out the peanut butter opener. Everyone said crunchy, including a girl who followed it up with, "Wait, I'm allergic to peanuts." I thought that was amusing, but then they just kept walking, I went into my house .... several sets short.
So, this was my first night of commitment to sarging. I would love whatever pointers, insights, and reassurances you can offer. What looks way wrong, what looks okay, what looks good. You don't have to worry about hurting my feelings, I just want to learn.
Thanks,
sploit
edit:
I would also like to add that I kept my drinking to a bare minimum (2 drinks over 4 hours) and my friends found it strange. They kept wanting me to drink quicker and I felt weird about telling them that I didn't want to drink so that I could work on improving with girls sober. I simply said, "It's not a race, I'll drink what I want." But 1 beer every two hours was a little too slow for him. Has anyone had experience with something like this?
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