I'm an undergrad student and have been teaching two twins in high school for the past year. I connect well with one and not with the other(Let's call them A & B). I know A quite well. One month ago, I straight up told her how I felt about her(one-itis) and she reciprocated it. We talked for a few hours each day for a week and a half(phone, in person,and sometimes messenger). Since I had known her for a while, going into about intimate stuff was no problem. We talked about what kind of lingerie she likes and wears, how long it'd take her to be comfortable about sex, personal life, etc. I felt we were on the familiarity level of GF/BF already(that may be my error in this whole business-we had loads of chemistry.

So after that week and a half, her sister finds out about what we've been doing,especially the sex talk. She freaks out and goes nuts with me, threatening to sick her brother on me(who happens to train in MMA and is more muscular). She basically gives me the ultimatum of dropping it and just keep tutoring them. What pissed me off was she never asked her sister(A) how she felt.

3 weeks go by and I'm teaching them all the while. I still talk to A, but she claims now that she has no more feelings for me. I think otherwise because of her behavior towards me and body language. She says she now likes this other guy, whom we talked about (this is the reason she was still ambivalent about me; I'm 3 years older than A and whereas he is 2 but she felt a bit uncomfortable going out with me because I don't know her friends whereas this guy does). I tell A let me have a date or two with her, and her sister barely agrees.I'm going out with her this weekend or the next and I wanted some advice that would help me change her mind. I know she doens't like this other person as much because she's told me.

Any advice?I am already planning for us to cook dinner together and watch a movie at home.

this thread wreaks of nonsense.

pretty much TL;DR is:

I mix business and pleasure

I work too slow

I'm a pussy

I submit my reality to the girls reality

I like to talk about my feelings




did i miss anything?

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If you say so.but you know, I think flaming should be saved for private messages.

Its not flaming.

I pointed out every key weakness in your game based on the information provided.


You'd be wise to listen.

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Sure,I'd be wise to listen.But all you basically did was pick apart mine without even explaining what parts were wrong.If I had asked for that,it would have been fine but I'm simply asking for constructive advice. I think it might be a good idea if you didn't post in this thread again,seeing as what you say doens't help my situation.

okay, lets make the obvious connections between what i said and your sugar coated reality.
this is more a rule of thumb, no reason to try things romantically with people you essentially work for.
Speed it up if you're gonna make a move. Delay causes the most issues. you can ALWAYS tone back, but its really hard to tone forward (if at all possible).
BE A MAN. Get what you want.
You allowed the twin to control your actions, instead of trying to disarm her. don't be hostile. appreciate how much she cares for her sister, point out "nothings going to happen that we both don't want to happen" and carry on as if nothing happened.
you actually talked to her about how she felt about you....seriously? SRSLY?!!?!?!

You need to be calm collected, and unattainable, not handed over on a paper plate (silver platters are too appealing for this metaphor)


this is all basics.

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ok,thanks.Next?

is there an issue with this advice?

or is it you're dead set on looking for a line that can fix everything instead of accepting that you still need to improve yourself?

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