Hi,

Long story short.
I met this girl and SHE kinda asks me out.
So we go out, talk on the phone, text each other... this goes on for 2 weeks.

At some point I had lots of work to do (and she knows it) so we don't talk for like 3 or 4 days. After that I call her and ask her do you want to go out?. She says "mmm Friday night I already have things with friends... blah blah" I didn't like that response since she was on the chase... but OK.

She calls me on Saturday we go out. She's acting strange and distant, sending text messages and so. I know what that means.
Next, I confront her about it and try to know whats going on. She acts and says things like: "I've done nothing wrong"
Since that it got cold.

Well who cares? Next... And we don't talk for some days.
I was ok until e a friend of her told me something.

But! Thing is I care, and I did like her and she liked me too.
I was with her and some other friends today (didn't know she would be there)
I think her friend invited me on purpose just because of that.
I say hi and act cool (just to let her know I'm not on sale ). I pull a chair from another table and she makes room for me next to her. She's more quiet than usual. And it seems like we are strangers.

So what do you think about it?
I'm 50/50 on giving it another chance (if there still is any) or just say... "F***" it!!!" and move on.

Ps: she did tell me to call her "some day"...

Thanks

Hi DoubleDee,

sometimes, you should just see the initiative on her sight as an IOI. This doesnt mean she's just gonna drag your ass all the way to a F-close.

Forget about her chasing you, just start running some serious game as you would on any hard to get double bitch shielded and cockblock surrounded HB. Not to hard of course, that might freak her out, but you can at least hold her at the previous commitment of going out with you.

Sail on!

Bucc.

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She got buyer's remorse and now she finds it hard to tell you that she doesn't want you any more.

Instead of showing interest in her, rather, hit on her friend, go out with her friend/ other girls - let it cool down, then

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Then, if she doesn't, instinctually come back to you out of jealousy plotline, etc, leave her a nod of existence from you and you'll have a higher value initially.

Just that a girl shows interest in you doesn't mean you have to return it 2 times as much.

Rather, give a girl half of what she gives you.

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I think Know what happened here. It's happened to me.

Two weeks of texting and chatting is a bit too long in my opinion if you haven't even kiss closed her. She probably knows a little too much about you. In other words all the mystery about you has suddenly vanished. By the time you actually hung out she was no longer in a state of attraction - and I think you know what it means when she is texting someone while you're on a date with her -Yep she's texting another guy.

Now if he pulled the trigger before you - boom her attraction suddenly vanishes...

Unfortunately, it probably wasn't a good thing you called her out either - if you wanna get into her panties. She will ALWAYS deny it and plus because you weren't actually dating her so you have no right to complain.

Why does she still want to hang out with you? Cos you're the guy she fancied but didn't have the confidence to close her. Now you're her best buddy. And she'll want to hang out with you if you can prove to her you're not a sick little emotional puppy dog who still has feelings for her. If you can't control those feelings for her she will avoid you like the plague.

Conclusions
-You missed a window of opportunity by not hanging out with her sooner and exuding the confidence she was looking for.
-You spent too long in the texting/speaking to her phase, probably SPAM too much of your life.
- You called her out on her other guy friend, i.e. being emotionally punishing, but anyway by this point it was probably over.

Oh well, learn from it.

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I have an idea of what's up (she's what I call a fish hook/attention whore). And what I did wrong...

I'm giving what I get from her. I just dont know if I'm being to distant and uninterested. Not that I care that much (it's a 50/50), but I just dont know if it's the best thing to do in this kind of situation.

Ny way learning from this is more or less my intention. It's easier to learn with impartial opinions and advice.



Thanks

Great advice...

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Thanks brosepity.

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