Heres the situation guys
At a bit of a small drink up, her this guy and myself.
We start geting drinks, we get drunk. short story i end up having to lok after her now the whole time she is giving me ioi's - taking hat, geting close etc but she seems to have up this huge bitch shield.
She would say this to me a lot "hey pua why are you helping me, i dont even know you" this after a look of serious rapport building. Then "Hey why arent you tyring to hit on me" So what do i do? i try to work in more comfort talking about future plans a bit of philosophies on life star sign etc but for some reason i keep geting the i dont know you.

So guys can you tell me what things i could do to get girls to go, oh we so know each other. Because even though i am not going for this mates oneitis i do know this is definately going to pop up on a sarge sometime soon.

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Why did she call you pua? Does she know you read stuff like MM? I think she's into you looking to challenge your on wits. So if she says something like "hey pua why are you helping me, i dont even know you" reply something like "haha because your drunk and I'm going to bill you later" and "why arn't you trying to hit on me" quickly reply something like "haha and why should I be into you?" and watch the convo flow from that.
In my experience humorous banter scores big points.
Note that your tone must be relaxed and obvious you making light fun.

Some girls just get like that when they're drunk.
Even trying to build more rapport by opening yourself up more won't really help because she's drunk. Everything would have been forgotten or it would've lost it's value by the next day, most likely.

"Why are you helping me, I don't even know you" - I don't know you either, but luckily I'm a good guy.
"Why aren't you trying to hit on me" - I don't hit on drunk girls/ You're not my type/Some sort of disqualifier...

If you get this with a sober girl, where she's constantly blocking herself off like this then you'll have to just be more genuine and plough through. She's suspicious of your intentions. Just sit back and be calm, joke around a bit and slowly open up a bit more. It's likely that she's feeling that you know a fair bit about her and she knows nothing about you, or not enough about you to be comfortable around you. So less routines and more genuine heart to heart.

[Why did she call you pua?]
Sorry man she actually called me by my pua pseudonym which i was experimenting with recently (Rain) which she knows is not my real name but sticks with it anyway lol

Does she know you read stuff like MM? I think she's into you looking to challenge your on wits. So if she says something like "hey pua why are you helping me, i dont even know you" reply something like "haha because your drunk and I'm going to bill you later" and "why arn't you trying to hit on me" quickly reply something like "haha and why should I be into you?" and watch the convo flow from that.
In my experience humorous banter scores big points.
Note that your tone must be relaxed and obvious you making light fun.[/quote]

Dude!!!! dammit!
You described it perfectly although when she said the whole "why arent you trying to hit on me" i replied with "look at the shirt" (she was with me when i bought the shirt that says "i dont need a shirt to tell you im gay")
To that she replied with "your not gay i can tell"
an update to that is that she has started asking her other friends about me although all those friends know is that im "very sexually active"

hmm should i get her number and try and set up a meet or just keep being cool and assemalating into their circle

oh yeah i forgot to say this is a whole new circle of friends that i have just been introduced into by a mate who i just got into the community.

Thanx for the thoughts, keep them coming =)

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It takes a lot of balls to dump your old life and move forward ....... it also involves a period of loneliness which i have am figuring out sucks

I think your in. Maybe ask her out to a club or something with a bunch other of people(her friends and yours cause shes less likely to flake out). After a few drink isolate her and make a move. I like the dance floor especially if there is hip hop or R and B music because girls love that stuff. Shawty got low, low, low

I get the number off of her friend
Now she is being very philosophical and logical and piecing apart every joke
Basically being a bitch!
Is this her way of saving face for being seen at her lowest drinking and stuff while i took care of her? (she was puking and going to hurt herself)
Have taken the liberty of organising a bit of a gathering with booze and a few other girls at a friend of hers. Im thinking that i should be totally unfazed by everything again like i was before. She called me a contradiction for caring??? Does this mean i telegraphed interest too soon or that i dressed too rockstar to be giving a damn about her?

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It takes a lot of balls to dump your old life and move forward ....... it also involves a period of loneliness which i have am figuring out sucks

Shes sounding insecure. If this gathering goes ahead I think after you've both had a few drinks and her guard is down you should isolate her on a bed away from everyone.
In my experience she probably has issues and wants someone to make her feel secure so when your on the bed talk to her then hold her and stroke her hair/ rubbing her back(MM kino) but don't go in for the kiss just wait. I think doing this will build a connection and attraction because she'll see you as guy not just into sex and after a while you guys will probably be horizontal and making out on the bed.
I think you should be careful because I think if you sleep with her she'll become attached and be a headache afterward hence a "pump and dump" with this girl is not a good idea.
I've never met this girl so don't follow my advice to the letter just use it if you feel the situation warrants it. Haha good luck and may the force be with you.

Girls from my (small) hometown used to throw that line out all the time. "What are you talking to her for? Do you know her?"

It took me until years later to figure out what the hell they meant by it. Basically, small-minded small town girls aren't used to smooth fellas that they don't know socialising with them. They come from an environment where everybody knows everybody, and nobody new enters the circle after the age of 17. Anyone who tries to get in is suspicious and a potential threat.

Comfort building is key in your situation. Give her some of your family background, let her know that you have human parents and relations just like her.